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"The Old Man and the Sea": "Every day is a new day, and of course it is good to be lucky, but I would rather do it without difference." In this way, when luck comes, I am ready. ”
Everyone wants to be lucky, they all want to be lucky, but if you don't do anything, luck is a very random thing, either don't come, or you can't catch it.
It is not that after making preparations, there will be good luck, but after making preparations, even if there is no good luck, you can live well; if you have the blessing of good luck, you will live better.
For the management of marriage, this truth needs to be used. When you are ready when you are single, you are more likely to meet true love; when you are ready before marriage, you have more ways to deal with problems in marriage.
Many people don't know that when you are ready for later life, good luck will come invisibly. The reason why some couples love each other and are enviable is because they are "lucky". The "good luck" mentioned here should be attributed to the preparation of two people for life.
The reason why there are more and more problems between the couple below is because the preparation of the two people is not sufficient, let's take a look at it together.
Hello Mr. Donglin:
My ex-husband sent a circle of friends like this: "Finally divorced, but I'm not happy." Without an ex-wife, it is better to live than to die. ”
After I saw it, I silently nodded my thumbs up. Liked because I felt the same way.
Before the divorce, we both said that we had had enough of each other, agreed that we could not live our lives, and both wanted to divorce. But I really divorced, only to find that I couldn't get out of it, because the problems between us were not solved.
I was more dependent on him, somewhat clingy, and every time I wanted him to accompany me, I wanted him to be by my side in time. However, after getting married, his work became more and more busy, and he rarely had time to spend with me.
In the beginning, I pretended to be a good wife and mother, told him to be busy, and accompanied me when I was not busy. But after a long time, I don't want to lie to myself anymore. I need him by my side, why lie? Why didn't he accompany me? Why did you turn a deaf ear to me after marrying me?
And when I expressed this meaning, his temper was very big, saying that I was too strong, too indifferent to his feelings: "You said that I was busy before, and now you say that I don't care about your feelings, what do you want to do?" Don't I work with you all day? What if you don't have the money to spend it? ”
His words made me angry, feeling that he had not listened carefully to me at all. I just wanted him to spend more time with me, and I didn't say let him be with me all the time, and I felt more and more that he was impatient with me.
We quarreled and quarreled over this kind of problem, and finally he said that he was tired, and he said that he really couldn't get by and get a divorce!
Obviously it was his fault, he didn't admit his mistake and wanted to divorce me, of course I couldn't stand it. At that time, I wanted to gamble like I said that I would leave, and I had had enough anyway.
I don't understand why I am so unhappy after the divorce, my heart is still worried about the previous problems, I always feel that the problems have not been solved, and my heart is like a big stone hanging. He should have felt the same way, otherwise he wouldn't have sent a circle of friends to say that.
In addition, I liked his circle of friends, and there was a little selfishness: I wanted him to take the initiative to contact me after he saw it, so that we could sit down and have a good chat.
I don't know if he didn't see it or pretended not to see it, it's been two hours, and he hasn't looked for me yet. You say, will he look for me?
Donglin Xiting Emotional Advice:
Divorce is never a good solution to marital problems, and no marital problem can be solved through divorce.
The reason is simple: divorce just puts the problem on hold. If it can't be solved, it won't be solved, and it will be scattered in one shot and two.
This is not to say that no couple should divorce, but if there is no deep hatred between husband and wife, there is no principle problem that must not be divorced, there is no divorce road, because this does not solve the problem, the problem before divorce will be brought to the divorce, and neither of them will be happy.
The problem between the couple above is not a deep hatred, but only a lack of patience, lack of effective communication, and lack of tolerance.
If you let them treat the problems between them with a calm state after divorce, it is easy to solve the problems. They were really too impulsive, too impetuous, and they were going to divorce without a word, but there was no need.
I think they can remarry, and I think that since two people feel the same way, whoever contacts them first is the same. For that woman, she actually doesn't have to wait for her ex-husband to contact her, she can take the initiative to contact her ex-husband and have a good chat about the problems between them.
As long as the husband and wife are truly in love, there is no need to care about the problem of "who takes the initiative first", do not always think about who takes the initiative first, who loses, who loses, and should focus on the method of solving the problem. At the same time, do not mention divorce as soon as you encounter problems, but should try to solve the problem, really can not solve or really unwilling to solve, and it is not too late to divorce.