Yi Shu said: Maybe when a person is really helpless, in addition to smiling, he can only smile.
This sentence applies well to Xiao Lu's mother in the TV series "Dear Child".
In the face of the new daughter-in-law who visited her for the first time, The heart of Xiao's mother-to-be, the mother-to-be, was complicated.
A lover who can be snatched away is not a lover
The marriage between Xiao Lu (played by Qin Hao) and Fang Yinuo (played by Ren Suxi) has come to an end.
I remembered Yi Shu's words: The grievances that can be said are not grievances, and the lovers who can be snatched away are not lovers.
The most unavoidable thing in the world is people.
Professor Zeng Shiqiang said: Where a person is, the heart is not necessarily there. Where a man's heart is, the man must be there.
The failed marriage of Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo, in the final analysis, in addition to money, is more of a discord between the three views of two people, plus not enough love.
Men are always more desperate than women.
When his daughter Hehe was 4 years old, Xiao Lu already had a young and beautiful little girlfriend Dong Fan (played by Xie Keyin) by his side.
Xiao Lu is indeed a man who is easy to move on. No matter what his heart is, the action is always like a rocket.
One second he sent Fang Yinuo home, and the next second he had already driven away. When the divorce was signed, Fang Yinuo took a phone call, and he signed the letter.
Such a man, it is not too easy to reopen a relationship.
Yishu said: Any woman leaving you is not a sudden decision. People's hearts are slowly getting cold, and the leaves are gradually turning yellow. The story is written slowly to the end, and love becomes unloved because there are too many disappointments
There is no reason for love
Dong Fan, who is young and beautiful and gentle, what does she really like Xiao Lu for?
Why would such an unmarried and beautiful young girl look up to a divorced man who is divorced for two years.
From Dong Fan's point of view, Xiao Lu is indeed a mature and stable man, who has a house and a car, and a successful career. At that time, Xiao Lu had already become the middle-level leader of the enterprise, and after the divorce, he also changed the big car.
In Dong Fan's vision, Xiao Lu has strong work ability, good temperament, reasonable appearance, knowledgeable and interesting, and is not very macho. He will also take time off to go on vacation for Dong Fan at his busiest time. In contrast, when Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child, he refused to ask for leave. It's really ironic.
Judging from xiao lu and Zhu Zhu's relationship, it is known that Xiao Lu has a very good set of young girls. He would take the young Zhu Zhu out to eat street stalls, flip over the fence, send surprise small gifts, and listen to the girls' reasonable suggestions, and also do what they liked. These are the romances in the eyes of a little girl.
In the chicken feathers of the previous marriage, under Dong Fan's perspective, how much can she know? I have not experienced marriage, and naturally I do not know the cruel side of mutual harm in marriage.
The presentation of these advantages, everything looks like a perfect score. It was normal for Dong Fan, a young girl, to be in love.
The new daughter-in-law meets the mother-in-law
The new daughter-in-law visits her mother-in-law for the first time. Dong Fan came to visit her mother-in-law with gifts, she was dressed appropriately, wearing a white shirt with a T-shirt underneath, full of smiles, took the initiative to greet Gao Caiping very politely, and looked like a gentle and decent woman. Such a daughter-in-law is simply a perfect score.
Let's take a look at the reaction of Gao Caiping, the mother-in-law-to-be.
Before Dong Fan came, Gao Caiping prepared a dinner party at home. Count carefully and there are 5 dishes in total. Of the 5 courses, there is only one big dish, which is fish.
Others are vegetarian dishes such as shredded potatoes and tofu.
It is said that from a meal can be seen the owner's intentions. There is no harm without contrast.
On the other hand, Fang Yinuo, who also visited her mother-in-law for the first time, also prepared various gifts. Xie Tianhua's (played by Nie Yuan) mother prepared a full table of 10 dishes.
In the words of Fang Yinuo's mother-in-law, this is a courtesy number. Behind the number of gifts, it is a proof of the mother-in-law's attitude and love for her daughter-in-law.
Not disliked
The new daughter-in-law came to the door, and Gao Caiping did three things.
First, in addition to cooking 5 dishes, she also deliberately put out the family photos of her granddaughter and Fang Yinuo before, and she was not worried that her new daughter-in-law would be angry.
The second thing, seeing the young and beautiful Dong Fan, Gao Caiping did not receive warmly, but lukewarmly came a sentence "Huh", after which she turned around and walked into the kitchen.
Dong Fan actually felt the strange appearance of the mother-in-law, and she was still smiling and giggling.
The third thing, at the dinner table, she took the initiative to break the deadlock and praised the delicious food made by her mother-in-law. Gao Caiping was not happy, and directly said indifferently: I don't know you are coming, I have not prepared, and the rice I cooked is not delicious, so I eat it together.
After reading these three things, people will think that Gao Caiping does not like this new daughter-in-law?
There are reasons for not liking Dong Fan. After all, Gao Caiping is a traditional female elder, her husband has passed away for so many years, she did not remarry and remarry, but chose to bring up two sons alone.
In her concept, she must think that the original match is better. And she liked Fang Yinuo's daughter-in-law from the bottom of her heart, not only because she was a teacher, but also because she admired Fang Yinuo.
In addition, her sons Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo have daughter Hehe, and as a grandmother, she still hopes that her son's family can break the mirror and reunite. If at this time, the son remarries, it is naturally impossible to break the mirror and reunite, and it will be difficult for her to have the opportunity to see her granddaughter.
A closer look will find that in fact, the mother-in-law does not dislike Dong Fan. This can be seen from these 3 details.
First, Ms. Gao Caiping is an elder who wants to love face, saying that she does not know that Dong Fan is coming, in fact, she has already placed 4 pairs of dishes and chopsticks in advance.
Second, when she saw her youngest son Xiao Xu lying on the sofa, she said that she was too busy to be dizzy.
Third, Gao Caiping said that the dishes she cooked were not delicious. This point is recognized by Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo, and her level of cooking is indeed not high.
These three details are enough to prove that Gao Caiping likes Dong Fan. In the first detail, Gao Caiping prepared 4 pairs of dishes and chopsticks, indicating that she accepted Dong Fan in her heart.
Behind Gao Caiping's 'huh' is actually like Dong Fan, she did not expect Dong Fan to be so decent and gentle. Gao Caiping is an elder who loves face, and naturally cannot reflect her liking on her face, which is also her cute side.
The second detail, she said, was so busy that she was very busy, and from the clean new tablecloth, it was clear that she cared a lot about this parent meeting. If she really didn't care, she could have ordered takeout without cleaning up her room.
In the third detail, she emphasizes that the food she cooks is not delicious. What seems to be deliberate is actually just a temptation. Although she only cooked 5 dishes, as well as tofu and shredded potatoes, in fact, the meal at this table was already beyond the norm, and she had already played super normally. From that steamed fish, you can see that she has done it very hard.
Although there are no 10 large dishes like Fang Yinuo.
Dong Fan was at Xiao Lu's house, and he was definitely received by Gao Caiping with high standards.
It's just that at present, Gao Cai ping's mouth is hard to face. The reason why he was cold and indifferent, he still held a hint of the idea of remarrying his son. If she knew that her former daughter-in-law Fang Yinuo was also meeting her parents, then her attitude towards Dong Fan would definitely be different.
Why didn't Gao Caiping worry that Dong Fan would give her a look in the future? The mother-in-law's attitude towards her daughter-in-law is mainly decided by her son.
From the beginning of entering the door, Xiao Lu has been looking at his mother's face, and has also taken the initiative to pick vegetables for his mother to eat.
Gao Caiping naturally has a feeling of "being on top", she actually does not dislike Dong Fan in her heart, but is worried that Dong Fan is too young and beautiful and uncertain, the two people will not last long, and her heart is biased towards her daughter-in-law. This is also the common sentiment of human beings.
Although Gao Caiping's mother-in-law looks senseless and unreliable, she is simple, cute, kind and sensible.
She and Dong Fan, the new daughter-in-law, will most likely not have a mother-in-law problem.
She is also just an ordinary mother, and she hopes that her son's second marriage can be happy.
The arrival of Dong Fan means that his sons Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo can no longer continue the frontier in their lives.
It is not bad to be okay with each other and restart a new life.
Yi Shu said: In the journey of fate, the time for everyone to perform is prescribed, and it is destined in the dark, and when it is time to leave, how reluctant to leave, but also to leave.