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Yesterday, Brother Shi called back in advance to say that he wanted to socialize, and I did not tell him to drink less. I'm used to his late return in recent days. Because of the impact of the epidemic, all walks of life are not easy to do, and middle-aged people with families and mouths are struggling and struggling.
We just changed houses, and my income has fallen sharply, and the pressure to repay the loan is all on him.
It is good that men are a little stressed, and Brother Shi is very motivated, but he suffers from the lack of good opportunities.
I have never interfered in his work, given him more freedom in the marriage relationship, and I have supported his career as much as he has supported my work. So more often, I'm understanding + understanding, he's going to do something, talk to me, and then I won't ask any more questions.
I also rarely take the initiative to call him, my mother-in-law is used to waiting for him to come back at night to eat, and I usually eat when I want to eat, I don't think there is any need to wait, he will come back when he should come back.
Why do you have to wait for him to come back and eat? Isn't it hard for him to come back at ten o'clock in the evening, and you have to wait until ten o'clock?
Let him go, the two people in the marriage relationship still maintain corresponding independence.
I was not the first love of my earlier years, at that time so naïve, he did not come back I usually more than a dozen phone calls, one after another, I will also shout at the telephone handpiece "If you don't come back, don't come back", I waited for him to wait for the brain to make up one bitter love drama after another, thinking about wrong, life is completely centered on him.
But now I am completely different from before, he does not call me late, I don't care, I should eat and eat, I should work, I should accompany my children with my children. My emotions will no longer be swayed by his late return. I occasionally cared about him, and I wasn't sad that his message didn't return, so I just fell back and slept.
There was nothing I couldn't sleep, I was tired all day, and he was a big man who could arrange himself.
When it's time to come back, it's time to come back.
From love to marriage to having two children, one of my biggest changes in dealing with my marital relationship with him is to give him the corresponding freedom, everything depends on whether he is self-disciplined, and I can manage myself. I have a lot of things, I don't have time to think too much, I don't have time to doubt anything, it doesn't make sense.
I just need to have a firm grip on what I can hold on to.
A man is not a good husband, not a pipe out, he is an adult, let him go.
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At nine o'clock last night, I hurriedly ended the party with friends and rushed home, the mother-in-law made a video call saying that she was entangled with my girlfriend, she thought I was sneaking away, she forgot about me after a while, but who knew that she sat in the car and cried and let the mother-in-law go to me, as soon as she came home, she cried, she could not speak, but she knew that her mother was not at home, but she did not know where her mother went.
As soon as I got home, she hugged her thighs and said "hug", I hugged her tightly and couldn't help but put my mouth on her little face and kiss her. Brother Shi has not yet returned, my daughter is one year and three months old, but she does not care whether her father comes back or not, she only cares about her mother, she knows that her mother is the one who sleeps with her at night to feed her.
Only my son thought of his father, he took my mobile phone to Send WeChat voice to Brother Shi: Dad, why don't you come back, you don't come back I decided to sleep with my mother Ha, you come back I will sleep with you, you don't come back I sleep with whom, right.
The little guy is milky, the person is small and big, and the words he says are particularly funny.
I didn't think Brother Shi came home late, knowing that he was busy, and if he didn't come back, I would play with the two children and coax them to sleep separately. My mother-in-law was very worried, she did not get through the phone, I comforted her: "Mom, it is time to sleep, don't wait, you wait he is busy drinking with customers, it is inconvenient." There is no need to fight, it is time to sleep. ”
After getting married, I felt that there was no need to "wait for the man to come home", not that I didn't love him, not that I didn't worry, or that I didn't care, but that my life was no longer centered on him. I'm also very busy, busy kids busy with work, and he's a man five years older than me, he can handle everything, and I trust him to naturally not worry about anything.
In the past, TV dramas always staged a man who did not love to go home and a crazy woman waiting at home, I did not understand, why wait? Why is it that he eats and drinks with his friends outside, and you can obviously be very relaxed at home, how can you abuse yourself like a complaining woman?
For the man who returns late, you should say what you have to say, and the rest is left to him.
Don't worry too much, don't wait, what to do, should sleep and sleep, you are not not necessary to worry about everything for him, you are just his wife and his children's mother, you also have a lot of things to be busy, you are going to work tomorrow to be busy for a day, why waste so much time on waiting?
After almost six years of marriage, my heart is strong enough.
It's not that I don't love him anymore, but I know him better, I know the corresponding independence in marriage, I know better, a good man, never you can manage it, there is no need for this, give him freedom, if it is really like you said that one day the marriage has a problem, then the two people are good to get together and disperse.
But in the case that both sides are very good, do not be suspicious, and live well.
03
I know that men who drink outside are even more uncomfortable, and I can understand his hardships and hardships.
Our home is very warm, and Brother Shi wants to go home early, but he has to fight. After switching from outside the island to the island, he fought harder, because the down payment of the house was out of my head, and he had to be responsible for repaying the mortgage. I personally feel that it is still necessary to let the man have a little pressure, there is pressure to have motivation, I have forgiven him enough, the rest is up to him, I don't let him worry about two children, I don't need him to give me any living expenses, raising children does not need him to pay money, he only needs to pay off the mortgage regularly to manage himself.
At twelve o'clock in the evening, after coaxing the two children to sleep, I was a little tired and lay in bed editing the notes of the little sweet potato. I was as calm as the sea, waiting for him to come home, but I still didn't call him. After another half an hour, Brother Shi called, and it was a woman's voice: I am a colleague of Qizhen, he is drunk, and now the three of us have sent him back. He drank too much and I couldn't do anything but call you on his phone. Can you pick it up downstairs later? I don't know which one it is?
My heart was still, and I saw that my girlfriend was sleeping soundly and went out in her pajamas.
It was still early to go out, close to one o'clock in the morning, and I waited at the door of the community with my mobile phone.
I didn't think much of it, and I didn't think much about it, because I knew he wouldn't, and I was incredibly sure of our feelings, but I knew he must be uncomfortable tonight and would vomit to death. After waiting for more than ten minutes, the car came, I looked through the window, and Brother Shi was drunk and smoking and talking nonsense: My wife, it is my wife who is coming, is it not?
He weighs more than 130 pounds, and if I were to carry it alone, I wouldn't be able to carry it.
Fortunately, his leader was also there, and the people were tall and tall, and the three of us had a hard time putting him in.
"My wife, my wife has come to pick me up."
"Well, I know you have a wife, I didn't see you last time, your wife is good, young and beautiful."
He led and helped me carry him to bed, thanks to the leader 185, very powerful.
I was embarrassed, even sorry, said that he was also under a lot of pressure, and apologized and thanked him to the leader. By the time I sent his leader and female colleagues away and back to the bedroom, he was already asleep. I poured him water and pushed him, he couldn't push it, just leave it alone, let him sleep together.
At more than two o'clock in the morning, Brother Shi hurriedly ran into the toilet and began to vomit, presumably churning in his stomach and pouring into the sea, and he really couldn't stay up. He never threw up, didn't make a mess and asked me to clean up for him, and if he could run into the toilet, he would rush into the toilet.
My girlfriend woke up, I had to breastfeed, and I didn't have time to get up to see him.
The mother-in-law got up, poured him water, and vomited for more than ten minutes, but it was finally cleaner. He went to my son's room to sleep, and presumably he also felt that he was full of wine and smelly, disturbing me and the child.
At one or two o'clock in the morning, my husband's late return, I know his difficulties, what can give him is respect, care and understanding. In fact, men also have men's not easy, no one wants to get drunk outside, sometimes there is no way, can he not be uncomfortable drinking? But many times, business is talked about at the wine table, and calling you over is drinking.
I would tell him more: pay more attention to your body, drink once a month, pay more attention.
I don't care about the rest, he fights his, I fight mine, and we all maintain the corresponding independence in the marriage. I don't suspect anything, I'm sure of our love, and I believe in his character, and if one day in the future, our marriage really has a rift, and then talk about what happens after that. But until then, I will not be blind and there is no need to suspect.
Everyone is very busy, the epidemic situation is not good, the money is too difficult to earn, two people have to twist into a rope to continue to fight forward.
In marriage, running your life and career well, and running yourself well, is the most important thing.
Don't care about men, let him go, it's all self-discipline.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.