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There are many couples who have conflicts before marriage because of the bride price. Marriage to the bride price is a custom of marriage in China, although there are many people who do not like the bride price now, think that this custom is not good, and want to abandon it. However, there are still many families who have the custom of giving bride price.
The bride price is still a matter of attitude, which is not terrible in itself, but some people who want to avoid giving the bride price will find a lot of excuses. There will be many new tricks to let the dowry money return to their hands.
Xiaoqin met a strange mother-in-law, she and her husband Ma Liang encountered the problem of bride price before marriage, the mother-in-law's attitude is very resolute, the bride price is resolutely not given. However, later, I didn't know what happened to my mother-in-law's attitude, and I proposed to give a bride price. Xiaoqin did not expect that this bride price was actually a troublesome thing, and her husband was also involved. Let's take a look at Violin's personal experience.
01. The two meet and fall in love
Xiaoqin and Ma Liang can say that their lives have not intersected at all before they met, and the two are neither classmates in college nor colleagues at work, the two met on the train. Because at that time, Xiaoqin returned to her hometown, bought a ticket for an ordinary train, and there was nothing on the car, and then she met Ma Liang, because the two just got off at the same place, and they were also fellow countrymen.
I thought that the encounter of this train journey was also an accident, but after separating at the train station, the two did not think that there would be any further intersection. However, when Xiaoqin was helping her parents to see the store in her own supermarket, Xiaoqin and Ma Liang met again, and the two chatted together for a while and found that Ma Liang lived near here. The two felt that this was both fate, so they left each other's contact information.
In the days that followed, the two often contacted each other and returned to the city where they had originally worked together, and their lives intersected with each other. Ma Liang will often find Xiaoqin to chat, and Xiaoqin also feels that Ma Liang is very interesting when he speaks, and will have a good feeling for Ma Liang. It didn't take long for the two to be together.
Soon after they were together, the two lived together, at this time Xiaoqin had not yet discovered any shortcomings of Ma Liang, all aspects of the feeling is still good, after two years together, Xiaoqin and Ma Liang decided to get married.
02. The bride price thing caused an accident
Ma Liang is very good at saying that when meeting with Xiaoqin's family, Ma Liang coaxed the Xiaoqin family to be very happy, and the Xiaoqin family's initial impression of Ma Liang was not bad.
The first time the parents of the two families met, they felt good, and then it was time to discuss the matter of marriage, Ma Liang and Xiaoqin began to prepare for some post-marriage things early to prepare for their new home. The two were also very happy to buy a wedding ring together, and some gold and silver jewelry, Ma Liang and Xiaoqin were even sweeter these days.
I thought that the marriage would go very smoothly, but there was a mistake when I was about to get married. The most fundamental reason for the matter is in the bride price.
"It is everyone who is happy that the children get married, and there is no need for you parents to destroy the feelings of the two children, and it is because of the money thing, is the child not cold to hear?" 」 Xiaoqin heard such a remark when she rushed to her mother-in-law's house.
But Xiaoqin's parents were also said to be unhappy, saying: "We have no other meaning, we marry our daughters, this man should have some expressions, our daughter who has worked hard to raise, can't just be sent to your house to be a daughter-in-law in vain." ”
"Our family can't afford to give money, my family has two children, I have a young son, unlike your family, Xiaoqin has a daughter." The mother-in-law began to have a little bit of a trick in the end.
The wedding thing is also because this matter is not discussed, the wedding can naturally not be held, and the time is naturally delayed later. Now Xiaoqin and Ma Liang are also staying at their respective homes because of the bride price, and they don't see each other very often. However, after the meeting, Ma Liang himself did not take the initiative to find a solution, just said that there will definitely be results in waiting, which once disappointed Xiaoqin.
03. A sudden change in the attitude of the mother-in-law
On this day, the mother-to-be called and said that xiaoqin and her parents had a meal together, and said that it was a good thing to get married originally, and as a result, the relationship was so stiff that the night was really too unwilling to go, so it should be to eat and apologize to the Xiaoqin family.
The Xiaoqin family is not a person with a small belly, and their daughter is married, they are not good enough to obstruct too much, if the daughter's marriage is frozen because of the bride price, as parents, they are naturally uncomfortable. So he agreed to go to Ma Liang's house for dinner with his mother-in-law.
After the whole meal, the mother-in-law was very enthusiastic, and also talked about the bride price, the mother-in-law said: "I also figured it out, I am not saying that I am particularly slamming the door, I give sixty thousand yuan of the bride price you see if it is OK, just try a lively and auspicious, and then I calculate well, next week there will be a good day, the little young marriage we can not delay any longer." ”
Seeing the mother-in-law say this, xiaoqin naturally can't ask for anything too much, and even if everyone talks about this matter, next week, Xiaoqin and Ma Liang will also get married.
04. Preparing for divorce just after getting married
The atmosphere at the wedding is naturally very good, the host of the wedding is also very good at setting off the atmosphere, all the relatives and friends are also lively together, Xiaoqin and Ma Liang are even happier at the wedding, Ma Liang is also toasting and drinking cup after cup. The bride price money mother-in-law was also handed over to Xiaoqin's hand very smoothly.
After the wedding, Xiaoqin and Ma Liang stayed in their new home for a few nights, and the two did not immediately take leave to go out to play, saying that they would plan to discuss going out to play after they were busy for a while.
After a week of marriage, on this day Xiaoqin and Ma Liang were resting at home, and the mother-in-law took the initiative to find Xiaoqin on this day and came to the new home of the two, the mother-in-law first turned around in the room, praised Xiaoqin a few words, said that Xiaoqin was very capable, and cleaned up the family very sharply.
Xiaoqin was a little embarrassed by the mother-in-law's praise, and when she saw that it was almost time to eat, she left her mother-in-law to eat at home, and the mother-in-law did not refuse. The atmosphere at home was also nice when eating.
But Xiaoqin always felt that her mother-in-law had something to say, so she asked if there was anything wrong with her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law said the purpose of today, the mother-in-law said: "Daughter-in-law, the 60,000 dowry is a formality, this money for the little uncle to buy a house, Ma Liang also knows this matter, you two are now married, this money can you not give us again." ”
Xiaoqin thought about a lot of things, never thought that the mother-in-law was because of the bride price, but where is the dowry money to go back, and Ma Liang has always known that the mother-in-law is the symbol to give a bride price, Ma Liang did not tell himself, he has not squeaked, Xiaoqin felt very angry in his heart, and said to his mother-in-law and Ma Liang: "Marriage is also, now we will go through the formalities, divorce, I will give you this sixty thousand yuan." ”
After saying that, Xiaoqin took his own certificate and pulled Ma Liang to the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau, Ma Liang was keeping Xiaoqin all the way, but Xiaoqin had decided that no one could change, the two eventually divorced, and Ma Liang's family also became a joke between neighbors.
I think everyone has heard of this, the words they say, the promises they give, then they must say and do, do not regret halfway, such behavior is really difficult to accept. Because if you can't bear this result, then don't agree, don't regret it in the end, and try your best to make excuses for yourself, which is indeed disgusting.
The contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are basically encountered in every family, but the methods of handling contradictions between each family are different. And the husband plays a very key role in this, the husband must learn to regulate the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, see who is wrong, to speak out, not biased to say their own ideas. You can't be timid and afraid to hide aside, family conflicts can't be resolved, then there will not be much success in your career.
A good family atmosphere is maintained by everyone together, and when encountering things, we must communicate in time, we cannot hold everything in our hearts, and we must say things in order to solve them in a timely manner. Only when the contradictions are all said and done can everyone get along harmoniously.
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