The beginning of a marriage must be in love. And when two people were in love, they must have hoped to have a good love with each other. No one will know what life will look like in the future, but the current vision of the future must have their own ideas.
But sometimes with the development of time, love will slowly fade, and the feelings between two people will become the most familiar family. And everyone is already an adult, and they can accept marriage after the feelings have faded.
Instead of saying that you have to have a vigorous love in your relationship, you must live every day full of all kinds of freshness. People will have all kinds of attachments in life, and many changes will occur at each stage.
Especially in marriage, when the children have grown up and the parents have become old, they will slowly put all their thoughts on all the family members in the family.
When Wang Yue first got married, he did think that his feelings with her husband and her husband had weakened in the future, what should she do? But this is just a thought, after all, when the two people were together, the feelings were also very good. When the facts really arrived, Wang Yue was able to face the current situation very calmly.
01. Bland daily life
After wang yue left work, he drove to the door of his child's school and waited to pick up his child from school. This matter has become a matter for Wang Yue alone, and her husband always says that he is very busy, and things at work cannot be left at all, so he always refuses to come to the school gate and wait for the children to finish school.
At first, Wang Yue also felt that this was not the husband who began to have some indifference to the family. But every day after seeing her husband's tired look at home after work, Wang Yue also felt that it was not strange for her to think like this. It's just about picking up a child, and I can do it myself.
So this thing has always been done by Wang Yue, and from the time the child goes to kindergarten to the child goes to high school. All the things about the child are Wang Yue's alone to worry about her husband Zhang Jian, but he is like a hand-throwing treasurer, and he will not be able to handle these things in the housekeeper at all.
If his parents and in-laws have any illness, Wang Yue is also alone with his parents. Unless he needs to give money, Zhang Jian will come to the hospital. The rest of the time Wang Yue was alone in carrying the family.
Wang Yue sometimes feels that this kind of life is a bit unfair, and she also has her own career, rather than saying that she is a complete housewife. He even felt that Zhang Jian's attitude towards himself had already regarded himself as an accessory, and regarded himself as a full-time nanny in a family.
But if Wang Yue thought so and then returned home to see his child's smiling face and the thoughtful words that her in-laws said to herself. Wang Yue also feels that all she has done is worth it, and she is willing to pay all this for this family.
02. The relationship with her husband slowly fades
Zhang Jian and Wang Yue originally met in free love, and at that time, Wang Yue shirked the blind date introduced to him by his parents, and instead chose a boyfriend who was much different from his family conditions. Because Wang Yue is a city hukou, he can have the opportunity to meet a very rich man.
But Wang Yue felt at that age that love was the most important, and he must make his relationship full of love, so that his future life would be happy. Therefore, Wang Yue had some rebellion at that age, and he also felt that finding this boyfriend was the most suitable for him.
Sure enough, life after getting married is what Wang Yue originally envisioned, and her in-laws and in-laws are also very good people to get along with, and her husband is also very able to give himself a sense of security. Wang Yue felt how correct his original decision was, not like some of his friends around him, and after getting married, he found that the person next to him did not love him.
But it didn't take long for Wang Yue to find that her husband Zhang Jian began to have some indifference to himself. When she was pregnant, her husband never cared about himself on the side, just casually said two sentences. After the child was born, Zhang Jian was even more reluctant to take the child.
Wang Yue has also made some practices to save the feelings of the two people, and also hopes that the two people can return to the original feelings. But no matter what kind of behavior you do, it is futile. I and my husband have become what they are now, and they may become even worse in the future.
03. Recognize real life
Zhang Jian's attitude toward his wife made Wang Yue feel very sad in his heart sometimes. After all, I have worked hard in this family to be a good wife and mother for so many years. But he had never heard of Zhang Jian's praise for himself, and now the family himself would not feel her husband's love for him at all.
Wang Yue had also thought about whether to put this marriage down like this? After all, he is not too old, and he will definitely meet someone more suitable for himself in the future. But this and the time the children have already understood things, and the parents also hope that Wang Yue can live a stable life.
Therefore, Wang Yue also began to adjust his mentality. I don't want to keep these annoying male and female feelings in my heart, so that I can be more integrated into real life, and don't always think about some things that don't belong to my life.
Wang Yue saw that he had run the family so well, except that her husband had no feelings for him, and everything else was developing in the direction of a trajectory as he had originally imagined.
04. Look at yourself rationally
Those friends around Wang Yue also advised Wang Yue to divorce him. But Wang Yue felt that there was nothing wrong with the life he was living now, and he also told his friends what kind of thoughts he had in his heart.
"My husband and I don't love anymore, but we don't get divorced. After all, the life that has been worked hard over the years is all my effort. I can't abandon what I've gained because of this man, and I should also properly live my life as I think. ”
Wang Yue's words as a middle-aged woman explained the true meaning of marriage. Indeed, in Wang Yue's current life, nothing can make Wang Yue's mood worse, as long as he returns to his warm home every day, he feels that there is no trouble.
In particular, their own children have become a very polite and highly nurturing child, and parents and in-laws are also looking forward to their children's lives getting better and better. It's all going in the direction of my best, and I'm so old that I don't need anything to ask for.
To make life simpler, this is Wang Yue's biggest plan for later life. I don't want anything else to happen in my life, plainness is the highest state of my life now.
It is true that sometimes a person does have a relationship in his life that can bring people a lot of happiness and happiness. But that's not to say that only marriage can make life planning seem orderly. After all, marriage is only to make their future life better, if marriage is just to help the poor, it is better to live a good life alone.
Choosing a person to become your lifelong partner is a very important thing, and you must also objectively and rationally recognize some changes in your future life, don't always stalk about one thing, cry and make trouble and hang yourself.
Especially as a woman, you may have given up your career after getting married. But it's not that his life has now become just this one marriage. Because there are still children and parents in the family who need to take care of themselves, there are more responsibilities to bear.
Therefore, when people reach middle age, they should know what their future life plans will look like.