The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth remains in the heart
Behind any harmonious marriage, there is a couple who know how to understand each other and understand each other, of course, in addition, the mother-in-law's attitude also has a crucial impact on the harmony of the family.
When I met an amiable mother-in-law, she knew that she was just an outsider between her son and daughter-in-law, and she didn't say a word about the matter of the little two. However, not all mothers-in-law are like this, and some mothers-in-law always interfere excessively in the affairs between their sons and daughters-in-law under the guise of being good for their children, and the consequences of this will only increase family conflicts.
Of course, if the feelings of the two small families have been problematic, and even to the point of implementing the AA system, if at this time the mother-in-law then in the name of the elders, to mention some excessive requirements, then the consequences of this are naturally imaginable.
01 The husband proposed the AA system, which also has the figure of the mother-in-law
Xiaoxue and her husband met through blind dates, because Xiaoxue's age is about to enter the stage of older leftover women, so for her future husband, Xiaoxue has only one requirement, that is, he knows how to take care of the family.
After getting married, the husband is indeed very concerned about the family, and he has fulfilled his responsibilities as a husband, but as they live longer and longer together, Xiaoxue gradually finds that her husband seems to be a little too obedient to his mother-in-law's words.
To use a very apt idiom to describe, that is, "ma bao man".
However, for this, Xiaoxue did not pay attention to it, as long as her husband could concentrate on taking care of the family, everything else was not so important.
However, there will always be surprises in the development of things.
Because the conditions of Xiaoxue's original family are not very good, and the parents are older, Xiaoxue will always take some gifts back to her mother's house to visit her parents every three to five years.
At first, the husband did not give a different opinion on this, but after a long time, Xiaoxue's behavior was recognized by her husband as the best proof that Xiaoxue had been subsidizing her mother's family.
You know, since Xiaoxue got married, she has become a full-time wife at home, and the family's economic income is all dependent on her husband.
One day after dinner, the husband suddenly made a request for AA to Xiaoxue.
Xiaoxue thought again about the daytime, when her husband and mother-in-law had made a long phone call, and she was not sure whether the AA system was proposed by her mother-in-law.
But whatever the reason, since the husband had already spoken this sentence, no amount of explanation would help, Xiao Xue, who had already had a premonition, accepted this suggestion.
After 02 work, he quickly reached a monthly salary of 20,000
The next day, Xiaoxue went out looking for a job.
Xiaoxue had worked in the big city for a long time before getting married, and had also accumulated a lot of contacts, and finally if it were not for the requirements of her parents, Xiaoxue would not have returned home so early to get married, otherwise, maybe Xiaoxue would have done something in the big city.
When his former friend heard about Xiaoxue's current situation, he took the initiative to contact Xiaoxue and took the initiative to explain that he hoped that Xiaoxue could start a business together.
At that time, Xiaoxue was feeling extremely confused about the future, and the arrival of his friends was undoubtedly a charcoal in the snow.
Later, after the continuous efforts of Xiaoxue and my friend, we finally ushered in great success in our careers, and our natural income also rose with the water, once reaching the point of 20,000 monthly salaries.
You know, in the situation at that time, Xiao Xue's husband was just an ordinary worker with a monthly salary of five thousand.
When her husband learned that Xiaoxue's income was so high, his attitude also quietly changed a lot.
For the change of her husband, Xiaoxue naturally sees it in her eyes, of course, she also knows in her heart that the reason why her husband is different from the past is definitely inextricably linked to her income.
03 After the mother-in-law learned about it, she asked to give herself ten thousand
Since Xiaoxue has a stable income, she often returns to her mother's house, and no matter what she brings, her husband will not ask a word, and Xiaoxue also enjoys this mode of getting along with her husband.
But this matter was finally known to the mother-in-law.
After the mother-in-law knew, she took the initiative to come to Xiaoxue's house, and after a greeting, the mother-in-law tentatively asked: Xiaoxue, I heard that you have recently raised your salary, it has reached 20,000, and my daughter-in-law has the ability.
Xiao Xue also smiled silently at this.
Then the mother-in-law said: Xiaoxue, you see, my recent health is not as good as before, you are all busy, I don't need you to take care of it, otherwise, you give me 10,000 pension fees every month, I will not bother you.
After hearing her mother-in-law's appeal, Xiaoxue couldn't help but feel particularly ridiculous, and it was only at this time that she knew the purpose of her mother-in-law's visit.
But as Xiaoxue, how could she agree.
Xiaoxue said: Mom, if I remember correctly, you should know that your son and I have AA system, we are now taking care of our own lives, even for each other's original families, but also to take care of their own parents, for your proposal, I just want to say, you think very well.
The mother-in-law said: After all, it is a family, don't divide it so clearly.
After Xiaoxue heard this, the corners of her mouth raised slightly: Mom, do you dare to say that when your son and I proposed the AA system, it was not your suggestion?
The mother-in-law saw Xiao Xue's eyes burning, and her eyes began to dodge around.
After seeing this situation, Xiao Xue knew everything in his heart.
In the end, the mother-in-law's wishful thinking still failed, and she left Xiaoxue's home in a gray and slippery way.
Conclusion: In fact, as a mother-in-law, when facing the marital contradiction between the daughter-in-law and the son, it is reasonable to say a few more words about your son, after all, the son is biological. However, when some mothers-in-law see conflicts between their sons and daughters-in-law, they not only do not want to mediate between them, but also help their sons come up with an idea, which is obviously undesirable.
Of course, as a husband, you should also have your own opinions, and after a conflict with your wife, you should not listen to your parents' opinions in everything, but should strive to solve the root cause of the contradiction between husband and wife based on the husband and wife as a whole, which is the most important duty as a husband.