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The closest parents, recently a husband and wife, if the partner goes to observe you, don't try to escape her fiery eyes, even if it is a small thing.
Being able to hide the past is never because you are clever, just a partner, and you don't think about a certain aspect.
Husband and wife are the most recent people, which means to a large extent that the partner is the person who knows you best and is the person who knows you best, so as long as you have a ghost in your heart, it depends on whether she is willing to spend time to think about it.
From the moment you start lying, you should realize that there is always a gap in the hundred secrets, and a lie must be rounded by countless lies.
In fact, when people are weak in their hearts, the most obvious manifestation is that they will lose their natural attitude, and this disguise does not come, which is the externalized manifestation of inner peace.
One thing that men are very good at, diverting the subject. When he does not have enough confidence and certainty to deal with your questioning, he knows that he will show the stuffing, but because he has a ghost in his heart, he must not show the stuffing, so he will deliberately show emotional excitement as a warning.
It's just that when men have this kind of warning, they always have to go to the woman's fault first, so that their emotions seem reasonable, and only in this way can they play a role in diverting attention.
People have some small nines and nines in their hearts, just as the so-called deaf and blind are not at home, in small things, they must pretend to be confused, but in big things, they must not be really confused.
Marriage is like this, on many matters of principle, half by self-awareness, half by supervision. Of course, this is very necessary to master the degree of it yourself, do not rely on a rope to tie him, let him be constrained at the same time, but also give him the illusion of freedom, otherwise he will only think about how to break free of you.
02
Listening to Sister Wen talk about her marriage, before the full-time at home with children, did not put much thought into the husband's body, but also trusted her husband's early departure and late return, are busy with their careers.
In any case, Sister Wen always knows her husband, such as knowing that her husband has a temper.
But for a while, the husband was particularly abnormal, the kind of abnormality that could not withstand Sister Wen's questioning. In the middle of the night, the husband holds the mobile phone mysteriously reply to the message, will intentionally avoid Sister Wen, it is inconvenient in the room, then get up to pour water for a while, and get up to go to the bathroom for a while.
When I came back, I was asked by Sister Wen, a sentence of "return customer information" perfunctory past, and then asked by Sister Wen, a sentence of "Turn off the lights and sleep, I am tired" to divert the topic.
However, when Sister Wen sent out an inquiry, before she could say anything about checking her mobile phone, her husband yelled at Sister Wen first:
"Are you taking your children at home every day and turning yourself into a neurosis?" If you think I'm superfluous in this house, fulfill you now and give you a quiet. ”
Later, there was really a big fight, but the quarrel was not because of looking at the mobile phone and sending messages, but was poked by the husband to the soft underbelly, and the hardships and grievances of those with children instantly surged into the heart. When Sister Wen was emotional, she also completely forgot about looking at the mobile phone, and only cared about the difficulty of venting herself.
Afterwards, Sister Wen thought, is it really necessary to lose her temper when she says one more word herself?
There are many similar things, if Sister Wen accuses her husband of not doing housework and not understanding these things, her husband's mood is always very stable, and he will also coax her to be happy with a smile. Only sensitive things were asked, such as questioning the husband's recent increase in expenses.
The husband who was willing to explain and also showed great patience began to pretend to be confused when he could not explain a certain expense, and when Sister Wen questioned his "pretending to be confused", he would also pretend to be excited and reply:
"I can't spend the money I earn myself?" Don't say that it only cost five hundred, even if it cost fifty thousand, it will not be your turn to question. ”
The husband refused Wen Jie's call outside, one phone call was not answered, two calls were not returned, and when he came back, he only roared: "Are you sick?" If I don't answer the phone, it means that I have something to do, can I still die? ”
Sister Wen always can't understand, just a word thing, as for? Later, according to her husband's abnormality, I found out about his dedication to another woman, and I understood everything. Because there is a ghost in his heart, he can't think of any reason to deal with his own questioning, and he is afraid of revealing his stuffing under his repeated questioning, and the lies can't be full of lies, only in the way of tantrums, to divert his attention.
Married woman's experience: The more emotionally it is easy to get excited, the more it proves that he has a ghost in his heart, and he also hopes to use his temper to calm you and not disrupt his plans.
03
Of course, it can't be ruled out that it is a manifestation of impatience, shame and anger, or the desire to disrupt your thinking with your emotions and avoid your own interpretation. No matter how shrewd and meticulous it is, there must be something wrong with it, and many things cannot be edited.
People don't have to lose their temper on things that can be explained, quarrels are very tiring, and it is easy to arouse the suspicion of the other party, so often it is only your doubts, just on time.
There is a detail that even if a man pretends to be emotional, he does not dare to look you in the eye, because he is not really emotional.
The more you are weak-minded, the more unnatural you are, and if your behavior is still very exaggerated, then it basically confirms your suspicions.
Therefore, even if the acting skills are good, the details exposed cannot withstand scrutiny. Although we can't take our own doubts as evidence, which is a taboo in marriage, in the face of facts, we can't deceive ourselves, we can only see what we are willing to see.
Early detection, early remediation, maybe the situation has not yet developed to such a bad point, people have a momentary impulse, accidental mental displacement, if you can pull your partner back in time, it is always good.
At least this is also an account of oneself, what should be fought for, what should be saved. Feelings are often objective and comprehensive conclusions drawn by people according to the situation, atmosphere, environment, and details, and are not mixed with any perceptual factors, nor through subjective consciousness and thought.
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