"You can have no money, you can have no house, but you have to have a heart that loves me."
When a certain plot in the TV series appeared, did you ever feel the same thing? Have you ever fought for a love affair?
Yesterday my classmate called and said her marathon love was over. The reason is simple, because the boyfriend's family would rather lend money to relatives to buy a house than give the bride price money.
Hearing this, I understood that in fact, it is not that I can't afford to give, but I don't want to give.
She and her boyfriend were the only classmates among us who did not enter into marriage, and because they were classmates, I was fortunate to be a witness to her love from campus.
In fact, I know that she and her boyfriend have mentioned marriage many times a long time ago, and sometimes I am present when I say so.
But many times, as long as people talk about her marriage, her boyfriend behaves very indifferently, sometimes saying that it is still early, sometimes saying that their finances are not ready, and even in front of our friends last year, they are very evasive.
Classmates said that her parents originally said that she was an only child, and she was married far away, so she wanted a dowry of 100,000 yuan to give her a guarantee. However, my classmate was hard to grind with her parents, and her parents said that they were giving eighty thousand meanings.
What her parents mean is that the bride price is actually intended to give her daughter what she wants, after all, the small family has just started, and there will be children in the future, which is the cost, just give the daughter a guarantee. It's also about looking at her boyfriend's family's attitude towards her.
As a result, the man's family was not even willing to give 80,000 yuan, so this love that began on campus did not come to an end after ten years of marathon.
In the ten years that my classmates and boyfriends have been together, it has always been AA system, so my classmates have almost never accepted the boyfriend's financial contributions.
There is no red envelope for the New Year's Festival, and no gift does not affect her determination to be with her boyfriend.
In the past, classmates always said: "I am not with him for his money or anything." ”
At that time, I always felt that her concept was not right, a relationship, her ten years of good youth were given to this man, even if he wanted his money, so what! Not to mention that my classmate can make money more than her boyfriend, that annual salary is soft, really do not want the man's money.
In my view of marriage, I have always believed that two people enter marriage because of love, and without material and financial support, they will only become poor couples.
No matter how beautiful love falls into chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, all need money, no money to talk about bread, let alone food, clothing, housing and transportation?
As I myself went through ten years of marriage, I felt more and more that feelings of not talking about money were as rogue as love that was not intended for marriage.
When a person truly loves you, without your hints, without your request, without your begging, he will take the initiative to talk to you about money, because he is afraid that you will be upset because of money.
Of course, it's inevitable that if that person truly loves you, he'll put you in his plans for the future because he's going to give you a sense of security.
Maybe it's the polishing of life, maybe it's the influence of reading, maybe it's because I'm too rational, and the love I've always felt is loving and rich.
If there are neither, then why waste time and energy? Of course, some people have only one of them, and that is why many people are unhappy!
Some people are ashamed to talk about money in love, but I think that love and money, these two things are not opposites, because only people who love you will spend money and time for you.
So adults still sober up, good love is not sweet words soaked in forgetting life, but someone spends time for you, someone spends money for you!