Smart women know that there is only one "noble person" in this life, and this person is herself.
We had hoped that someone would come to save our muddy life, but we found that in this glitz, everyone was too busy to take care of themselves.
Moreover, no one else is obligated to help us.
What's more, all relationships are based on an equal exchange of values, and if we can't provide each other with any value, how can we ask each other to help us?
Therefore, the best way is to make yourself strong first and make yourself irreplaceable.
At this time, because of the law of attraction, because of the exchange of values, we can naturally get the favor and help of others.
It doesn't matter if we don't get it, because we have now become very powerful through our own efforts, and we can completely save ourselves from fire and water, and we don't need to rely on others.
It can be seen that we are the nobles in our own lives. So, how do we become our own nobles?
We must learn to rely on ourselves and accumulate a sense of achievement that belongs to ourselves
Life is sometimes like an athletics sport, but some people have managed their lives into a 100-meter sprint, focusing on explosive power;
Some people have turned their lives into marathons, focusing on endurance.
In fact, for us, the best way is "marathon", because although the "100-meter sprint" is fast, it will consume a person's physical strength in a short period of time.
It is impossible for a person to maintain a state of mental tension all the time.
Therefore, the "marathon" lifestyle is more suitable for those of us who are ordinary people.
The key to winning the marathon is not the instantaneous outbreak, but the persistence on the way.
In the process, we also think about giving up because we are exhausted, because we are tired, because we are breathless.
However, if the journey of life is chosen to give up, it will mean that we have lost a lot of effort, because no one will push us to run, and the only way to run to the end can be on our own.
So, even if we have a thousand reasons to give up, we must find a reason for ourselves to persevere.
Many times, some successes or some impressive achievements are actually because when we are about to give up, we choose to continue to insist on one more minute.
In this minute, as long as we don't give up, then in the next minute, we will have hope.
Although we don't know when this minute will appear, as long as we learn to rely on ourselves, even if we are tired and tired, we will wait for the scenery that belongs to us.
Learn to pay attention to yourself and don't lose yourself because of any one person
The heroine Jin Zhiying in the movie "Jin Zhiying born in 82" originally had a very good job, but in order to let her husband engage in a career without distraction, she resigned and became a housewife.
Take care of children, be responsible for three meals a day, do endless housework every day, tired and sore back, but also can't get a good word from your mother-in-law.
Because in the eyes of her mother-in-law, Jin Zhiying does not have to go out to work how blessed it is, and every day at home with children and cooking, she can spend her son's money with dignity.
In real life, such "Jin Zhiying" is not in the minority.
They sacrifice themselves for the sake of the family, for the sake of love, for the sake of marriage, for the sake of the children.
But they never think about themselves, they put all their energy on others, but they refuse to put it on themselves.
And this is definitely not the life we want.
We should think for ourselves, we should live for ourselves, we should please ourselves, and we should follow our own needs.
Only in this way can we not be considered to be a vain come to this world.
Learn to be kind to yourself, live in the moment, and enjoy life
Thoreau, the author of Walden, once said: "I went into the jungle because I wanted to live meaningfully, I wanted to live deeply and absorb all the essence of life." Then learn from it so that at the end of my life, I find that I have never lived. ”
In fact, most of the happy life depends on our own way of thinking and patterns.
Some people, they are bound by desire, all their lives for those things that are out of reach, but they do not leave half a spare time to experience the meaning of life;
Some people also have desires and hope that their lives will get better and better.
When they find that their expectations are too far behind their real lives, they find that they can't achieve their goals even if they try their best.
They will stop the loss in time, instead of doing meaningless struggles, they will begin to withdraw their hearts, live in the moment, and enjoy the moment.
Thus, we can see that they will not be distracted by those meaningless things, they are content and happy, and they are at ease with their encounters. They can experience infinite happiness in this limited time.