Born in 1982, Kim Ji-young's book has been a life course from her own landing to her child's landing.
There are unfairness in the family, unfairness in the school, unfairness in the workplace, unfairness in marriage.
01 The unfairness of families
After giving birth to her sister, my mother said to my grandmother, "I'm sorry, I gave birth to a girl." ”
For this reason, he also killed Kim Ji-young's sister.
The mother finally gave birth to her brother, and the task of giving birth was completed.
The order of eating is Dad, Brother, Grandma, Mom, Sister, Zhiying. The complete fish pieces on the table will only belong to the younger brother, and the scraps are only Zhiying and her sister's.
Once stealing her brother's milk powder was slapped from behind by her grandmother, and in an instant the milk powder spewed out from her nose and mouth, saying: "Dare to covet her Golden Sun's milk powder." ”
Zhiying was never seen resisting. Because from the moment they were born, they were treated differently.
Because she is only an older sister, she must let her brother go.
02 Injustice of the school
Zhiying, who is in elementary school, needs to eat at school at noon two days a week, and there is a time limit for fixed school meals.
There were 49 students in the class, all male students from the 1st to the 27th, and all female students from the 28th to the 49th. The meal is received in the order of the student number, and it can only be eaten by the students in front of them, so that it is the turn of the students in the back number to eat.
Girls are often scolded for this, because the school requires that meal time is almost up, and girls have not finished eating.
Boys take precedence over girls, and rightly so, because that's how they arrive from an early age.
No one questioned, no one resisted.
03 Unfairness in the workplace
Zhiying's hard work in the workplace has been recognized by his superiors, and the workers can only be responsible and have been affirmed by their colleagues.
One day, the company suddenly set up a planning group to develop customers, everyone is eager to try, Zhiying is not different.
It just so happened that Ji Young's team leader Kim Eun Seok led the team, originally thought that the same women would help, but finally chose two male colleagues with mediocre qualifications.
Later, the team leader Kim Eun Seok told her that the planning team was arranged by the president. Because after all, the work of the planning team is busy, and there is a conflict with the family of women who have marriage and childbearing in the future.
In the position, the company should consider the cost of personnel, women generally have a family, have children, and the focus of life will deviate a little.
The holidays for women to have children will also delay the progress of the company, so many positions in the workplace do not consider women.
What is left of such an unjust workplace?
04 Injustice in marriage
"So what have you lost?"
"Didn't you tell me not to always think only about losing?" I am now likely to lose my youth, health, work, and social connections such as colleagues and friends because of having children, as well as my life plans, future dreams, etc., so I will always think about what I have lost. And what about you, what will you lose? ”
This is the first time after marriage that Zhiying and her husband quarreled because of their children.
In order to have a child, Zhiying left the workplace.
Taking care of the children, taking care of the husband, taking care of the family became the whole of her life.
She has become a "mother worm" in people's mouths, and she does not deserve to take her husband's money to buy a cup of coffee.
Women's housekeepers are seen as "idle at home all day" series, and men's housekeepers are seen as "supporting a family, high above and above." ”
Zhiying recalled that the first half of his life was too much to hold back, and now he was trapped in the "cage of the family", and his depression was getting worse and worse, and he didn't know it.
Jin Zhiying's shadow can be seen everywhere in today's society, it is you, it can also be me.
Women in marriage are always looking for a balance between the workplace and the family, like standing in the middle of the maze, always looking for an exit, but feeling that there is no end to the road.