Feminist? No, just want equal respect

The so-called feminism shouts "men and women should be equal" when they encounter losses, and "ladies first" when they can take advantage.

When you see this sentence, how do you think? What kind of emotions will occur?

disgusting? wrath? Helpless? helpless? Or something else?

For example, is this the truth, is there nothing wrong with saying it?

The story of Kim Ji-young is a pervasive problem of mankind that has continued to this day, and this phenomenon exists in every country.

But when we read "Kim Ji-young born in 1982," is it to promote feminism? Feminism, should be attacked? Blamed?

Do we want feminism?

No, we just want equal respect.

The novel is short, and it takes about two or three hours to read. It tells the story of a series of unfair social phenomena encountered by Jin Zhiying in the process of growing up, and finally postpartum depression and personality split.

"Dear father- and wife, there is a sentence that I still don't spit out: Is it important only for your family to reunite?" We also had no other opportunity to get together and have a good look at our three children other than the holidays. Haven't all young people been like this lately? Since your daughter can go back to her mother's house, we should also let our daughter come back! ”

This sentence is what Jin Zhiying said to her father-in-law after her personality split, and her personality became her own mother.

The picture is somewhat witty and funny, but it is also very helpless.

It seems to be a tradition that every New Year's Festival, the wife must follow her husband to the in-laws' house to reunite, but some people have considered whether the parents in the woman's home are accompanied?

"Why does the school let the male students line up the number first, why the male classmates are always the number one, and everything starts with the male classmates, as if it is a matter of course for boys to take precedence over girls... Just as people have never questioned why boys start with the Arabic numerals '1' and girls start with '2', everyone accepts this arrangement as a matter of course. ”

"Girls should be careful in everything, dress conservatively, behave in a disciplined manner, and dangerous times and dangerous people must know how to avoid themselves, otherwise the problem lies in people who do not know how to avoid."

These things seem to be common sense, the number of the ID card, girls do not wear too revealing clothes, including the birth of children with the father's surname, men are more likely to rise to the leadership, and so on.

It is because of these deep-rooted ideas that there has always been inequality between men and women in society.

"Didn't you say you told me not to keep thinking about losing?" I am likely to lose my youth, health, work, and social connections such as colleagues and friends because I have children, as well as my life plan, future dreams, etc., so I will always see only what I have lost, but what about you? What will you lose? ”

Before giving birth, Kim Ji-young's questioning of her husband left him speechless.

Then, the child was born, and the husband looked at Jin Zhiying after the busy work and said, "I will help you, I will help the child change diapers, soak milk powder, and use boiled gauze to sterilize." ”

This may seem like a very thoughtful concern, but is it really considerate?

Although he understood her husband's intentions, Jin Zhiying still couldn't help but burst out a nameless fire: "Can you stop saying 'help' me?" Help me with the housework, help me with the children, isn't this your home, your business, your children? ”

Society is constantly progressing, and women's groups are becoming more and more autonomous and powerful. In China, many women do not have to become full-time mothers after giving birth like Jin Zhiying, but there is another phenomenon: not only to work, but also to take care of the children while taking care of the housework. Taking 10,000 steps back, if Jin Zhiying's full-time mothers are called "mother worms", after all, their husbands earn money to support their families, and full-time mothers do not need to experience the hardships of the workplace, then why do these mothers who have to work and raise children encounter such unequal treatment? Why, as if raising children, should it be taken for granted that mothers should do it, and what about fathers?

At this time, some people may say: women are careful, and they will take care of people.

Then I can only roll my eyes and reply: Huh.

Now many women choose not to have children temporarily after marriage, there will be various relatives and friends to ask whether there is "good news", if there is still no "good news" after a few years of marriage, it will be implied that they do not need to go to the hospital for examination. Even if it is really infertile, society is much more tolerant of male infertility.

But no one asks: Why don't you want to have children?

How many women have the same concerns as Kim Ji-young before choosing to have children.

Women are great creatures, and motherhood makes them even greater. Figure, looks, health, connections, jobs, and even some women may lose their lives in childbirth, they sacrifice so much, but they are not really understood. Ironically, some women, like Kim's grandmother, have never felt there's anything wrong with these deep-seated "old minds."

Women are embarrassed by women, but the war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is still staged every day.

As women, do we want feminism? Can feminism do us any good?

Please don't casually give women a high hat, all we want is social recognition and understanding, and we want equal respect between men and women.

(The word "mommy" also appeared in 2015.) The word "worm" is often added to the back of all sorts of unaccustomed behaviors, referring to that type of person. Stay-at-home moms who concentrate on bringing their children are called "mom bugs". ）