What does the world of "Kim Ji-young, born in 1982" bring to girls?

(i)

On April 1, 1982, Kim Ji-young was born

This is the second daughter of the family.

In that era when the birth of a boy was king, Zhiying was born without expectation.

Although the mother-in-law has been comforting her mother that it will be good to have another son in the next child, the mother knows that if she does not have a son, the mother-in-law will be dissatisfied with herself.

Unfortunately, the heavens did not go according to people's wishes, and the second child was still a daughter.

The mother was very bitter, crying and weeping and holding Zhiying and saying to her: Child... Mom is sorry for you.

Finally, when Zhiying was five years old, his younger brother was born to solve his mother's difficulties.

At this point, their family structure is basically fixed.

Two daughters, a son, dad, mom, grandma.

(ii)

The thing that Zhiying is most accustomed to since childhood is to accept differential treatment.

When he was a child, Zhiying liked to steal his brother's milk powder.

For her, it was a soft texture like marshmallow

But as soon as grandma saw it, grandma would teach her a harsh lesson.

Because for Grandma, whether it is milk powder, or clothes, snacks, umbrellas, my brother should be unique.

Everything about the son, the daughter can not be delusional.

(iii)

When she was in elementary school, zhiying didn't understand the most: why do girls always have to let boys in school?

The queue is for the boys first

Playing meals is also boys first

Even the position of squad leader is boyish

Even if Zhiying was bullied, the teacher said that he liked you to do it.

Zhiying did not understand this kind of like.

Shouldn't liking someone be nice to her? Shouldn't I be gentle with her? Shouldn't I be kind to her?

Bully a person likes, she doesn't want to.

(iv)

She grew up with this kind of education.

Zhiying in adolescence should be conservative in school.

Schools have strict requirements for girls:

It is not possible to wear sneakers

It is not possible to wear skirts that do not reach the knees

It is not possible to wear only underwear under the shirt

Schools are very lax in their demands on boys:

Boys can wear sneakers

Boys can wear small tank tops etc. in shirts

Boys won't be scolded even if they come out in a T-shirt

What an unfair treatment! But everyone is accustomed to all this and takes it for granted.

In adolescence, something particularly heart-wrenching happened: the harassment of boys on the bus.

She asked her father for help, but he asked her why she had to go so far away to make up lessons

She was very aggrieved, but there was nothing she could do.

In the end, she could only go there to make up classes again, and even she began to be afraid.

Fear of men

Even afraid of his own brother

(5)

She didn't waste her studies in college, but when she got to society, her journey to find a job was not smooth.

She kept going to interviews, but she was constantly rejected

Comment on her appearance, mock her dress, and even make unwanted physical contact.

But she didn't give up and was always looking for an opportunity.

Heaven paid off, and her intentions were finally answered

One evening, a call from a residence agency told her that the interview had passed.

She couldn't help but feel the excitement in her heart and shed tears.

In the company, whether it is to people or things, she is very attentive.

Make coffee for colleagues, help order food, help clean up the dishes.

A job assignment, in order to perform well, two pages of information took several days to write.

As well as enduring a lot of hands and feet that went out to socialize, verbal humiliation.

But even with all this effort.

The new planning team only looks for male colleagues

The company also pays male colleagues higher salaries than female colleagues.

The company's unhappiness even spread to the family.

The in-laws and mother-in-law kept urging, and the relatives and elders kept urging: Let's have a child! Why hasn't there been any news yet? Is it not in good health?

She and her husband also had a big fight because she didn't want children, at least not for the time being.

She knows that if she has children, she may lose her job, she will lose her connections, she will lose her health, she will lose her youth

, fell into the same stalemate as her mother.

Her husband said: I will help you, help you with housework, help you take care of your children, and then earn money to support you.

She was not willing to accept this, and it was difficult to hide the unwillingness and loss in her heart

But her husband said so, and she had to compromise.

(6)

Pregnancy is hard.

Morning sickness, waist pain, fatigue, followed.

What is even more difficult is the malicious gaze and words of others.

Male colleagues spoke sour words to her.

Passers-by said that she had such a big belly and came out to work to make money, and I really didn't know what he was thinking.

The most painful thing is that the elders are looking forward to a son, but this fetus is a daughter

Zhiying's mother said: The next child will have another boy

Zhiying's mother-in-law also said: It doesn't matter.

Ke Zhiying knows: in fact, it is very related

In 2014, she quit her job.

(vii)

On the day of childbirth, Zhiying knew that giving birth to a child could be so painful.

The cervical opening is still open, and it must first go through a period of labor pain,

To her, it felt like several tornadoes and storms had raged in her stomach, rumbling, as if all her internal organs and lungs had been pulled out.

She was hoarse and drooling in pain.

Finally the baby was born at four o'clock in the morning.

But the nightmare is still not over.

The child kept crying, she kept crying, she had to take care of the child, she had to clean the house, and even eat on time to give the child enough milk.

She felt like a gyroscope, spinning and spinning. Two-point, one-line busy with childcare and housework.

She finally, couldn't take it anymore.

She will occasionally suddenly change into another person, Zhiying's mother, Zhiying's sister, the tone of speech, the movements are exactly the same as them... All of this premonitions that Zhiying is ill.

(viii)

In fact, the story of this book is over at this point.

Not a long story that can be summed up in one sentence

Zhiying's oppressed life

When I finished reading this book, I always felt that it was a bit abrupt.

There should be a zhiying counterattack as the end later

But such an ending is the most realistic.

She was just an ordinary woman, representing the women of that era for most of this society

The story of the counterattack exists in the romance, and Zhiying still has no way to do it

And there are a lot of little details in this book that I haven't talked about.

In the book, basically every woman is a victim of patriarchal society.

Zhiying's mother, who beat up her third child in order to give birth to her son

Zhiying's sister, who went to normal school for her family situation

There are also Zhiying colleagues who have psychological problems due to men's voyeurism

Even Zhiying himself, who sacrificed his career because he was pregnant and had a child

When I was young, I didn't understand the teacher's saying the least: girls are more obedient than boys, but boys are smarter than girls.

Girls who are educated in this way are even more difficult to feel smart.

But I have always believed that this society has been progressing, the concept of gender equality has always been advocated for the country, even if Zhiying's experience has not disappeared, it still exists, but I still firmly believe that these will get better and better, and these all depend on your and my efforts.