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If you count the happy times in your life, the honeymoon must be the most memorable. A trip to walk away when love is at its sweetest will undoubtedly add a lot to this relationship.
It is said that the honeymoon is to relax, to make each other closer, and taking care of each other during the trip can not only warm up each other's feelings, but also make each other know each other better.
It is reasonable to say that the honeymoon is a matter for the two children themselves, but some parents are not at ease, thinking that their children have never been so far, in case something happens.
Just worry about it, some parents still want to go on a honeymoon with their children, which is a bit outrageous.
Xiao Xin encountered such an outrageous thing.
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Xiao Xin and her husband are blind dates, the work of the two is relatively busy, during the love is also a mobile phone chat more to meet less, originally wanted to further familiarize themselves with the marriage and then talk about marriage, but the two are not young, the family is anxious, just want to get married and then cultivate feelings, so the two have been in contact for half a year to get a license.
Xiao Xin has always longed for a romantic love, and now although she has not been able to achieve her wishes, the form cannot be less, so after the wedding, Xiao Xin proposed to take a honeymoon trip.
The husband promised to be very cheerful, saying that he would handle everything, and Xiao Xin also felt that he had found a reliable person and was very satisfied.
On the day of departure, the mother-in-law brought a lot of things to follow, Xiao Xin thought that the mother-in-law came to send them, until the mother-in-law followed the car xiaoxin who was on the tour group together to know that the mother-in-law was going to go on a honeymoon with them.
Honeymoon mother-in-law followed, this matter said to anyone who has to say "outrageous", but the husband is very satisfied, at that time Xiaoxin was not happy, but the mother-in-law has been on the car, can not give people to get off the car, just think of the destination and then discuss with the husband to let the mother-in-law go back.
Along the way, the mother-in-law was very excited, and Xiao Xin's husband said that there was no end, Xiao Xin did not even have the opportunity to interject, she doubted who was on the honeymoon.
It was not easy to get to the place, the mother-in-law first took out all kinds of items with her, looked at a bed of things Xiao Xin was stunned, it was no problem to take some change of clothes, it didn't matter if she took some brine pickles, but how could she take pots and pans?
"How expensive it is to eat outside, I take the pot to make for you, save money and be healthy." The mother-in-law looked very witty. "Does the tour group care about the meal?" Xiao Xin looked at her husband. "It's thousands of dollars expensive to manage rice, and if my mother can do it anyway, she won't have to spend that money." It's hard to travel, spend a few thousand dollars more, even if the tour is expensive, you can go out to eat ah, as for holding the pot to cook?
Xiao Xin could not be ignored and was speechless to the extreme, and that night she discussed with her husband how to send her mother-in-law back, which was originally a trip for two people, and what was it to take her mother-in-law.
Who knew that her husband did not agree at all: "My mother has worked hard for half a lifetime, and it is hard for me to have time to take her out for a walk, so why should I go back?" "What does the hard work of half a life have to do with their honeymoon trip, and can't you take your mother-in-law out alone in the future?"
To put it bluntly, the husband is just unwilling to let the mother-in-law go back, and Xiao Xin also gave up.
There is a mother-in-law's travel can be imagined, want to buy anything is too expensive, all the same things back to buy cheap very much; want to eat anything, too expensive, this thing is not delicious, I make it for you.
Even if you want to go to a separately charged attraction, your mother-in-law has to stop: "This is the same as those that are free, nothing to see." And all this, the husband agrees, completely listen to the mother-in-law.
As for the husband himself, as if he did not have the ability to take care of himself, every morning the mother-in-law helped him get clothes, visited the scenic spots and asked the mother-in-law whether he wanted to drink water, hungry or not, all thirty people, and like children are taken care of.
After the whole trip, Xiao Xin hardly had any communication with her husband, but she also had a deep understanding of her husband and mother-in-law, although she did not harvest happiness, but her spirit was sublimated, and her endurance reached its limit.
The fifteen-day trip was finally over, and Xiao Xin had never been so eager to go home early.
There was also a small episode when I came home, because the mother-in-law cooked and soiled the hotel sheets, and was fined 200 yuan, for which the mother-in-law and husband also had a fight with the hotel staff.
Xiao Xin felt that on the way back, a car was watching them, and all her face was lost.
Back at home, finally only Xiao Xin and her husband were left, Xiao Xin told her husband all the dissatisfaction she had been dissatisfied with for several days, especially on the issue of her husband's love to listen to her mother-in-law, and rationally analyzed it with her husband.
But the husband did not think there was anything wrong with listening to his mother's words: "What happened to taking my mother on a tour?" Is it bad to have someone who takes care of us? My mother said it is all right, why are you endless? ”
After this communication, Xiao Xin knew that her husband's mother's treasure male attribute was difficult to take off, and it was not certain what the future days would become, and Xiao Xin did not say anything more, and directly proposed divorce. Xiao Xin's husband also felt that Xiao Xin did not respect his mother, so he agreed to divorce.
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It is still very important to understand each other well before marriage, otherwise it is likely to end in a farce like Xiaoxin and his wife.
First: Ma Baonan's fundamental problem is immaturity.
Ma Bao man has a lot of immature labels, naïve, motherly obedience, lack of the ability to think independently.
And the source of all this is Ma Baonan's mother. They always feel that the child is still a child, even if the child has the ability to take care of himself, he still takes care of all the things in his life as always.
Like Xiao Xin's husband above, he is a spoiled child by his mother, who has already passed the age of an adult, but his mother still does not feel at ease, travel must follow, clothes must be prepared, and even thirsty and hungry must be taken care of.
And Xiaoxin's husband also enjoys the care given by his mother and enjoys it.
Is Ma Bao Man really unwilling to grow up? Maybe not, they're just used to everything their mother has arranged for them, and they should think that this is a normal life.
Because of the mother's long-term excessive intervention, it is difficult for the child's mind to grow normally, and over time, even if he is old, his psychology is still immature.
They can't distinguish between right and wrong, they can only use their mother as a standard, as long as it is different from what their mother says, they are all wrong.
Therefore, many women who marry Ma Bao men will feel that their husbands are always towards their mother-in-law, including Xiao Xin's husband above, always protecting her mother-in-law when Xiao Xin talks about her mother-in-law's problems, and also facing her mother-in-law when she refuses to compensate because she has soiled hotel items, and she does not understand right or wrong at all, but blindly obeys.
And Ma Bao men, most of them can't realize where their problems are, of course, there are also people who are aware of their own problems but don't want to change.
Second: Refusing to grow is a man's greatest irresponsibility.
Many moms and men actually know that they are different from others, especially after working or getting married, but few are willing to change.
There are roughly two reasons why Ma BaoNan is reluctant to grow up.
First, I am used to listening to my mother's words, and I don't want to think for myself from the heart, I don't want to change, and I think it's good to live like this all the time. So reject all the signals given by the outside world that can be changed, and just want to maintain the current state.
The second is to be afraid of the results of the change, if you are separated from your mother, can you live, can you handle things alone, because you are not sure, so you dare not change easily.
But for whatever reason, men who refuse to grow up are irresponsible to themselves and their families.
Everyone lives in this society is an individual, to be responsible for their own life, no one can protect you for a lifetime, if one day the mother is gone, how will the mother live?
Many mothers and men choose to get married and have children after listening to their mother's words, so they do not have much initiative in marriage, for them, marriage is the same as other things that their mother usually commands, as long as they do it.
This is also the reason why most women who marry Ma Bao men are not very happy.
Ma Bao Nan is also a poor person, but poor people must have something to hate, and it is better to stay away when they meet Ma Bao Man.
Text/No Pen