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It's been a week since Beckham's eldest son, Brooklyn, got married, but the heat remains high. Now Brooklyn and the newlywed wife are already in the honeymoon stage, but the location of the honeymoon is a little different, may be affected by the epidemic, the two people did not go out for the honeymoon, but in the Nicola family's mansion honeymoon, but look at this environment, more advanced than any other place.
Combined with the previous details, it is said that the wedding of two people cost tens of millions, and the cost was all borne by the woman, and in the wedding, Beckham once could not control the emotions and tears, which reminded people of the idea that this is not marrying a daughter-in-law, this is "marrying a son".
Sure enough, both the East and the West are the same, "marrying" and "marrying", the parents of both sides feel differently.
There is also a saying on the Internet that Victoria has been fashionable for half a lifetime, "Hao" for half a lifetime, but once she saw her teenage mother, she was instantly compared, 15 carats to 98 carats, graceful and luxurious to small family jasper, dignified atmosphere to "pajamas".
In fact, Victoria, who has a place in the fashion circle, is not so unbearable, it is still very fashionable and gorgeous, but it has met a stronger mother.
The man pays for it, and the parents are still happy
Since the ancient family and mother stand together is to be compared, don't say who does not care, everyone cares in their hearts, which is why it is said that the marriage of children is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two families, both sides have comparisons in all aspects, and then there are human contacts, and the relationship is very complicated.
In our traditional wedding, the house car, the wedding cost are prepared by the man, but the happiest is still the man, on the day of the child's wedding, the woman has a link that before the daughter leaves home, there will be a period of time alone with the mother, this time the mother will be more or less touched by tears, the sadness at this time is really sad.
Because in the traditional wedding, once the daughter is married, she will leave the house, that is, someone else's family, and the heart of the parents is naturally uncomfortable.
Since it is uncomfortable, don't let your daughter get married, right? If the daughter is old at home, her life will be more difficult, because she has to endure all kinds of gossip.
Under this tradition, although for the father's parents, the pressure of marriage is very large, and it is necessary to prepare sufficient money to prepare for the wedding of the son, but the new person enters the door, it is a new beginning, the family increases the population, and then the daughter-in-law has to have children for the family, of course, everything is worth it.
If the child's surname cannot be solved, the traditional model of the wedding will not be changed
We are always talking about marriage, about dowry, about bride price, but also always talk about equality between men and women in marriage, some people say that the bride price is too unreasonable, it should be canceled, some people say that women are really selfish, on the one hand, to pursue equality between men and women, when it comes to the bride price, the lion opens its mouth, saying that it is to follow the tradition.
Women are not willing to show weakness, the child's right to crown the surname is first of all a big problem, as long as this problem can not be solved, women will always feel that they have suffered losses. Don't say that you don't pay attention to the child's surname, the child's surname represents the family behind it, and as long as the child follows the man's surname, it is still the woman who gives birth to the man.
In fact, the best solution is that men should not argue about the bride price, and women should not argue about the surname of their children, all in accordance with traditional customs, there is no problem.
However, this problem can not be ignored, under the premise of more men and fewer women and women becoming more and more independent, women's confidence is getting more and more sufficient, and it is not easy to relax in the dowry, so it is time to issue the child's surname.
After Brooklyn and his wife get married, both sides add each other's surnames, which is not common in the West, after the Western couple gets married, the woman will add the husband's surname, and the husband generally does not add the woman's surname, but Brooklyn, Beckham and Victoria's eldest son, after marriage, the woman's surname is added to the name.
What is the price behind this surname? The woman bears the full cost of the wedding, of course, which is very easy and stress-free for the woman's family.
But this truth should be clear to everyone, the surname is so valuable.
This problem is not easy to solve in our country, because our surname is only one, although some people have also tried, the name is preceded by the parents' surname, but it looks too strange, such as "Wang Liuwei", such as "Gao Renqiang", when we name the child, in addition to the surname, we will also pay attention to the meaning of the child's name and the rhyme of reading, the two surnames are combined together, and can only be described by the word "strange".
Since the problem of the child's surname cannot be solved, the cost of the wedding and the bride price will continue to be maintained.
Traditional wedding, the bride price is necessary, but the dowry is determined according to the woman's family situation, since ancient times, the dowry represents the woman's status in the man's family, the higher the dowry, the greater the power of the mother's family, the higher the status.
In "Dream of the Red Chamber", after the decline of Jia Fu, Jia Mu's dowry can support the consumption of the entire family, which is also an important reason why Jia Mu has an unshakable position in Jia Fu.
In the current marriage, the dowry is really dispensable, but the bride price must exist unless the woman voluntarily gives up.
In the same way, a woman's dowry directly affects the woman's position in the man's family, unless the man's parents are very charitable and do not care about these details.
Since ancient times, the truth is the same, so there is no need to dwell on these things, marriage in addition to these trivialities, there is fate, encounter is fate, how to get along after that or depends on the individual, and the way of getting along directly affects the growth of children, all of which are interlocked.