Montaigne said: "Once love enters the stage of friendship, that is, into the stage of affection, it will weaken and disappear. Love is for the pleasure of the body, and once it is enjoyed, it ceases to exist. ”
Not to mention marriage?
In fact, all marriages, in the end, are just these two words.
01 Honeymoon period for newlyweds
"Holding the hand of the son and growing old with the son" is the expectation of all marriages at the beginning, and the honeymoon period is not enough, but also the desire for a lifetime.
"If life is only like the first sight", who does not show the best side of themselves at the beginning, but also from the heart everywhere to accommodate the lover, see the lover's smile like honey.
The honeymoon period is a beautiful time in marriage, when we were young, when we were not tired of raising children, when our parents were still physically strong, and at that time, we still had many dreams and expectations for life.
But something too beautiful, like a mirage, will disappear, and be so short.
It's just that we have the beauty of the past, and in the days to come, the bottom of our hearts is always warm.
02 Seven Year Itch
When did the "Seven Year Itch" come about?
It's just a blink of an eye.
From the moment we were used to each other's getting up, from the moment the lover knew what he thought without opening his mouth, the initial excitement and passion in the marriage slowly faded.
At this time, the child came, suddenly broke the original calm, only to know that raising a life requires so much energy, physical strength and financial resources.
Where mom still has her own time, the two worlds are even more unlikely. Women have become mothers who can't leave the ground for their children, but men have returned to the state of being single, squatting in the toilet every day with their mobile phones.
Of course, there are also super daddies that are enviable and pitifully few.
Husbands and wives are at work, who will take the children?
Mother-in-law comes, mother-in-law comes, small family becomes big family, one person has a temper, one person has an idea, and the days will be calm?
This is what marriage looks like.
Therefore, some people quarrel, some people have a cold war, some people cheat, some people divorce, the former sea oath mountain alliance is just a passing cloud, they are the most important, give themselves relief, or try to be happy for a while, the days always have an exit.
But more people, in marriage, have suffocation, fatigue, and want to escape, but still insist, just like a huge ship has set sail, the captain is left with huge responsibilities.
Or sentence: "For the sake of children, divorced, adults are happy, the most bitter is still children." ”
When a child is a child, I hate my parents for saying this. But when I became a parent, I knew that this was really a golden jade good word.
03 OK
"Make it up" - how many unmarried girls are afraid of these two words, hearing it is like being bombarded by five thunderbolts, in order not to make it up, they prefer to wait all the time, thinking that one day the person who is most in line with them will appear.
But, in fact, all marriages, in the end, are just these two words.
There is no perfect lover at all, no perfect marriage, not even yourself.
In my opinion, a marriage that can be reconciled is the most complete marriage.
There is always a time to experience sadness, despair, the other party will always make you hate the itchy teeth, after this, if you can still endure, there are entanglements, you can also remember when he looked at your gentle eyes, and is willing to make it up, it is enough.
Of course, in order not to make the other party feel better, that is, divorce and other "make-ups" are not included.
The concord here is more like the initial accommodation of the two people, if there is no accommodation, how can there be the original sweetness.
Romain Rolland said: "There is only one kind of heroism in the world, that is, to love life after seeing the truth of life." And I want to say that there is only one beautiful marriage in the world, that is, after seeing the truth of marriage, you can still live together in marriage, reconcile with yourself, truly accept your lover, and have inner peace and happiness.