The seven-year itch is a barrier to marriage! How can you get through the seven-year itch?

What is the Seven Year Itch?

Some people say that the seven-year itch refers to: one year fresh, two years familiar, three years boring, four years of thinking, five years of planning, six years of stupidity, seven years of action.

Some people also say that the seven-year itch is the seventh year or so after the lover's marriage, will face a great marital crisis, if you can cross this hurdle, then the relationship between the two will rise to a higher level.

On the contrary, your relationship will change qualitatively, and even make the marriage break up.

Yes, when the marriage lasted for seven years, the heart and passion of the once hot love have long been worn away by the wind and waves of the years, and love has long been transformed into family affection. Two people living together are as tasteless as boiled water.

At this time, although each other has long been accustomed to this kind of blandness, in fact, some people will be eager to find a person who can stimulate a sense of freshness in their hearts.

If it is really encountered at this time, I believe that few people can refuse such a temptation, so many people have extramarital affairs.

Here are some suggestions to try if you can improve the married life between you:

It's not that it's not necessarily your problem, but you feel that at this stage you want to see if it can improve your relationship and make some attempts!

1. The charm of language

No matter how long you have been married, you must insist on saying the three words "I love you" to each other.

Come to think of it, how long have you not said the words "I love you" to your lover? Is it that at this stage of the old husband and wife, they feel that they can't say it?

No matter how many years you have been married, please don't be stingy about saying these three words to your lover, every day before going to bed or when you get up, take her into your arms, and then gently say to her I love you, let her feel the love in your heart.

Don't underestimate these three words, it can not only maintain the spiritual communication between husband and wife, but also continuously promote the feelings of your husband and wife, why not enjoy it?

1. Talk more sweetly. Such as: Dear, baby, I miss you, can't wait to fly to you. Little well-behaved, little cute, little north nose, little piggy pig and so on.

2. Praise each other more. Wife you are so beautiful! Hello husband! The dishes you make are delicious! You are awesome! Hello excellent! Wait a minute

3. Care more about each other. Honey are you tired? I give you a massage massage. Are you thirsty, dear? I'll pour you a glass of water. Dear are you happy today? What do you want to share with me?

4. Be thankful for each other. Husband, you have worked hard! It hurts me to work so hard alone outside. Thank you! Wife you've worked hard! One person takes care of the housework, educates the children, and runs the family so well! Wife thank you!

5. Communicate in another language. For example, English:

“Honey~,what do you want to eat?”

“I want to eat ------you”

6. Body language. One look, one smile, one stroke, one hug.

Two. The temptation to dress up

Because of the passage of time, you are no longer willing to spend time to create romance, nor are you willing to spend time carefully dressing yourself, and you are not willing to become better for each other, the reason why there will be a seven-year itch between you is because you have become lazy with each other, and you have become more and more casual about this marriage.

1. Dress up. Pay attention to dressing at home and not too casually, and always maintain your appearance to attract each other.

2. Dress up at home. Often decorate the home with flowers, candles, balloon lights, etc., to create a romantic atmosphere.

3. Let the other party see a different self and improve the attractiveness.

4. Sexy dress up. Each other wears sexy costumes according to each other's preferences and attracts each other.

Three, regular appointments

Many couples who have been married for many years always feel that dating is the patent of young people, and when they reach a certain age, there is no need to live in the two-person world with their lovers.

In fact, it is wrong to think so, because of the marriage for many years, it is more important to create some opportunities in the world of two, to go to a relaxing movie every week, to have a candlelit dinner on a special day, to drink a glass of red wine in an elegant restaurant, and to taste food, which can make the feelings between you continue to sublimate.

1. Dating style. Agree on a time and place, the two carefully dressed up to go to the appointment, you can pretend to meet in Pingshui, leave contact information for each other, and send the girl home after eating together.

2. Date location. It can be a bar, a western restaurant, a music restaurant, a hotel, an amusement park, a movie theater, a park, a shopping mall, etc.

3. Dating cycle. On average, there is a full date every two months, from acquaintance to relationship determination.

Fourth, etiquette is light and affectionate

1. The type of gift. From hand-written greeting cards to hearty dinners made by yourself, a bouquet of flowers, a piece of jewelry, to a romantic trip.

2. The time of gift giving. It can be a birthday, a wedding anniversary, a holiday, or a weekend, or any day of your life.

3. The way to give gifts. It can be a surprise, giving a small gift without the other person's knowledge, or agreeing to give gifts to each other on each anniversary. Agree on where to go on a romantic trip on a certain day in a certain month of a certain year.

What I want to summarize here is that the above method is based on mutual respect, mutual understanding and mutual support between husband and wife. In the case of both spouses voluntarily working together to make changes, find a way that suits them, and grasp the right amount of measure.

Do not overdo everything, keep the mystery fresh, communicate and communicate with husband and wife in a timely manner, and discuss together to achieve the expected satisfactory effect.