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Xiao Li and her boyfriend Xiao Liu have been in love for more than five years and intend to get married this year, so during the Spring Festival, Xiao Li followed Xiao Liu back to his hometown for the New Year, planning to meet the man's parents and relatives, and also talk about the wedding.
Before going back, Xiao Li bought a lot of gifts in large bags, thinking that when he met each other's parents for the first time, he should behave more mature and generous and strive to make a good impression.
However, this Trip to the Spring Festival did not bring her imaginary harmony and pleasure, but because of the dissatisfaction of the mother-in-law, Xiao Liu chose to break up with herself and planned to cancel the wedding, and the two said goodbye.
At first, Xiao Li was full of confusion, five years of feelings scattered, she always had to know a reason, but she did not expect that the real reason would make her so ridiculous.
Painfully, Xiao Li said that thanks to not blindly marrying the past, because the marriage is also the union of the families of both sides, if there is a big difference in concept, it is better not to tie the knot.
Xiao Li said that the reason why she accepted the result of the breakup was because she found that if there were the following differences between them, then perhaps no result was the best result.
First: The concept of consumption is too different, and there are many misunderstandings
Xiao Li said that in order to make a good impression on the man's family, she bought a lot of gifts for Xiao Liu's parents and relatives. Precious silk scarves, precious medicinal herbs, tonics for the elderly, children's toys, she almost prepared what people of all ages needed, and also carefully inquired about who was in Xiao Liu's family.
However, after receiving the gift, the mother-in-law was not as happy as she imagined, but accused her of spending so much money and wasting her real money for the sake of face.
Xiao Li explained repeatedly, but the mother-in-law still quietly told her son and father-in-law that she would not live a life when she saw it.
When with this impression, the mother-in-law's attitude towards herself has been lukewarm, Xiao Li thought, the final life with herself is still Xiao Liu, although the mother-in-law is temporarily dissatisfied, there will always be a chance to slowly change in the future.
As everyone knows, because this gift-giving thing has actually become the fuse of being divorced, in the name of not living a life, the mother-in-law does not agree to this marriage.
Second: The difference in living habits is too large, and there are many contradictions
Although Xiao Li is not a life of gold and jade food in her own home, in order to maintain her health for many years, she has always paid great attention to dietary collocation, eating less oil and less salt, and eating meat only eats lean meat.
However, after arriving at Xiao Liu's house, the mother-in-law always forced herself to eat fat meat, Xiao Li was afraid of refuting the old man's face, and swallowed it hard, but the mother-in-law mistakenly thought that Xiao Li liked fat meat very much, and also piled a high pile for her in the bowl.
Xiao Liu knew her girlfriend's living habits, so he helped her explain that in fact, she did not eat fat meat, but this sentence made the mother-in-law angry, reprimanding her for being spoiled and habitual, which did not eat that did not eat, it was difficult to serve.
Xiao Li felt very aggrieved, but later on, the difference in living habits will indeed lead to a lot of contradictions. So break up, at least to avoid more conflicts.
Different growth environments often mean that people have different living habits, whether it is eating or living, treating people or receiving things, everyone always has their own habits. Marriage is the union of two families, and since it has been decided to live together, tolerance is the most important.
Xiao Li said that he obviously had already made concessions, but the mother-in-law still did not give up, so it seems that it may be inappropriate to marry in the past.
A happy marriage needs to be well managed, but before doing business, it is also necessary to ensure that each other and each other's families can adapt to each other and understand each other. If the two sides are too different in terms of consumption concepts and living habits, then perhaps breaking up is a better choice.
Although the feelings of a few years are not to be abandoned, compared to the long decades of life, a few years are nothing. Choosing a person and building a family with him is not only the choice of the two people themselves, but also the choice of each other's family and habits.
Therefore, it may be good for everyone to be cautious.
Although today's society no longer overemphasizes the concept of "door to door", the habits left by the ancients have their wisdom after all.
For modern people, "door to door" may refer more to each other's family conditions, concepts and habits of suitability, after all, only in this way, life will not become a chicken feather, some are just happy and smooth.
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