In today's society, contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are still emerging. Some mothers-in-law are always unaccustomed to their daughter-in-law and their sons having a good relationship, and she always feels that when their daughter-in-law's family comes to her home, she comes to rob her son. Therefore, she always spoke harshly to her daughter-in-law. She also often provokes her son's post-marital feelings with her daughter-in-law in front of her son, or pretends to be weak in front of her son, saying that her daughter-in-law bullies her and lets her son administer justice to her.
But such an idea is wrong. Your daughter-in-law marries into your family because of one more person filial piety to you, not one more enemy for you. You should treat your daughter-in-law as if you were your own, so that your son's married life will be harmonious, your later life will be happy, and your family will become better and better.
Instead of treating your daughter-in-law like an enemy, it will only tear your family apart and make your son a bachelor again, which is not what you want to see.
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Nine years of love and long-distance running, and finally entered the palace of marriage.
Gao Feng and Zhong Qi met in high school. In her freshman year of high school, Zhong Qi had heard gao Feng's name. She knew that Gao Feng was a school bully. Because At this time, Zhong Qi felt that she was unremarkable, so she did not show her face in front of Gao Feng much.
On the contrary, Gao Feng often noticed Zhong Qi, zhong Qi had a very good relationship with a girl in their class, and Gao Feng was also stopped by Zhong Qi once by chance, asking him to call the girl before he knew Zhong Qi. Then he was attracted to Zhong Qi, although everyone was wearing school uniforms, he could see at a glance that Zhong Qi was different.
After the second year of high school, Gao Feng and Zhong Qi were assigned to the same class. And Gao Feng took the initiative to find Zhong Qi to be the same table. Zhong Qi was very happy after knowing it. After the two people had been at the same table for a while, Gao Feng confessed to Zhong Qi, and Zhong Qi, who had liked Gao Feng for a long time, immediately agreed.
After two people are together, they are often coaxed by classmates. Although each time, the two people were very red in the face after being coaxed, the two people never denied it. And Zhong Qi is also studying hard for the peak. She hopes they will go to the same university after graduating from high school. Later, the teacher also knew their love affair, but the teacher saw that the two of them were helping each other, and they were not disturbed to study, so they pretended not to see.
After the end of the college entrance examination, the two people filled in the exact same university. In the end, the two men got what they wanted. After going to college, the two of them were like ordinary couples, going to the library together every day and going out to play together every weekend. Although the feelings of the two people were stumbling, quarrelsome and quarrelsome, and they were divided and merged many times, they finally persisted for seven years.
After graduating from graduate school, the two people took each other to meet their parents, and the two families basically agreed with the marriage of the two of them. In the middle of this, although Gao Feng's mother was a little unhappy, in the end Gao Feng still convinced his mother. In the end, Zhong Qi wore her beloved wedding dress and married her boyfriend of nine years.
After getting married, the two people discussed and decided to return to their hometown to develop, after all, their hometown is also a second-tier city. The parents of the two families also made a down payment together and bought a house for the two children in full.
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After marriage, Zhong Qi was bullied by her mother-in-law, and Gao Feng blamed Zhong Qi instead.
Zhong Qi thought that after getting married, the life of the two of them would be stable, and there should be no more so much noise. The married life at the beginning was indeed as Zhong Qi expected, they lived very happily, and the feelings of the two people were also very sweet. They also didn't have as many arguments as they did in college.
But a year after the two were married, Gao Feng's father died. Gao Feng's mother was left alone in the family, and Gao Feng did not trust his mother, and after consulting with Zhong Qi, he took his mother to his side.
Before Zhong Qi and her mother-in-law did not have a lot of contact, she always thought that her mother-in-law was a very good talker, but the performance after the arrival of her mother-in-law was completely different from what Zhong Qi imagined.
After the mother-in-law came, she began to pick Zhong Qi's thorn, saying that this was inappropriate at home, that it was not appropriate, and she did not let Gao Feng do it. In the final analysis, it is to let Zhong Qi take care of the housework at home, and the arrangement of the home should be with the mother-in-law's wishes.
Zhong Qi always tolerated her mother-in-law at the beginning, and she felt that it was not easy for her mother-in-law to be alone. But Zhong Qi found that her tolerance was a joke, because her mother-in-law had gone too far. She not only picked her own thorns, but also always complained in front of The Peak that he had bullied her.
She also said to Gao Feng, "Your daughter-in-law often does not give me food when you are not at home, and always lets me do housework, and if I do not do a good job of housework, she will scold me." ”
Originally, Gao Feng did not believe that Zhong Qi was such a person, but the mother-in-law said it more often, and Gao Feng also began to doubt. And his attitude towards Zhong Qi became more and more cold. Zhong Qi was still very confused at first, why did Gao Feng's attitude towards himself deteriorate? But then, once, her quarrel with Gao Feng exposed her mother-in-law's "complaint".
And it was this quarrel that made Zhong Qi determined to divorce Gao Feng. Although Gao Feng pleaded in every way, Zhong Qi still did not change her mind, and she also said to Gao Feng, "If you want to blame, blame your mother, if she had not been reversing black and white, I would not have given up our marriage." ”
After the divorce, Zhong Qi was also very sad, but she did not regret leaving Gao Feng and leaving the marriage that suffocated her.
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The mother-in-law asked Zhong Qi for forgiveness, but Zhong Qi had started a new life.
When Zhong Qi and Gao Feng were just separated, the mother-in-law had been waiting for Zhong Qi to return. The mother-in-law felt that in the end, Zhong Qi would come back and ask her son to remarry, but she was just angry. But the mother-in-law waited for a year, and did not wait for Zhong Qi to come back to find The peak.
In this year, because the peak work is very busy, so the family chores are done by the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law gradually understands Zhong Qi's good, because as long as Zhong Qi is at home, the family chores will never have to be done by themselves. So, she went to Zhong Qi and said to Zhong Qi, "Daughter-in-law, I apologize to you, you go home and remarry my son." ”
"It's late, I just got married last week." Zhong Qi said. It turned out that Zhong Qi was very sad after the divorce, and she went to relax. And Zhong Qi's green plum bamboo horse has been very fond of Zhong Qi since he was a child, and when he heard that Zhong Qi was divorced, he immediately followed him.
Along the way, he took care of Zhong Qi and also took the opportunity to express his heart to Zhong Qi. He also said to Zhong Qi, "I know you are very sad now, so I don't want you to make a decision now, and I hope that after you have seriously considered it, you will come back to me." But I will always be by your side. ”
After Zhong Qi returned home, her current mother-in-law often came to Zhong Qi's house to say good things for her son. And her current mother-in-law has never abandoned her previous marriage, but is very distressed about her. In the end, Zhong Qi finally agreed to the relationship, and after the two people talked about love for half a year, they got married.
And now Zhong Qi has no mother-in-law contradiction at all. Her current mother-in-law offers her in the palm of her hand as a baby, but instead often scolds her own son to make her son better for Zhong Qi. Let Zhong Qi not be wronged again
As a mother-in-law, you should not interfere too much in your son's married life, you should learn to let go, instead of always treating him as a child
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You should let him learn to make his own decisions instead of following your advice all the time. This is not good for his future life. Once in society, your son should have his own opinions, not blindly listen to the opinions of others. If he listens to others all the time, he will be led by the nose and will not help his career.
As a husband, you should know how to respect your wife, rather than blindly listening to your mother. You should also trust your wife's character and trust that she won't do anything bad to your mother. If you doubt her, it's a question of your original vision.
As a wife, when your mother-in-law bullies you, you don't blindly swallow your anger. If you don't resist all the time, then she may bully you all the time because she thinks you're a bully. This is not good for your future life.