Text/Fengge Jiang Zuo Mei Niang
Photo: Stills from "Love in the Time of Cholera"
Mr. Yang Said:
"No matter what the relationship, the love is exhausted, and the fate comes to the end."
When a relationship comes to an end, the best solution is to leave.
In real life, especially in the relationship between men and women, we often hear the phrase "good gathering and good dispersion", which sounds light and does not care. And how many people can be so free and natural when implemented in practical action?
The protagonist of "Love in the Time of Cholera", Alyssa, has been obsessed with his first love, Fermina, all his life, even if she has long been married, he still silently pays attention to everything about her.
During this period, he had loved many women, but no one could go into his heart. While he had waited for fifty-three years, seven months and eleven days, he finally waited for his goddess, Fermina, and then spent his whole life guarding the love that belonged to them belatedly.
He once said: "No one is more graceful than her sleeping position, with one hand on her forehead like a sketch of a dance." ”
He was so close to her that he could even hear her every breath and smell the sweet fragrance emanating from her body. For the rest of his life, he relied on this sweet fragrance to identify her. It is precisely because he can't put it down that he will use such beautiful words to describe her.
Or the subtle object of love depicted in the book Amber Rhinoceros in Love, which says:
"You're my warm gloves, cold beer, shirt with the smell of sunshine, day in and day out."
It's beautiful! Every woman wants to be Fermina in the heart of her beloved man.
In real life, a man, if there are these two performances, it means that he has never let go of you, you are the Fermina in his heart, don't believe it.
01. Can't help but contact you
If a man can't put down a woman, he will involuntarily and involuntarily contact you, even if he knows that it is a shame to do so. However, he will not be able to control himself, and he will not be able to help himself.
He'll have something to call you, send a message, know what you're doing, and he'll be at ease.
Han Yong and Zhong Qi are a college couple because they are two provinces, one in Liaoning, one in Shenzhen, and the north of Tiannanhai. Parents on both sides are not supportive. Coupled with his own insidious ideas, he broke up after graduation.
Peacefully parted, their contact information is still there. Just silently withdraw from the other person's world and stop disturbing.
But after a period of time, the balance of Han Yong's feelings is still biased towards Zhong Qi, and the seeds of feelings have already taken root in his heart, how to hinder its germination? He missed her so much that he started flipping through their chat history. When those beautiful pasts came to his mind, he could no longer control his thoughts about her, and when there was nothing to do, he would send her a message, not to talk about anything else, just a normal greeting between classmates and friends.
Han Yong told me that if he didn't talk for a few days, his heart would be empty, but even if he talked to her a few words, he would feel better in his heart.
A few years later, Han Yong went to Zhong Qi's urban development project. As soon as the two of them met, they hugged their headaches and cried. Han Yong said that over the years, Zhong Qi has always been in his heart and has never left, how can he put it down?
In Amber Rhinoceros in Love, it says:
"There were many times when I wanted to give up, but she left a painful feeling somewhere in her body, and I was afraid at the thought that it would faintly hurt there, and the thought that in the future my eyes that looked at everything would become lifeless because of that little pain."
Yes, Han Yong once had the idea of giving up, but as soon as he thought of their former beauty, his heart began to faintly ache, and he began to feel sad at the thought of losing her forever. In the end, fortunately, the old people on both sides also understood their love, and the two eventually entered the palace of marriage.
02. Remembering and becoming a complex that cannot be solved in the heart
As the saying goes, falling in love with someone can take a lifetime to forget someone, and it can take a lifetime of time and energy to fall in love with, while Amber Rhinoceros says:
"Forgetting is the only thing the average person can do, but I decided not to forget her."
Liu Yang is such an extraordinary person.
Liu Yang and Wang Xia talked about love for three years, and finally it was time to talk about marriage. Unexpectedly, the sharp claws of the disease reached out to Wang Xia. Before she could put on her wedding dress, the man left.
Liu Yang, who fell into a trough, also fell ill and spent several months in confusion. Liu Yang said that there would never be a second Wang Xia in this life, because her name was already deeply rooted in his heart. Yes, as depicted in Amber The Rhinoceros in Love,
"You are the sunny day I have longed for for a long time, and you are the storm that I have been caught off guard."
Wang Xia has become an irreplaceable Wushan and Canghai in Liu Yang's heart.
"Forget her, forget her so you don't have to endure it anymore, forget her you don't have to suffer anymore, forget her... Forget about love. ”
But how can someone who has truly loved one easily forget it? Even if it was painful, he was not willing to forget it. In the future, whoever introduced Liu Yang to the object, he ignored it.
Thinking of Lin Huiyin's death many years later, one day, Jin Yuelin suddenly invited a group of old friends to the Beijing Hotel to meet, and after everyone arrived, they inexplicably asked him, why did Old Jin invite guests today? At this time, Jin Yuelin, who was already over the age of ancient, said, "Today is Lin Huiyin's birthday." ”
Everyone looked at this old man with gray hair but still alone, and they were all moved.
This talented and beautiful woman has always haunted his heart and made him unforgettable.
As "There is a love obsession in the human world, and this hatred is not related to the wind and the moon." "Some love may really be irreplaceable by anyone."
03. Mei Niang said
"People can live on carbon dioxide, as long as you have love."
Yes, love is very important, although in this era, too many people have long been extravagant about love.
It is said that women are sensual animals and fall in love with their ears. Men are rational animals and fall in love with their eyes. However, whether it is emotional or rational, people have feelings, and it is difficult to really fall in love with a person. Men are not all utilitarian creatures without feelings, and when he really falls in love with a woman, he will indeed be crazy, crazy, and obsessed with her.
Some people say that the taste of missing a person is like drinking a large glass of ice water and then shedding tears for a long, long time, yes, this is the specific manifestation of not being able to put down a person.
Others say I'll love you as a friend so I'll never lose you. I have given you all my heart, and you don't have to pay me back, the touching words, the words are full of infatuation with a person and can't let go.
"Because of you, I'm afraid to die." "If your soul lived in another body I would still love you?" If your eyebrows have changed, your eyes have changed, your breath has changed, your voice has changed, is love still there? "Amber Rhinoceros in Love" is the novella of Liao Yimei's "Pessimistic Trilogy". Gao Yuan, the prodigal son of Deng, thought that he had seduced the young and simple girl Xiao You, but Xiao You's approach was also with his own secret purpose. Temptation and being seduced, perseverance and betrayal... This is a love story born out of "one heart", a book that tells you that a life without experiencing crazy love is not worth living. True love, is able to moth to put out the fire, but also bravely hit the south wall, have seen too much utilitarian love, do you want to experience a purest love journey? This book can satisfy you.
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