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When in love, people always hide the real side, show the good side to each other, if there is no pressure in life, have not experienced the major events that determine the direction of life, it is basically difficult to gain insight into a person.
The more intimate the relationship between two people, the easier it is to be kept in the dark, after all, the flower before the moon is enough to make people who fall in love lose their original judgment, especially women, when they meet people they like, they often "don't know the true face of Lushan".
Just like the netizen "duckweed", it is precisely because of buying a house before marriage that I saw the calculation of the phoenix man, gritted my teeth and broke the feelings of five years, and came to see her story.
My boyfriend and I are campus couples, still half a fellow countryman, in different provinces and cities, when I just graduated, I wanted to buy a house and get married immediately, but out of uncertainty about the future, so I have not made up my mind, it is my momentary hesitation, and I have now regretted it.
At first, our work was still unstable, always struggling to stay and work, or to go home to develop, so in order to be convenient and save money, we have always shared a room with others, a few square meters of that kind of cubicle, put down a small bed and only a small aisle.
I feel that it doesn't matter if I have enough to drink, but my parents are not happy, because I have not suffered much since I was a child, so I insist on changing a better living environment.
The boyfriend was reluctant, thinking that it was only temporary, there was no need to spend too much money, although he moved twice, but in essence there was not much improvement.
In the blink of an eye, after two years of wandering outside, the parents of both sides urged us to go back, his parents felt that they should seize the time to get married and have children, and my parents thought that the boyfriend was ambitious and talented, the family conditions were not optimistic, and it was good to separate early.
I begged for a long time, and my mother reluctantly agreed to investigate for a while, but only if we had to come back, boyfriend's work, and father would help solve it. Being able to stay at home without worrying about work, the boyfriend readily agreed.
Last year was the fifth year of our relationship, I had my own studio, I also opened a dessert shop with a friend, the boyfriend did well in work, the income continued to rise, and the relationship also came to the time of marriage.
My father respected my choice, but my mother has always been not optimistic, thinking that the boyfriend's original family will become a drag after marriage, and often talks about the "phoenix man" and persuades me to change my mind.
It is true that the boyfriend came out of the village, in addition to the poor money, nothing else is bad, although these are in line with the preconditions of the phoenix man, but it is not as sensational as described on the Internet, see I have an iron heart, and my mother no longer says anything.
For this family affair, the man's family is obviously more in a hurry, considering the actual situation of the in-laws' family, the parents do not want a bride price, but also promised to accompany a car, only ask the boyfriend to buy a house.
After all, without a house, you can't settle down, you can't settle down, love has no place to go, the parents' requirements are not excessive, and the in-laws agree to it very happily.
Originally, it was a matter of great joy for everyone, but I did not expect that on the issue of buying a house, my mother-in-law played with her heart.
At first, the in-laws shouted out the slogan of smashing pots and selling iron, but also to buy a house in full, and then there was no movement, and the boyfriend gave a reasonable explanation: at once, he could not find so much money, even if he pieced it together, he could only buy a small apartment with a poor location, so the mother-in-law planned to use the money that could be used to move, mortgage a larger area, better location of the house, after marriage we repaid the loan together.
Although there will be pressure, in the long run, if you can meet expectations in one step, you don't have to think about school districts and the like, you don't have to worry, so my parents and I agreed without thinking too much.
However, the marriage room was fixed, and the mother-in-law said that I could not add my name, because it was their down payment, coupled with the son's high salary, the income was enough to repay the monthly payment, and I did not have to worry about the problem of the mortgage, so naturally I could not add my name.
This is obviously different from what I said at the beginning, but I ran to my boyfriend in anger and asked, "The mortgage can cover your salary, so who will take care of life?" Co-authored you bought yourself a suite, eating and drinking Lazar all pushed me? ”
The boyfriend knew that he was wrong, but he was reluctant to add my name for half a day, and he was in a hurry, so he pushed his mother-in-law to the front and looked at him like a nest that he did not dare to take on, and even the air was filled with a feeling of depression, which made me anxious.
I told my parents the original version of the matter, and my mother was so angry that she slapped the table and blamed the man's family for not being authentic, calculating to the bone, and then my father thought of a way.
In the next few days, my father specially arranged time to accompany me to see a few houses, chose a hardcover two-bedroom apartment, went through the formalities in my name, paid a down payment, and I repaid every month.
After the phoenix man learned about it, he was very anxious, did not say a few words on the phone, insisted on interviewing me, it was very late, I asked him to come directly to the house.
As soon as I entered the door, I didn't say hello to my parents first, and they shouted at me, "Raising two houses at the same time, the pressure after marriage is too great, who gave you the courage to come here like this?" ”
While turning off the TV, my father said in our direction lightly, "I gave, the house of the in-laws does not write my daughter's name, why can't the mother-in-law buy another set?" She gave you all her youth, if something happens after marriage, what do you want my daughter to do? Besides, you pay back yours, she gives her back, two don't delay, spend your own, isn't that good? ”
After the father finished speaking, he ignored us and greeted his mother and went back to the room, and the phoenix man was frozen in place, opening his mouth for half a day, stunned that he did not say a word.
Before leaving, he said indignantly, "You pay the loan, who supports the family, is it difficult to count on me alone?" Your family is so calculating. ”
Then, the phoenix man insisted that I sell the house and use the money for the decoration of the wedding house, but I refused, and he accused me of not being sincere and going to his house.
In this regard, I did not bother to argue, but I saw his personality clearly and lost confidence in this relationship. It is clear that he and his mother-in-law are calculating first, but they are rightly beaten upside down, and such a man and family are really not suitable for marriage.
I proposed to break up, and the phoenix man moved out of his mother-in-law to persuade me to focus on the overall situation so as not to regret it. I smiled and declined his kindness, and now it's better to be two clear than to be upset after marriage, isn't it?
It is said that love is easy to get married and difficult to marry, because when in love, the external conditions of two people are obvious, relying on your love and my wishes, and when it comes to the stage of talking about marriage and marriage, in the face of major events in life, the three views hidden in the bones may gradually be revealed.
This is why it is often at critical moments that we can see the essence of a person.
Mate selection can not follow the feeling, whether marriage can be happy, but also in the choice of people, love the right person, every day is Valentine's Day, look away, not married is fine, once the dust settles, it will regret a lifetime.
Therefore, no matter how much you like a person, you must also carry it clearly, at least understand that it is better to break up before marriage than to shoot and scatter after marriage.
In the feelings, there is no way to have both, but people who can break their wrists and stop losses in time will generally not be too bad, on the contrary, people who are reluctant to have children and want to set wolves usually will not live well, you say?
Good times are always short, thank you for reading this, I hope the story between us will continue, the bar is ready to listen here, is your story ready?