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Women's lives are destined to be more difficult than men's, because women have to integrate into a strange family after marriage, and some women are lucky enough to meet a more kind family, everyone gets along very harmoniously, and the days are naturally happier. And some women are very unfortunate, met some unreasonable in-laws, marriage is difficult to say. Some couples directly terminate their marriages because of the influence of their in-laws.
The 29-year-old Ms. Zhou's in-laws are also not very easy to get along with, especially Ms. Zhou's sister-in-law, who are naturally incompatible, can't talk together, and usually have conflicts. Some time ago, it was the birthday of Ms. Zhou's husband, and as a result, the sister-in-law did not let Ms. Zhou come to the table, and there was a big contradiction for this. Let's take a look.
Self-narrator: Ms. Zhou
I am 29 years old and I have lived a carefree life since I was a child. My parents owned a garment factory, and I haven't worried about money since I can remember. When I was studying, my pocket money was often the largest among my classmates, and my parents were afraid that I would not have enough money to spend, so they would give me a lot of pocket money every month.
They also gave me a suite on my 18th birthday and can say that I am really a very happy person. Maybe it's also because my parents protected me too well, so I can say that I am emotionally blank, and after meeting my husband, I quickly fell in love.
My husband is two years older than me, and he is very tall and handsome, and he is completely in the type I like. And others are also very gentlemanly, and I feel very happy when I get along with him. And my husband is very considerate to me, I frown slightly, he is particularly nervous, every month I am uncomfortable in the few days she is also she is taking care of me, it can be said that tireless.
The more I did this, the more I liked him, in fact, my parents did not agree with us together. Because in their eyes, my husband is an authentic phoenix man, such a man is unreliable. Phoenix men don't care about their wives at all, and the most important thing in their hearts is their original family.
My parents loved me so much that they certainly didn't want me to marry into such a family. I can also understand my parents' hard feelings, but I really can't control my feelings, I once thought about listening to my parents and breaking up with my husband, but when I thought that we would never see each other in the future, I felt particularly sad in my heart.
I really can't imagine the days without my husband," so in the end I still couldn't make up my mind, despite my parents' objections, and I wanted to be with my husband. Then I got pregnant, and when my parents learned about it, they couldn't bear to beat the mandarin duck anymore, so they agreed to our marriage.
Our wedding is my parents to do, but also my parents out of the money, the marriage room is also bought by my parents, my wedding room is still quite large, more than 200 square meters, is in accordance with my preferences decoration, furniture and appliances are also ready for me. In fact, many of my friends at that time advised me to think about it carefully, and they did not look favorably on my marriage, but I was hot-headed and did not want to listen to the persuasion of others.
In fact, when we first got married, we were quite happy. I still do the same as in my mother's house, I don't have to do housework, everything in the family is worried about my husband, and I don't have any troubles. Later, my husband told me that he wanted to take my in-laws over, so that my in-laws could take care of me, and I wouldn't have to work so hard.
I thought about it carefully and agreed, my in-laws live in their hometown, their lives are not good, and they should also be taken over to enjoy their happiness. In this way, my husband will be happier, and I don't know anything when I give birth to a child for the first time, and my mother-in-law has given birth to two, and she is also more experienced and can take care of me.
But I didn't expect that my in-laws would actually bring my sister-in-law over, and my sister-in-law didn't read after high school, and after graduating from high school, she found a job in her hometown and accompanied her in-laws. When the mother-in-law came, the sister-in-law did not want to live alone in her hometown, so she followed.
Although I was a little surprised, I was not the kind of sister-in-law who could not tolerate a sister-in-law, and there were many rooms at home anyway, and it was not a problem to live with one more person. However, later I found that the sister-in-law was a matter of fact, and she was a kind of person with a particularly feudal mind, and she always looked at me unfavorably everywhere.
Usually, when I let my husband work, she was very unhappy, often grunting, and even several times directly confronted me, saying that I did not know how to hurt my husband at all. On their side, the housework is done by women, and women must serve their husbands well, otherwise they will be abandoned.
I really did not expect that there would be such a backward place, I have received an equal education for men and women since I was a child, I absolutely cannot do that kind of husband as a heaven, I think it is a very normal thing for me to call my husband, plus I was pregnant at that time, and my husband took care of me as he should have.
So I really hate my sister-in-law, and every time she says that, I get into a big fight with her. And my husband is always a peacemaker, never firmly stood by my side, often said good things for the sister-in-law, I hope that I have a lot of adults, do not worry about the sister-in-law.
At that time, I realized that in my husband's heart, it was still the most important thing for my sister-in-law, and my wife was not as good as my sister-in-law. I began to feel regretful, but we were all married, children were going to be born, and regret was useless, so I had to stick with it.
But I never let my sister-in-law, they all live in my house, why let me suffer such grievances? So I often quarreled with my sister-in-law, and we both hated each other and looked down on each other. Later, my daughter was born, and my sister-in-law said that I was not capable, that I had eaten so many good things, and that I was still giving birth to a daughter, and said very angry words.
My daughter is my bottom line, as a mother no one can stand others to say this about their children, because of this matter, my relationship with my sister-in-law is getting worse and worse, usually the sister-in-law talks to me, I will not pay attention to her, because I really hate her more and more.
And the sister-in-law is also more and more excessive to me, last week's Saturday was my husband's birthday, and I also invited more relatives that day. Because I have to take care of my daughter, plus I don't cook well, so the meals are made by my in-laws and sister-in-law.
As a result, the sister-in-law was very unhappy because of this matter, and when she was preparing to eat, she directly said to me: "Sister-in-law, the rule of our family is that the daughters are not worthy of the table to eat, so I am sorry, you can order your own food and go back to the room to eat, don't hinder our eyes here, our family wants to eat a good meal." ”
When I heard these words, the anger in my heart immediately rose, and I directly pushed my mother-in-law who was sitting on the chair off the table and said to my mother-in-law: "Your daughter is talking about you, why are you still sitting here?" You also have a daughter, and you are not eligible to eat at the table. ”
After saying that, I also made a big fuss, and finally my husband's birthday party was not successful, and the family was very unhappy. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong, and the more I tolerate it, the more they think I'm a bully. Whether it is in-laws, husbands or sisters-in-law, only the four of them are a family in their hearts, and no matter how good I am to them, I am an outsider.
I don't want to put up with it anymore, I must be strong in the future, if they dare to bully me again, then I will not hesitate to choose divorce.
Write at the end
Marriage is a lifelong event for women, we must listen to the advice of our parents, do not make decisions easily, otherwise it is likely to make you regret it for the rest of your life. After marriage, don't tolerate it everywhere, only if you are strong, your in-laws will not dare to bully.