In the past, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was difficult to deal with, and there was a gap between two women in many cases. With the progress of the times, the mother-in-law is becoming more and more enlightened, and the daughter-in-law is becoming more and more sensible, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has slowly been alleviated. The sword between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not as fierce as in the past, but there are more and more "generations of hatred". In the past, it was all about intergenerational relatives, but now they are tense and have become "intergenerational enmity".
In the past, in a family, the most loving children were grandparents, and when they saw the growth of their grandchildren, they felt like their lives were extended. As the old man grows older, his heart will become more naïve, so that he will be closer to his grandchildren.
In addition, there are many contradictions with children in the process of growing up, so even if children grow up, they cannot let go. So grandchildren are more likely to get more care, as if to give the elderly and children a chance to reconcile. When the grandchildren are young, they will not have as many minds as adults, that is, the psychology of simple you being good to me and being good to me. Grandchildren will also be good grandparents, soothing the loneliness of the elderly, so there will be a phenomenon of generational relatives.
Why does the intergenerational relative become a intergenerational vendetta? One of the main reasons is social progress, the older generation of grandparents has not kept up with the pace of the times, and the same is true in the concept of parenting. Children usually listen to their parents, but in grandparents, the concept is inconsistent.
Parents are younger than grandparents in age, naturally closer to the child's ideas, and children are more willing to listen to their parents, but there are cases where grandparents are there. Parents are forced by the pressure of their elders, and they can only choose to give in, so that their children listen to their grandparents' ideas, and their children will have a grandparents' habit of managing their own ideas.
Many grandparents are simply unconditionally spoiled by their grandchildren, and they feel that the conditions are good now, and there is such a child in the family, so naturally they must give him the best care. It is no exaggeration to say that I am afraid of melting in my mouth, and I am afraid of falling in my hand. In this way, the child will understand a truth better, and the crying child will have milk to eat.
The spoiling of the elderly makes the child feel that no matter what mistakes he makes in front of his grandparents, he will not be scolded. In the minds of grandparents, he is still a small child, ignorant, and needs to be spoiled by them. When you want something, you can just mess around, and you can get more care from your grandparents if you make unreasonable trouble.
Children and the elderly are not living in an era, the old people's thoughts are stuck in the past experience, and in the eyes of children, grandparents are very old, completely unable to keep up with the times, so it is difficult for them to respect the elderly from the heart. In this way, the grandchildren always drink to the grandparents, and the two generations have become the enemies of the next generation, and there is no good face when they meet.
The generation of intergenerational enmity, parents should actually be the people who bear the greatest responsibility. The parents of this generation are basically post-80s and 90s, most of them are only children, and they have slowly grown up in the doting of their parents. Perhaps in themselves, there are these bad habits, disrespecting the elderly in the family, when treating their parents, they are also very grumpy, often in front of the children, accusing their parents of their faults. If parents don't respect the elderly, how can children respect grandparents.
When children show disrespect for grandparents in the family, parents should also stop them in time. To let the child know that the elderly should be respected, parents should show a serious attitude, but also let the child know the seriousness of the matter. Understand the importance of respecting the elderly and loving the young.
Some children may not eat this set of hard, so parents will persuade their children from the soft side. In normal times, parents should teach their children to have the habit of respecting the old and loving the young. Often guide children to empathize. Let the child understand that everyone will slowly grow old, but the old people in the past are also worthy of respect. At the same time, many classic stories can be cited to guide children's behavior. In fact, any wrong behavior of the child, parents need patience to teach, the child will really develop good habits, change bad habits. This is also the responsibility of parents.
Of course, different families also have different problems, and in some families, the elderly also prefer to manage children. This leaves the child without his own space. It is also wrong to be overly coddled. The elderly should treat children with laxity and moderation, and cannot be too strict, which will cause the child's rebellious psychology.
The elderly can not spoil the child too much, if the elderly do not have any principles in front of the child and the identity of the elder, it will make the child have no sense of boundaries. Children will also have to "bully the elderly". As an elder, we must have the majesty that an elder should have, and it is not allowed to be challenged by children. Raising children is not an easy task, parents for children to teach is also step by step, not a moment and a half can change the child's practice, the need for long-term guidance.