Before the age of 6, the child is full of curiosity about the world, has a strong learning ability, and the child learns things very quickly, an ancient poem, a children's song, etc., teach the child to remember it several times, but why do many children go to school, but do not like to learn?
As soon as the child goes to school, many parents are anxious and complain, the child does not love to learn, is unwilling to take the initiative to learn, and always has to be urged by the parents to learn, that is to say, the child's learning is passive, not active.
The effect of passive learning of children is much lower than that of active learning, and children can learn actively, which is the wish of every parent, which leads to the reason why children are reluctant to actively learn, which can be traced back to before the age of 6.
Before the age of 6, parents do the following 3 points, which is conducive to cultivating children's ability to actively learn
1. Do things according to your child's needs
Children are independent individuals, like us, have their own needs, we do not force children to eat or do things, according to the needs of children, that is to say, let children have their own sense of decision from an early age.
For example, when a child eats when he is a child, if the child is hungry and wants to eat, he will give it to the child; the child is not hungry, he has shook his head non-stop, so don't feed the child to eat.
When many children are young, they are grandparents who feed them, and the children are full, do not want to eat, and have always let them eat a little more.
Some children do not eat, but also by adults noisy, said not to eat enough, hungry can not eat snacks and the like, hungry to the next meal and so on, for a long time, children are used to being urged, accustomed to passive.
So we can follow the child's wishes and listen to the child's thoughts, for example, if you don't want to eat, you can not eat, let the child decide for himself.
2) Don't always reject your child
Children are curious and will do a lot of headaches for parents, in fact, children are exploring and actively learning. Parents should not always reject their children.
For example, I heard Teacher Fan Deng tell a case, saying that many children like to play with toilet paper, parents feel wasted, hurry to stop the child, say don't move, put down and so on. However, the child is curious to explore, and he will go to get toilet paper again, pull it long, and play curiously.
Therefore, when the child plays with toilet paper, what we should do is not to say don't move, don't move, we should tell him that this is paper, you see if it can be turned up very fun, adults do a turning action, let the child know that this action is turning. You can also tell your child what it's called toilet paper and ask him how he feels. Soft and soft.
That is to say, from many aspects to let the child perceive this toilet paper, the child is curious about other things all the time, do not stop, but to explain, the more you explain to the child The more things the world explains, the faster the child's brain will develop, and the better the child's intimate relationship with you.
This is the process of active learning of children, children are willing to learn, as long as it is within the safe range, we try not to stop children as much as possible. In this way, the motivation for children to learn independently will be sufficient.
3, let the children play by themselves, allow the children to make mistakes
Play is the nature of children, a child who can play, has the enthusiasm and strength to learn, and when children are young, the best toys are in our daily lives, such as spoons, children will play with knocking; paper, will be held and constantly torn; water, will make the whole body wet and so on.
Many parents see that their child has water everywhere, and they will immediately criticize him, or scold him, stop him, so that the child loses the opportunity to actively learn.
Parents should allow their children to make mistakes, and children grow up in constant trial and error.
Therefore, we must have enough patience to protect children's curiosity, cultivate children's creativity, and respect children's independent choices, so that children will have the ability to actively learn. After the child goes to school, the parents don't have to worry about it.
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