There's a good saying:
"Smart women will find a man they admire, and stupid women will find a man who listens to themselves!"
On the other hand, not to mention the relationship between men and women, what kind of person will obey the words of another person? Do not rule out several possibilities, flattering personality, no self and personality, weak personality, no thinking and no thought.
In the relationship between men and women, even if the obedience of men is because of love, this love has become a deformed love.
Especially between husband and wife, there should be an equal relationship, the more there are quarrels and disputes, the more it proves that husband and wife are equal, have a say in everything, and can have the expression of true personality, ideas, and opinions. Unless there is a kind of obedience, it is able to recognize one's own shortcomings and adopt the opinions of one's partner.
If not, in the long run, this is not conducive to the development of the relationship between husband and wife, and can only obtain temporary vanity satisfaction and life enjoyment.
Husbands and wives should only respect each other, and not because of marriage, they naturally think that you belong to me and I belong to you, and they are still independent individuals and can retain the integrity of this individual.
Smart women, never look for a man who listens to herself!
1, can not find the meaning of marriage.
Men listen too much to their own words, for a long time, it is difficult to find the meaning of marriage and love, mutual fulfillment, mutual achievement, and mutual growth. There are no two souls that are mutually accommodating, can exchange insights, share opinions, and self-restraint on two different personalities in the same time and space.
What are the consequences? Unable to find a reason to insist, I feel more and more that this marriage is my burden and I have lost my beautiful expectations.
It's like a person, living a life that looks to the end, the same despair, the same discouragement. Because life is only repetitive, there is no unknown experience.
Everywhere is centered on you, all kinds of obedience, it looks very good, but over time, this kind of marriage without even quarreling will make people fall into an extreme confusion.
The spiritual world became more and more barren, until it completely lost its passion and creativity, and there was often a sense of pain that could not be vented, and there was no emotion that could not be expressed, and no one followed.
2, it is easy to change your heart.
What does it mean that men listen too much to their own words and are absolutely submissive to themselves in everything? It means the loss of personality, the loss of self, and gradually feels bored. Like an empty body that has lost its soul, no one can be attracted to such a person anymore.
Even if he is good to you and listens to you, over time, you will find that these things are not what you really need, and you cannot fundamentally mobilize your own action and enthusiasm.
When you meet an interesting person, a person with personality and thoughts, you will be attracted to it immediately, because you feel that you have met a person with a soul.
Unlike him, there is no charm to speak of, like a pool of stagnant water, maybe the material life will be very good, but in the process of getting along, it is completely boring. Coupled with the fact that married life is inherently bland, you will eventually have a strong urge to flee.
No one should be sure to be able to control their emotions, only if he is attractive to you, it is possible to make loyal choices again and again in the face of temptation. If he is no longer attractive to you, and the slightest encounter with an interesting person, he will think wildly in his mind, some kind of bad idea, and gradually take root with the passage of time.
3, their personality is getting stronger and stronger.
Yes, because men listen too much to their own words, it will only lead to their personality getting stronger and stronger, and their temper will become bigger and bigger. You will become wanton, wild, willful, doing things entirely according to your own emotions, without scruples. After all, he listens to you too much, and over time, you will take him seriously.
His gradual loss of attraction to you also means that there are no longer emotions that can restrain his personality. First of all, you will become very picky and become more and more dissatisfied with him.
No matter what he does, because of the loss of attraction, he no longer has tolerance and tolerance, but often demands him with harsh standards.
When he can't do it and can't meet your standards, he will change from picky to angry, grabbing his weak ribs and attacking him fiercely, all kinds of demeaning, counting, ridicule, and blowing.
In the long run, men will certainly become more unconfident, weaker and weaker, more and more unsympathetic, difficult to break out of the outside world, or often become the object of ridicule by friends, until they completely lose the bloodiness of men. And you, you will definitely dislike such people even more, and the vicious circle will continue.
4) He can't be your reliance.
Because all along, he has been accustomed to being the main person, accustomed to encountering things and relying on you. When you want to rely on him, even if he is willing to let you rely on him, he has no ability to shield you from the wind and rain.
So the consequence is that he can no longer be your main heart, which directly leads to your life, which will become more and more tired.
Although he listens to you, he also directly smashes himself on you, to you, it seems to have a son, he listens to you, but everything depends on you.
Life is inseparable from your care, when you encounter difficulties, can not give you advice, let alone give you shoulders.
Next, you'll question your choice more and more, because he has nothing to do but listen to you. Women crave a sense of security, belonging, and if they can't find it, there will be no more reasons to hold on, and they have to choose his reasons.
For marriage, it is very necessary for the wife to worship the husband, and for the husband and wife, only if the wife worships and admires the husband enough can it be possible to make long-term harmony. Just listen to your own words, maybe life can be very good, but always feel that something is missing.
What you think is not important is that the time has not yet come, or because you do not know the part that needs to be assumed after the choice. Even if you can think of it, you can't have a deep understanding until the moment you really bear it.
Therefore, stupid women always want to find a man who listens to their own words, do not know that such a life can only bring temporary satisfaction, and then live more empty and confused, feeling that they are going to be swallowed up by darkness.
The more comfortable life is, the more spiritual needs will be infinitely magnified until they are intolerable. Some choices, which seem wise, are actually stupid, after all, everything has to be seen in the long run.
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