Such a phenomenon, some women have worked hard for the family all their lives, busy for their husbands, but they are often disliked by their husbands, while some women rarely work hard, their husbands, but hold him in the palm of their hands and pamper and cherish.
Is the pampered woman really a fairy?
It doesn't seem like that either. So what exactly did they do right? Can you maintain such a sweet interaction with your husband and make your husband love them deeply? In so many marriage emotional counseling, I have summed up three kinds of women's must-kill skills to conquer their husbands, and I will share them with you today.
First, happy women especially understand that the love of many men needs to be guided, and you want men to love you, and you will guide him. There are many women in love or marriage will always make a mistake, that is, often say some negative guidance words, for example, uh, I have a sister Ahu, he just found me ah, he often complained to me about Linglong, I feel that my marriage has too many unsatisfactory, I always have a lot of worries and concerns, I am particularly worried about my husband does not love me, especially care about whether the family is saying bad things about me again, over time, my husband is more and more annoyed with me, I have more verification of my guess,
Now ah, husband and wife feelings are very cold, then everyone found that no, this description of a beaver, ah, there is a characteristic, that is, the focus of his attention and expression are negative, you don't love me, you say bad things about me, you are more and more annoyed with me, and please pay attention to ah, these three are negative feelings, then when we often express negative feelings to our partners, the information that partners are exposed to is negative, and the feedback they often give us will also be negative, because no one likes to be with people with negative energy.
For example, if you don't love me, maybe when you say it, it's to test his attitude, but do you know it, if you? Saying such things to her often will plant a negative idea in his mind, and one day he will not love you, and he will think that this is not exactly what you expected? So, for a more sensitive woman like Ahu, I gave him a set of positive words and asked him to try it. After a while, he told me that hey, her husband's attitude towards her has changed, the atmosphere in the home is obviously harmonious, and he is very confident that his relationship with her husband will get better and better, which is the power of positive guidance.
The secret of the second happy woman is that these happy women know how to grasp the emotional pain points of their partners, and the reason why one person will fall in love with another person is often because of the compensatory psychology, the compensatory psychology, that is, to get what he does not have, what he lacks. For example, a cowardly man in his heart will like to give him encouragement and courage of women, a woman who lacks love since childhood, likes to take care of her men, this is a kind of complementarity. Then I have observed that many sisters before starting to learn emotional management, they are not very concerned about the partner's personality, they often do not know where the emotional pain points of the partner are, do not understand what the partner wants in their hearts, blindly according to their own way to get along, in the end it is likely to have no good effect, because the other party wants to eat apples, and you give a banana.
The third secret is that a happy woman will put herself in a precious position. I ask all sisters, don't be a silent giver, the premise of a man who loves you is to respect you, a man who does not respect you, will not really love you, and the premise of respect is that you are worthy. For example, your first date, choose a roadside stall, after ah, you want to go to a high-end restaurant, he will feel that you are material, if you go to a high-end restaurant on your first date, then go to the road stall later, he will feel that you are grounded. This, does not mean that women want to use money to measure their own value, but you must know how to improve their sense of value, to improve their position in the hearts of the other party, why who pays more is less likely to let go, is because the investment is too big, can not bear the pain of loss.
So how can a woman enhance her sense of worth? Because in the previous class I also said a communication skill in this aspect, then here, I will do a summary with you, ah,
The first is to put yourself in a precious position. Then you have to feel that you deserve this man to pay for you, only if you respect yourself, others will respect you, you improve your status, he will treat you differently. Don't be tough with green tea, the harder you are green tea, the more aggrieved you are, and the more painful men are
Second, and most importantly, you must learn to sort out your own value, constantly improve your own value, let men, let yourself always be attractive to men, know how to guide positively, grasp the pain points of emotions, and cherish yourself with your heart, which is what I summarize the advantages that women who are loved by their husbands generally have. Of course, such women have found their own unique sense of value, so as to guide their husbands to cherish themselves.
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