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Leo Tolstoy said that happy families are similar, but unhappy families have their own misfortunes.
Yes, the family has a difficult scripture, but the family ugliness is rarely publicized, Chinese pay attention to the life of each family, and it is a skill to live a good life. But some families quarrel at both ends for three days, and there is never a peaceful day...
I remember when I was a child, my parents would quarrel every few days, and when the quarrel was fierce, I would smash the table and the chair, and I was eating a meal, and without saying a word to deal with it, I would quarrel, and I would overturn a table of meals all over the ground in one breath, which was really scary.
Especially in the face of the elderly and children, for the elderly will feel extremely heartache, for children, childhood is like a nightmare, remember every time the parents quarrel, will be frightened to cry wow wow...
There will inevitably be contradictions between family members, and it is not easy to talk calmly, because everyone has everyone's ideas, and even a stubborn side, so that sometimes the conversation will quarrel.
But countless quarrels could not solve any problem at all. When the husband and wife first started to live, sweet and sweet, and then because of some contradictions and quarrels, the original small problem became everyone's heart knot, after arguing countless times, everyone was physically and mentally exhausted, watching, this day can not go on.
Some people don't think so, they want to lose their temper, some people put up with it for the sake of family harmony, and eventually they will be intolerable, and a good home may be because it is so fragmented.
In fact, no one in a family has absolute final say, but there is always someone who wants to be the head of the family, if he has the ability, there is no problem, but if he wants to wear a crown, he must bear its weight and carry the burden of a family, it is not so easy!
The true head of the family does not get angry at his family at every turn, but knows how to persuade when his family has conflicts.
Bacon said that in a happy family, the parents are ruled by love, and the children are obedient to the adults out of love for their parents.
Feng Menglong said that furniture is regardless of whether it is honorable or inferior.
Who can make the family harmonious, who is the true head of the family!
02
If the husband and wife are two-hearted, the family has been "defeated".
I have seen a kind of couple, holding their arms in front of outsiders, a look of intimacy, but the fake laughter has betrayed their feelings, happiness, can not be pretended.
Once there are two hearts between husband and wife, marriage is equal to the survival of the name, some couples, have long lived a "AA system" life, who earns money and who spends, each hiding their own careful thinking, nominally husband and wife, but secretly but conspiring to fight, really can't understand, what is the meaning of such a marriage!
It can only be said that some couples live a life, only interests are left in their hearts, once a marriage, "money" has become the most important thing, such a marriage, such a family, has lost its authentic taste, such a family, how can it be happy!
Kimura said that family should be a temple of love, joy and laughter.
Once the hearts between husband and wife or between families are scattered, how can there be true happiness when talking about love?
Just as the so-called home and everything is happy, the family can unite as one, there is no difficulty to defeat them, and the reason why some families are always walking hard is because whenever they encounter difficulties, the family does not want to face each other, but quarrels, but complains about each other, but wants to escape!
03
All the pain between the family comes from complaining!
I used to describe a kind of person called a knife mouth tofu heart, which is a compliment to a person. In other words, don't listen to her talk a little "fierce", but her heart is very soft. But now, people are beginning to discover that the greatest harm between people actually comes from vicious language.
Once went to a relative's house and felt uncomfortable after only a day, the relative is a typical rural woman, yes, she is not a bad person, but she is too hurtful to talk!
In just one day, she ran away from her lover, she and her two daughters quarreled separately, her mouth kept complaining, complaining about the unsatisfactory things in life - complaining about her husband's incompetence, complaining that her children were disobedient... As a result, the family couldn't bear it and quarreled with her, and in the end, she snot and tears, saying that she was the most pitiful person in the world...
Sometimes, harsh words are the most hurtful poison, all dissatisfaction with reality, in fact, from resentment, some people because of a small matter, "nagging" for a lifetime, some people because of a little unsatisfactory, blame this unsatisfactory on the family.
In fact, family is the most important person in everyone's life, if a person is frustrated, even his family does not understand him, does not support him, but is also full of complaints like others, which is the biggest blow to him.
The family should be the warmest harbor for everyone, but some homes are not shelters, but like a cage, full of calculations, quarrels and endless disputes over right and wrong, such a family will not warm people's hearts, but will only make people's hearts selfish and indifferent and ruthless!
04
The golden nest, the silver nest, is not as good as the grass nest of one's own.
Home should be a place of peace of mind, not an endless quarrel over a little thing;
Home should be a place for people to rely on, not to be suspicious of each other, to deceive and hurt their families by boring means;
When the family's heart is scattered, the family is scattered, the family's heart is cold, and the family is completely "cool".
No need to worship God, no quarrel, the family can be calm, not distracted, the family can love and harmony, do not remember revenge, the family can be smooth, the best feng shui of a family, is to have love in the heart, tolerance, understanding, kindness, no betrayal, no deception, no abandonment.