When people reach middle age, it coincides with the autumn of troubles.
There are old people on the top, children on the bottom, and lovers in the middle, who have to make money and spend money when they go out, and they are busy.
Home, a place to rest. After a busy day, it is not easy to clean up, if someone keeps knocking on the door, it will be upset.
"Nothing to climb the Three Treasures Hall", if there is no special thing, it is better not to visit the door. If you have to visit the door, be polite and try not to disturb other people's lives.
Meet the following six kinds of people, your best closed door, offend him, it doesn't matter.
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First, drunkards who have no wine and no joy are difficult to serve.
I have seen a story: during the New Year, a man asked more than a dozen friends to drink together at home. They play cards, smoke cigarettes, and their legs.
It took the woman four or five hours to buy groceries, cook, and clean up the table.
Two of my friends were drunk and couldn't leave. Slumped on the couch, dazed and asleep, purring particularly loudly.
The woman finally couldn't stand it and slammed the door and came out.
A group of drunkards, shouting loudly, drank more than anyone, and arranged for the hostess to continue to add dishes through the strength of the wine. After three rounds of drinking, men will also especially like to nag, bragging about how much they are mixed, how many connections they have in society, and how good the prospects for future development are. Feel free to pat your chest, promise to help, and forget about it when you wake up.
Whoever sees such a scene will be disgusted.
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Second, ambiguous opposite sex, destroying the family.
About the story of the "old king next door", how many versions are not clear. But every version, not so good.
Neighbors should get along harmoniously, but don't often be a guest in someone's home, and don't chat anytime and anywhere, otherwise the feelings between the opposite sex are too deep and will not be good for anyone.
When people reach middle age, life is not easy, and if they still encounter emotional entanglements, they are even more tired.
People who have loved once have never had the opportunity to hold hands. When he comes to your house as a guest, it is clear that he is "ill-intentioned", which makes suspicion arise between husband and wife.
Third, blatantly coming to your house as a guest, this is provocation. If you let him sit in the house, it is clear that he is a "loser".
Husband and wife are the right and left arm, you have to close the door of the house, so that the excess feelings have nothing to do with the family.
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Third, the old Lai who opened his mouth to borrow money, the money is too poor.
"It is not difficult to borrow and repay, and it is not difficult to borrow again", lending money to others, which is a good thing. For people who want to do urgent things, more money on their bodies means more certainty.
However, nowadays, when we talk about Lao Lai, we feel afraid.
Their own money went into other people's pockets for no reason. When others spend money, they also hate that you give too little money. You go to collect debts, he is more "fierce" than you, and from time to time he releases harsh words to make you feel at a loss.
Therefore, covering your wallet and not easily lending money to others, although it seems stingy, but for yourself, less trouble, but it is a good thing.
The person who borrows money at the door should be carefully distinguished, and when he meets Lao Lai, let him stand outside the door for a while, and it will be good.
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Fourth, talk about relatives who talk nonsense and provoke right and wrong.
My little aunt, no matter whose house she went to, opened her mouth and gossiped.
The daughter of the east family, married out, divorced again, returned to her mother's house, life was more bitter than Huang Lian; the son of the West family, went out to work, did not come home for many years, maybe met a bad person, joined the pyramid scheme circle; a certain relative, the last time he went to the wedding banquet, only gave twenty yuan of red envelopes, actually two people to eat together; there is a junior, even the grandparents do not care...
It is difficult for a clean official to break the household chores. If a person likes to move the housework out and seriously study it, he is provoking right and wrong, and the relationship between the family is becoming worse and worse.
When relatives visit, they should say more about caring people and connect with each other's feelings, rather than creating trouble in people's feelings.
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Fifth, the odd people who pinch their fingers are mostly liars.
Fortune teller, should have been encountered by many people. He casually looks at you, and he knows that your birthday is eight characters, and he can give you directions.
Of course, predicting future events is not harmful to yourself, and you can also seek advantages and avoid harms.
The terrible thing is that this type of person is mostly a liar. If you can't, for a long time, you will tremble and feel that you have made a mistake and will encounter disasters.
"Sometimes there must be something in fate, and there is no time to demand it in fate", or let nature take its course. As long as you work hard enough, even if you don't gain much, you will be at ease.
Struggle is to "tell one's fortune" to oneself.
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Sixth, friends who are hiding from man-made disasters are disturbing.
In the early years, one of my cousins, who had lost a lot of money because of playing cards, was looking for trouble for him everywhere. In desperation, he walked dozens of miles and said to my mother, "Aunt, I want to stay for a few days." ”
The mother learned of the reason and resolutely refused.
For a person who does not learn well, the kinder you are to him, the more you hurt him. What's more, if he is in his own home for a long time, he will be in trouble.
Man, don't be like Mr. Dongguo, who thinks that after a wolf is injured, it will become kind and worth saving. Nature is difficult to move, and this has to be guarded against.
Of course, friends who encounter natural disasters deserve our sympathy. After all, his family was separated and needed a place to recuperate.
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How to properly refuse to be a guest? Not too barbaric, be euphemistic.
First, find the right excuse to make the other party retreat. For example, a family travels, children go to tutoring classes, and parents accompany them.
Second, reject others, be sure, don't be ambiguous. Otherwise, they will give others room to maneuver and come to visit with a dead face.
Third, I don't go to other people's homes to avoid unnecessary courtesies. If you are used to going alone, there will naturally be fewer guests.
Lao Tzu once said, "Less is gained, and more is confused." ”
There are more people in the family, which is not necessarily a good thing. Only people full of positive energy can be welcomed. Those who have negative energy, don't associate.
Family together, there are talk and laughter, there is business, happiness and happiness.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.