It's so thorough and worth pondering! Professor Qu Limin of Beijing University of Traditional Chinese Medicine: Marriage is against human nature! No one should get married!
Professor Qu profoundly pointed out: In today's society, many diseases are emotional diseases, and 95% of the reasons for the problems in the relationship between husband and wife are caused by the unsatisfied inner desires.
Qu Limin further said that marriage is misplaced from the beginning, because the essence of what men and women want is not the same at all.
Human nature is inherently greedy, likes the new and hates the old, how many people are willing to live a life alone?
It's like if you eat a dish and it tastes particularly good at first, but if you eat it for ten years, you may also vomit.
There is a particularly strange law in marriage, the so-called "seven-year itch", and many couples' marriages cannot survive this hurdle.
The human marriage model is a bit of a "zig-zag": everyone wants the strong. Men want beautiful women, and women want rich, powerful men. The men of the highest status still want beautiful women, and the richest women want tasteful men, artists.
The essence of marriage has become a sale and a deal, love is not related to the house, tickets, it is only about beauty, two feelings, the simple pleasure of the two sexes, and marriage is full of property, possession, domination, calculation!
Chinese-style marriage was originally a matter for two people, and it was easy to become a matter of two families, not only the seven aunts and eight aunts were mixed, but also with the addition of houses and tickets, which became the most difficult thing under the heavens.
Between men and women, ambiguity is the best, really understand, not entangled, the world's "impermanence" is true, "constant" is false. The so-called "love you for ten thousand years" is just an expression of the intensity of emotions at this moment, forever, how far is it?
However, marriage is not a graveyard of love, marriage is a challenge to human nature, and combining the three completely different concepts of sex, love and marriage is the most difficult challenge.
X is the collision of two people's bodies, common pleasure needs to be maintained together; love is the collision of two people's emotions, long-term development requires personal progress; marriage is the collision of two people's lives, and good relationships need to pursue reality together!
In "Meditations on Life", Professor Qu Limin said: Of the troubles that people suffer in this life, 70% are problems of love, and 30% are troubles of things.
People are dealing with "emotional disease" all their lives, because of high standards and strict requirements, they are too depressed, too nervous, and fall into a bad cycle.
Professor Qu also told a real case in the book:
A man who does not smoke, does not drink, should not be paid, but also very painful wife, filial piety to his parents Lao Wang, diagnosed with cancer, the doctor said that he only has 6 months of life, the family knows this situation is very sad.
Lao Wang told Professor Qu Limin his confusion, why did he not smoke and drink, the rules of life, and in the end he still suffered from this disease?
Professor Qu Limin listened and said: The root cause of your illness is because you have no fireworks.
On the surface, you are self-cultivation and very strict self-discipline, but your strict self-discipline is out of the needs of your work, not from the heart.
Whether you behave or behave or behave for others, you must be careful, for fear that a sentence will offend the wrong person and affect your future. But it is precisely because of this that you are free from the fireworks of the world, and you lack the warmth and coldness of human feelings. Your disease, anxiety is the root.
You just have too many things in your heart, hold everything in your heart, one day crush you, can you not get sick?
Life has to be a little pyrotechnic! It was this seemingly inconspicuous, even mundane piece of advice, that saved his life.
Qu Limin: Whatever is strong, it may be fatal; all that is bland, it is healthy.
In this case, Professor Qu Limin told us that to improve a person's quality of life, it is not material satisfaction, and the reason why people get sick is often because of the lack of emotional flow caused by the lack of meridians, if the meridians are smooth, they must develop three good habits:
1. Happy mood;
2. Perfect husband and wife life;
3. Exercise;
Professor Qu Limin said in the book "Meditations on Life":
Life should have three abilities to cultivate yourself:
First, the ability to love: love your family, love society, love yourself, and have the habit of sharing with others!
Second, the ability to forgive: to learn to forgive yourself, but also to learn to forgive others;
Third, the ability to refuse: The reason why people live tired is because they do not know how to refuse.
Qu Limin even prescribed a dose of medicine to people who were in anxiety!
1, whether men and women, since they have chosen marital love, they must bear the good and bad of marriage, because marriage is contrary to human nature and is doomed to suffer.
2, if you can show a gentle smile to a husband or wife who leaves early and returns to work late and drags a tired pace, this is not only saving him, but also saving his own life.
3, men, no matter how tired you are, when your wife starts complaining, go and hug her, women seem complicated, sometimes very simple. A hug may rejuvenate and refresh her.
In the book "Meditations on Life", Qu Limin talks about marriage from love to marriage, from success and wisdom, religion, philosophy, self-cultivation, to discuss the topics of male and female love, fate, success, happiness and other topics that people are most concerned about, using small stories and small allusions to clarify the viewpoint and prescribe spiritual medicine.
Medicine can only partially solve the problems of the physical level, and the bigger problem is to nourish the mind and the spirit. If we want to 'get away from suffering and be happy', we also need inner enlightenment: these words are generally known or understood, but it is absolutely difficult to do them.
Liberating life from external shackles is cultivation, asking a doctor to treat diseases is to seek external treatment, and if you want to be less sick, you must also re-cultivate internally!
Highly recommend Meditations on Life, all three! In the book, Professor Qu Limin from love to marriage, from success and wisdom, philosophy, self-cultivation, and people closely related to the topics of male and female love, fate trend, success or failure and happiness are discussed, there are hundreds of cases in the book, gathering her research achievements and experiences for more than 30 years, many cases are sobering and contemplative.
Women before and after marriage should read this "Meditations on Life", hurry up, buy this set of books home, put them on the bedside and flip through them, you may have unexpected gains, the link is here.
