A 60-year-old mother-in-law's big truth: cooking for the whole family, brushing hundreds of plates, the Spring Festival is my spring festival is a day of family reunion, and the elderly are looking forward to the reunion of their children. But for some old

A 60-year-old mother-in-law's big truth: cooking for the whole family, brushing hundreds of plates, the Spring Festival is my robbery

The Spring Festival is a day of family reunion, and the elderly are looking forward to the reunion of their children. But for some elderly people, the Spring Festival is a time to look forward to and be afraid.

This year, Xiao Su has experienced a different year.

As in previous years, when she called her mother to report on the time to return home for the New Year, her mother said that she and her father were going out on a trip for the New Year, and told her brothers and sisters not to come back this year and to celebrate the New Year in their own place.

Xiao Su was surprised and confused by her parents' behavior. When can't she travel? Why does she have to go out for the New Year? After repeated questioning, my mother told the truth.

Xiao Su's mother is in her sixties this year. She has two children, a daughter and three children, all three of whom have their own families. With their own children, every New Year is crowded with more than a dozen people, a veritable big family.

Usually, several children work in other places, and the time to go home to see their parents is limited. They just want to take advantage of the New Year to go back to see their parents and do their filial piety.

The child's idea is good, but for Su's mother, every Spring Festival is like a war.

She has been very busy since the beginning of the waxing moon, especially after the thirtieth day of the waxing moon. Every day, she has to cook a large table of dishes. After the children finished eating, they went to play their own games. She also had to clean up the battlefield. After three meals a day, she washed hundreds of dishes.

After such a year, every day is a low back pain.

If Sue's mother is not in good health, she is willing to spend more time with the children. But while the children are back, their hearts are not on their parents.

One Spring Festival six or seven days, every day we would huddle on the sofa playing mobile phone games, or go shopping in groups of three or two to watch movies, and no one sat down with her to chat and talk.

If you want to get close to your grandchildren, kids playing tablet games and watching cartoons, they don't even give her a look. This kind of "reunion" makes Mother Su feel that it is really not a taste. So this year, simply let the children not come back. She and Sue's father could travel and spend a relaxing year.

Old people like Sue are not unique. They look forward to the return of the child all year round, and the child does come back, but they do not have a word from their hearts.

Our self-righteous filial piety becomes a burden on them.

First: I didn't put myself in my parents' shoes for the hard work of my parents.

In front of our parents, we always feel like we are children. Now, parents, there is still a place to go in life. My parents are gone, and there is only one way home in life. In front of our parents, we can always relax and be unscrupulous. They will always be our strongest support.

So we often forget that parents get older. When we inadvertently, their eyes are cloudy and their backs are curved. They are no longer the strong men who can easily carry you on their shoulders and ride a big horse, nor are they the young women who can skillfully knit all kinds of beautiful sweaters for you.

Time allows us to grow, but it also steals their health and energy.

Parents will always be superhuman in the eyes of their children. We are used to the care of our parents and take home the Spring Festival as a holiday. However, meals don't automatically run to the table, and bowls don't automatically clean.

We can't always see the hard work behind it, or we can't see the reasoning.

Relying on the love of our parents for us, we confidently left this hard work to our parents.

Two: A reunion without companionship is meaningless

The Xinhua Dictionary tells us that reunion means "reunion after the separation of relatives", but what the dictionary does not tell us is that reunion also requires communication.

It is only a physical gathering of entities, which cannot be called reunion.

During the Spring Festival, the elderly are a group of people who have disappeared. They are not seen on the bustling streets, there is no sound in the crowded KTV, and there are very few of them in the crowded cinemas.

Even movies in the cinema and children's cartoons will have a big share, but there has never been a movie that takes care of the elderly's Spring Festival movie-watching hobby.

These old people are trapped in their homes, trapped in the kitchen, holding a mess of cups and plates, doing logistical work for their children day in and day out without a single eye.

Their lives were so rich that they didn't have time to sit down and chat with their parents, listen to their nagging and stories, take them out for a walk, and see landscapes that their parents had never seen before.

This kind of reunion is not a reunion, but a one-sided festival for us.

Many elderly people are afraid of the New Year, not because they don't want to be reunited with their children. It is precisely because they are so eager to reunite that they cannot hide their loss. If we could truly love them, understand them, and accompany them, they wouldn't always feel lonely.