I am a 40-year-old widow, my husband has been dead for three years, I have no intention of remarrying, I am afraid that the other party will not be good for the children. Last month, my good friend introduced me to an old man

I am a 40-year-old widow, my husband has been dead for three years, I have no intention of remarrying, I am afraid that the other party will not be good for the children. Last month, my good friend introduced me to a blind date with someone who was the boss. After we met, we were very talkative and very suitable for each other. We spent a lot of money on dinner, and he didn't hesitate to buy the bill and offer to send me home. But then he told me a situation that left me feeling overwhelmed.

My name is Xiao Lu, before my husband died, my marriage was very happy, my ex-husband was very good to me, I loved him very much. We also have two children and our family is very happy.

But man is blessed with misfortune and misfortune. The factory where my husband worked met a thief that day, and he happened to be on duty. In a struggle with the thief, he collapsed in a pool of blood. At that time, I was very sad and washed my face with tears every day. I can't accept my husband's death.

During that time, thanks to the company of my good friend, she took me out to play and travel every day. She also told me that I still had two children to take care of. She did her best to enlighten and enlighten, and I walked out slowly.

Later, I had to work hard to earn money for the sake of my children to raise them. Three years later, I am now a sales manager at a cosmetics company with a monthly salary of $10,000. But life is two points and one line, going to work, going home. It is particularly monotonous and tedious, and sometimes comes home feeling lonely.

My best friend suggested that I remarry, it's not a problem to be single all the time, and the kids need a home too. Children have always lacked paternal love and are not good for growth. I nodded perfunctorily.

But what I didn't expect was that just the other day, she actually introduced me to a blind date. She said the man's name was Light Rain. He's as old as I am, he's a little boss. He is now single and has a daughter. I really didn't want to go, but I felt that I couldn't refuse the kindness of my best friend, so I deliberately dressed up and dressed more temperamentally to go to the appointment.

When he got there, he had arrived early, indicating that he was a punctual person and regarded this date as more important. I saw him sunny and temperamental in his speech, which made me feel good about him. Then he asked me to order. I deliberately ordered some expensive dishes to see his attitude.

After dinner, the waiter brought the bill. I think he'd hesitate. To my surprise, he didn't hesitate to settle the bill.

After eating, he offered to take me home, and I readily agreed to him. In the car, I talked to him. He said he divorced his wife because his wife cheated. Because he was busy with work, did not have time to manage the children, and socialized late every day, his wife could not stand loneliness and unrelated marriages, and separated. He said that after we got married, I would try to go home as early as possible, do my husband's duty, and have a good relationship with you and the children.

After listening, I comforted him. Then he said, "What kind of marriage do you want in the future?" ”

I said, "As long as both sides like each other, tolerate each other, and be loyal to each other, it's better for the kids to support each other." ”

He said, "You're right. Only mutual tolerance and love in marriage can make marriage better. I've heard your best friend talk about you. I know your ex was very good to you. I also know you're fine, so I'll be kind to you. If you think I'm a good fit for you too, let's give it a try. ”

I said no problem and went downstairs. He looked at me and said, "Actually, I have one more thing I want to tell you. If you can accept it, we will continue. If not, that's okay. ”

I was confused for a moment and said, "Go ahead, I'll see if I can accept it." ”

He said: "There are four old people in my family. My parents and aunts and uncles didn't have children, so they always treated me like their own, so I was raised by their four elderly people. Now that they're all old, I have to feed them, but because I'm too busy to take care of them, and I'm worried about finding an au pair unreliable, I thought, if we're together, you can quit your job and be home full-time to take care of them and leave the money to me. Do you think it is feasible?

I was stunned after listening to it. I think not to look for a wife, but for a nanny. So I said, "I can think about it!" I'll go home first. ”

I'm struggling right now. I like him and appreciate him very much. I didn't want to miss it, but I couldn't accept the conditions he had put forward. People say, what should I do? How can I convince him not to let me be a housewife?

@Xuanhan Mommy In fact, a person's life is also very beautiful. There's really no need for this man to call you a housewife. You have your own career. It's a shame to give up. Without a career, there is no initiative after marriage. Don't be silly. You have to do your business well.

If he wants you to be a housewife, say goodbye. You two have different values, different ways, and do not conspire with each other.

Otherwise it is you who suffers. What do you say? Can you speak up and listen? #Emotional Emotion##I'm going to make headlines##Emotion##Emotional Inspiration##情感微语 #