Tan Tan released the Spring Festival short film "Take It Slowly" Two generations of people have a dialogue on the issue of marriage

The Spring Festival has always been the "hardest hit area" for marriage urging, the Spring Festival of the Year of the Tiger is approaching, and the social platform loved by young people has explored and focused on the problem of marriage urging, releasing a short film with the theme of "Take It Slowly", which reproduces the conceptual differences and communication problems of the two generations behind the marriage promotion in a unique way.

Faced with the problem of marriage urging, the Detective App launched a #Parents Marriage Urging, What Will You Do #voting, and more than 6,000 Tantan users participated in the voting. 28% chose "do not urge the marriage of the father and son filial piety, a hypnotic chicken flying dog jump", 29% chose "superficial obedience, actually do their own thing", 26% chose "obey the parents, work hard to date or brush social software", and 17% have their own unique way of coping. In the discussion of marriage promotion topics, post-00s and post-95s have become the main force, accounting for nearly 70% of the total number of people participating in the topic.

This short film interviewed several single young people working and studying in first-tier cities, and played their views on marriage and marriage to a group of uncles and aunts who love to urge marriage in the park near the blind date corner, using a screen to build a bridge for two generations to communicate in the air, advocating that love and marriage should be "slow", give children a little more time, and give parents a little more understanding.

Qin Xiaoang (pseudonym), a post-00s boy, can understand his parents' urging for marriage, but still opposes marriage urging. He believes that his parents' urging marriage is mainly to hope that he will pass on his family as soon as possible, but he feels that to marry in a hurry for this purpose is perfunctory to himself, and after all, marriage is still to find a life partner.

The film also shows the attitude of working women working in big cities towards marriage. Li Jing (pseudonym), a 26-year-old Internet practitioner, believes that rather than getting married, she is more willing to pursue the realization of self-worth as the main line of life. "In the past, the phrase "start a business and then start a family" was mainly aimed at men, but now it is the same for women. I may need to establish something that reflects my self-worth, and after being convinced of this, maybe I will be more full of people. ”

To the elders, who are accustomed to giving and sacrificing for their children and families, today's young people inevitably appear to themselves. In the video, an old grandmother said after watching interviews with young people, "Girls now want to be free, take money and spend themselves and buy clothes." "However, not all young people cannot understand their parents, and not all parents love to urge marriage. Aunt Yang in Shanghai said that she never urged marriage, and her son was like a friend, there was no generation gap, but often persuaded her husband with her son.

The difference in the growth environment and values of the two generations makes them have always been biased when talking about marriage, which to a certain extent has caused young people and parents to "chicken and duck talk" on the issue of marriage and love, and the gap between generations of concepts, after all, must be broken with love and communication, "they are also for my sake, in short, don't quarrel on the line, this problem can seek common ground while reserving differences." ”

The relevant person in charge of the probe said that young people and parents often say different things about marriage issues, which is essentially the social environment in which this generation and the previous generation live in different social environments, and the needs and understanding of marriage are also different. But when we face and understand this difference, we can tolerate each other. After all, no matter what the differences in concepts between parents and children, love is always a bond connecting each other, and marriage is just a way for parents to express love and care. Tantan always hopes that young people 'love is at my mercy', and also calls on young people to listen to and understand their parents on the day of family reunion during the Spring Festival. Just like the advocacy issued by the short film this time, give parents a little understanding, and give young people a little time. ”