The two couples in "Perfect Partner", Chen Shan and Sun Lei are the marriage mode within the female protagonist and the male protagonist, which is a relatively rare model, while the couple lin Qingkun and Wu Min are more in line with the marriage model of the traditional family, Lin Qingkun is responsible for fighting outside, and the family is the big rear, and the full power is handed over to Wu Min.
Lin Qingkun is an excellent investment banking elite, he is focused and capable, this job has a lot of remuneration, a few years after marriage, their family has entered the ranks of the high proletariat, almost free wealth.
But at the same time, because of the nature of his work and his focus on his work, the companionship he can give to the family is reduced, which makes Wu Min gradually unbalanced in his mentality and full of resentment towards him, making the whole family fall into a state of disharmony.
Since Wu Min was with Lin Qingkun when he was twenty years old, he has been responsible for the main house, taking care of his food, clothing and living, and after having children, it is all Wu Min who is alone in paying, so that Lin Qingkun can devote all his energy to his career.
Lin Qingkun's excellent work ability did not live up to the original agreement between the two, one outside the main and one inside, and the life was thriving, but the great satisfaction of material and the reduction of spiritual communication made Wu Min's mentality unbalanced!
Wu Min gradually became numb to the superior material conditions created by Lin Qingkun for the family, and now Wu Min ignored Lin Qingkun's material contribution to the family, but instead stared at Lin Qingkun's absence from family life and complained!
Wu Min is married to an elite husband, who is smart, rational, wise, capable, and will make money! But she hated that he didn't have the advantages of an ordinary man! This is Wu Min's confusion!
Now Wu Min how to see Lin Qingkun is not pleasing to the eye, she can only see the ordinary man Sun Lei is good now, because Sun Lei has a lot of time to accompany his family, he is meticulous and patient with his children, not like Lin Qingkun's domineering and strong, he will carefully cook a bowl of sweet soup after Wu Min wakes up drunk.
Wu Min almost burst into tears for this bowl of sweet soup, she said that this was the first man she had made her feel so warm besides her own father!
It seems that Wu Min does not understand the essence of marriage, she will suffer for such a little warmth, comparing her husband with the man in front of her, it shows that she is confused in marriage!
Some time ago, I read a psychologist's explanation of the nature of marriage: the essence of marriage is to find a person who meets your core requirements to live together!
There are many psychological needs of a person, need to be loved, need a lot of money, need sex, hope that the other party is handsome, hope that the other party is talented, and so on!
But you can't put these appeals, all let a person to complete to meet you, for example, some people find a self-motivated will make money, then it is possible to blame him for not having a lot of free time to accompany you, some people find a handsome gas sticker, and hate others are not capable, found a sticky their own, and afraid that others have no money! Found a talented and beautiful person, and hated that others did not put her first in all things!
That is to say, you can't let your partner meet all your psychological needs, and you have to understand what your core needs are, and your partner may only need to meet your important core needs, because your partner is also a man, not God!
And the others are not the core needs, other people in life can meet you! For example, if you and your partner's hobbies are different, then you can communicate with your girlfriends or friends to communicate hobbies, let girlfriends and friends to meet, if your core needs are material and money, you find a person who will make money, then don't blame him for not sweet words, because he has met your core needs
As for those needs that are not very core, you can satisfy yourself in other ways, you can have your own hobbies, your friends, your own circles, to meet your own sustenance!
I think Wu Min is that this problem is not clear, so he will be confused and out of control! As counselor Six said, marriage is about meeting your core needs, not all of your needs! He is a man, not a god, and if he can't figure out this essence, then in marriage, he will not be satisfied or happy!