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Some people think that marriage is a matter of two people. As long as the man and woman love each other and are willing to work for their future, then they can love each other forever.
This is not the case.
Marriage, many times, is the knot between two families. Since the people of the two families have different educations, have different experiences, etc., this makes them treat each other differently.
For example, the daughter-in-law feels that the mother-in-law is the mother, so she asks the mother-in-law to treat her like a mother, to think of what she thinks, to be anxious about what she is anxious, in short, to give her all-round care, so that she can grow up like a child without worry.
The mother-in-law feels that the daughter-in-law is her daughter-in-law, so there is little scruple between words, so that sometimes it will hurt the daughter-in-law's heart.
In fact, this is a wrong understanding. Through the situation, the mother-in-law cannot think of herself like her own mother. If the daughter-in-law's practice hurts the whole family, then she will not hesitate to abandon the daughter-in-law.
For example, Chen Junsheng's parents in "The First Half of My Life". Their son betrayed the marriage, because they were sorry for Luo Zijun, and their family should apologize to Luo Zijun. However, Chen Junsheng's parents not only did not apologize, but also asked Luo Zijun to let go of the custody of the child, so that they could fulfill their feelings of missing their son.
Similarly, a daughter-in-law may become a daughter. Because the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law have relatively little experience of living together, even the most intelligent daughter-in-law is difficult to always understand the mother-in-law's mood, and it is even more difficult to make actions that conform to the mother-in-law.
Therefore, Meng Fei once said in the program that to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is necessary to do eight words: keep your distance and maintain politeness.
The greater the hope that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law give each other, the greater their disappointment, and in this case, the relationship between the two will be even worse.
For these, Zhou Lin knows, so she rarely asks for her mother-in-law. Even if her mother-in-law did not accompany her to the obstetric examination during pregnancy, but let her run back and forth in the hospital alone, she did not complain too much.
If you want to complain, it should be to complain about your husband, because he is too busy at work. But thinking of the various parenting expenses after the birth of the child, Zhou Lin's resentment disappeared. A penny is difficult to defeat the hero, how can a family live after not earning money?
In Zhou Lin's consciousness, she excluded her mother-in-law and felt that she did not belong to their small family, so it did not matter what she did to herself, as long as she and her husband lived a good life.
Friends are very envious of Zhou Lin's transparency, thinking that she is too wise. In fact, no one was wise at the beginning, and Zhou Lin could have such a thought, but she was only suffering too many grievances and despairing of her mother-in-law.
She knew that no matter how she called for help, her mother-in-law would turn a blind eye, and even turned around and said that she was too cowardly to feed even a small child.
If this is the case, why should we humiliate ourselves?
In fact, Zhou Lin's mother-in-law's heart was not bad, but she did not have time to take care of Zhou Lin's emotions, because she had already given all her attention to the little uncle.
The mother loves her son, and the plan is far-reaching. Even if this child is an unaffordable Ah Dou, the mother is not willing to give up on him.
The husband, as the son, is not too accusatory. And as a daughter-in-law, what can you say?
It was just that she did not expect that her mother-in-law would actually hit her with an abacus.
One day, while they were having dinner, my mother-in-law came. Only to see her walking around their home, nodding her head in satisfaction as she walked.
At that time, Zhou Lin was feeding children who were less than one year old, and she didn't have time to take care of too much. Instead, Zhou Lin's husband watched his mother turn around, very curious, and asked, "What's wrong?" ”
The mother-in-law hurriedly put away her smiling face, and then walked over to the little couple and told them about the young son's conversation. In this regard, Zhou Lin and his wife are relatively supportive. Although in Zhou Lin's view, the little uncle is full of problems, almost thirty years old and still hides at home all day playing games, is really not a good husband.
But as a sister-in-law, she could not dismantle the little uncle's platform, so she smiled and congratulated.
The mother-in-law was naturally very happy, but then she was full of sorrow. Said the little uncle's girlfriend, want a house. But their family is relatively tight, so they hope that Zhou Lin and his wife can move out and let the little uncle get married first.
"After that?" Zhou Lin asked. Ai Ai didn't say anything during the mother-in-law period, but Zhou Lin knew that her mother-in-law was not going to let the little uncle move out.
At that moment, Zhou Lin trembled with anger. If the person in front of her wasn't her mother-in-law, she would have blown her out long ago.
I think at the beginning, when they got married, the mother-in-law told him that the family's money let the little uncle do the investment, but there was really no money, so there was no marriage room, even if it was a bride price, it could only give half of the local.
Zhou Lin wanted her husband to be honest, diligent and capable, so she decided to buy a house by herself. Since then, they dare not go to restaurants to eat, do not dare to travel, the days are tight, day and night thinking about it, they want to buy a house, good to have a home in the city.
And Zhou Lin's parents were busy preparing for her brother's marriage, and they couldn't give much help. Even so, Zhou Lin's parents still gave them 50,000 yuan.
When they bought the house, they were still 30,000 yuan away from the down payment. Zhou Lin meant to borrow some from her mother-in-law, because her mother-in-law had previously received a demolition payment, which was not a large amount, but she could also give them an emergency response. Unexpectedly, the mother-in-law directly refused.
Thinking of giving up the marriage room because of tens of thousands of pieces, Zhou Lin was not willing. So they gritted their teeth and bought the house, and after paying the down payment, they had some money left in their pockets for food.
No weddings, no furniture, really just an empty house. In the face of the strange eyes of some relatives, Zhou Lin's face was fiery. Even so, she was happy because they had a marriage room. Now let her give the house to the little uncle, how can she give it up?
So Zhou Lin said no. The mother-in-law was anxious to hear this, accused Zhou Lin of not being a good sister-in-law, and even couldn't bear to watch the little uncle not get married because of this matter. For Zhou Lin's so-called "my marriage room", the mother-in-law said, "What happened to my brother's marriage room where my brother lived?" They are all family, why bother so much. ”
Watching the mother-in-law cry endlessly. Zhou Lin first explained their experience of buying a house to her mother-in-law, and then said that it was her responsibility for the little uncle to get married, and it had nothing to do with herself as a sister-in-law, and she did not have to pay for it. Finally, if she feels that her daughter-in-law is not good, she can divorce her husband and let her mother-in-law find a "good daughter-in-law".
For the final request, even if the mother-in-law agrees, the husband does not agree. Having experienced so many things, he naturally knows who is the person he should hold on the most.
The mother-in-law looked at their husband and wife and knew that it was useless for her to say more, so she left in anger.
In this world, no one should do anything for whom. If the mother-in-law only knows how to blindly take and does not pay in the process of getting along with the daughter-in-law, then the feelings of the two will naturally fade. In this case, it is no wonder that the daughter-in-law is reluctant to help. Besides, Zhou Lin's mother-in-law's request was too much.
I hope all the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can get along well.
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