Lin Qingkun, who played Wang Yaoqing in "Perfect Partner", said to his wife Wu Min: "How many families have acted all their lives, whether they are cheating on themselves or their children, why can't we?" ”
This sentence sounds very poignant, but it reveals the truth about how many family relationships there are.
Whether it is in the circle of friends to show love or to bask in happiness, behind those love and happiness, the bitterness and pain hidden will not be displayed in the circle of friends.
The seeming happiness hides helplessness and hardship, and it is already full of holes
The two couples in "Perfect Partner", Chen Shan and Sun Lei, Lin Qingkun and Wu Min, a pair of female protagonists outside the male protagonist, the other pair of male protagonists and female protagonists, career type and family type seem to complement each other, happy and happy, but in such a family relationship is still full of contradictions, has been full of holes.
If you have not seen the helpless appearance of the housewife Wu Min whose husband is not around after her son's food poisoning, you will not suspect that their husband and wife relationship has been in danger.
If you have not seen the gold medal lawyer Chen Shan in a car accident and pinch her bleeding nose to hand over the plan to Party A, you will not know how difficult it is for a family that relies on women to work hard.
All outsiders see is their happiness when they live in big houses, drive luxury cars, and enter and exit the big hotel.
Happiness is acted out, deceiving outsiders, but also deceiving themselves, this kind of deception, in fact, everyone's heart for the most beautiful expectations of the family.
The best expectations for the family are nothing more than this: the children are lovely, the grades are excellent, the husband and wife are harmonious, the career is successful, the dream can be realized, the family and the career can be balanced, and the family is very satisfied.
The process of repairing a torn relationship is a process of deception
Building a happy family, simple to say, actually living together,
Which person's marriage is not full of holes, which family is not a chicken feather.
It's just that some people are willing to keep tinkering in the midst of a lot of holes, and some people are willing to clean up the scene after a chicken feather, and after cleaning, they will show a happy look, and the average person can only see the happiness after they repair and repair.
Liu Qiangdong and Zhang Zetian used to be such a happy couple, after the incident of Liu Qiangdong's female students, Zhang Zetian was willing to face it, Liu Qiangdong was willing to repair, so the two people can continue to go on, and the process of repair is also the process of deceiving themselves and deceiving each other to deceive their children.
Constantly convince yourself that the other party loves your own children, constantly lie to yourself that the other party cares about this family, and deceive to believe in the beautiful plot you have made up.
Believe it and keep cheating, and if you don't want to cheat, you will separate
The happiness created by Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei before made many people envious and jealous. If they keep cheating on their will, they will always be happy.
But they are not willing to continue to cheat, so they open the scars for themselves to see, let the children see, let the other party see, let outsiders see, and what everyone sees is a broken and unhappy marriage.
If you keep lying, I will keep believing, and we will always be happy. If you don't want to lie, and I don't believe anymore, we're a chicken feather.
Marriage or family is nothing more than such a process of mutual deception, although poignant, but very real.
summary
How many families have acted all their lives, whether it is lying to themselves or their children.
The happy drama in the family is believed when acting on it, and I don't want to act or I am smashed when I act.
Meet a big liar, cheat on each other for a lifetime, meet a little liar, only cheat for a while.
The nature of marriage and family is nothing more than that.