The interaction between people needs to be sincere, but also need to treat and respect each other equally, in order to really get along well, even if the relationship is good, we must maintain a suitable distance, master a certain scale, in order to make people feel relaxed and pleasant, others will be more willing to get along with you, when you need help, will be more willing to help.
Zhou Guoping once said: The sense of proportion is a sign of mature love, interpersonal communication, to know how to abide by the necessary distance between people. The same is true of marriage and family, whether it is between husband and wife, or with elders or with children, sometimes also need a sense of proportion, rather than self-centered, thinking that others have to revolve around themselves, without the slightest concern for each other's feelings, and even regard the efforts of others as a matter of course, otherwise they can only eat their own consequences in the end.
Wu Shuang was also married because of love, and thought that despite the opposition of her parents, she would be able to live the life she wanted by marrying love, but she did not know that it was because of her own willfulness that she brought a burden to her parents, so that they could not enjoy the blessings when they retired, and they also had to pay for her and worry about her.
Wu Shuang is an only child, since childhood is under the spoiling of his parents grew up, and later also began to talk about love, the other party is a poor guy, after falling in love with Wu Shuang at first sight began a warm pursuit, almost obedient, responsive, sweet words and various promises are endless, in the end, Wu Shuang is so deeply trapped in love can not extricate herself, even if her parents oppose her also only want to marry each other.
Parents can only make compromises, in order not to let the daughter rent a house after marriage, but also bought a marriage house for her, did not ask for a bride price, only thinking that the son-in-law can be good to the daughter, but the woman's repeated compromises, in the eyes of the son-in-law, has become a weak and good bully, especially after the birth of the child, Wu Shuang thought of letting the mother-in-law come to help take care of it, but the husband said that the parents were in the countryside, too rushing back and forth, it was better to let the mother-in-law who lived nearby come to help.
The husband is unwilling, the mother-in-law does not want to come over, Wu Shuang alone can not figure it out, had to let the mother help, the mother for the daughter is also dedicated, took care of the daughter confinement, and helped to take the child, money and force, no half a word of complaint, until the child went to school, it is a lot easier, in the past few years, the mother has not less to worry about the child's affairs, the body is not as good as before, Wu Shuang also felt guilty, just want to let the mother go back to cultivate the body.
But not long after, the husband proposed to have a second child, saying that it was the mother-in-law's meaning, this time Wu Shuang left a heart eye, directly said: it is okay to have a second child, but then you have to let the mother-in-law come to help. As soon as the husband heard it, he said disapprovingly: No, my parents are not in good health, and they have not been to the city, they don't understand anything, your mother is different, and she has a pension, and lives nearby, she has time and money, she is the best person to take the child, and she has helped us to bring it once, and she will not mind if she takes it again.
Listening to her husband's words, Wu Shuang completely broke out, and directly said: Your parents are pensioned, but my parents have to pay money to take the child, why, anyway, if you have a second child, you have to let your parents come to help, otherwise either you will not give birth, or the child will follow my family name. Seeing his wife's resolute attitude and tough tone, the husband suddenly did not dare to squeak anymore, and the matter was over.
It is said that the daughter is the intimate little cotton jacket of the parents, but sometimes the parents have to worry hard for the daughter, before marriage, I am afraid that she will not be ladylike, after marriage, I am afraid that she will not live a good life, always trying to help, but if the daughter is not contentious, does not know how to attach importance to and maintain her parents, it will make the parents not enjoy the blessings in their old age, and they have to continue to work hard for her, besides, people's hearts are mutual, how do you treat me, how do I treat you, others are willing to help you should be grateful, not inching forward, Otherwise, in the end, it will only be yourself who will regret it.