Although the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law are different living environments and different living habits, they love the same person. Just having love, it's not hard.
But in real life, if mother-in-law and daughter-in-law want to get along harmoniously, it is not enough to have love alone, but also to understand and tolerate each other. Without any of them, it is impossible for two mothers-in-law and daughter-in-law, who are not related by blood, to get along like mother and daughter.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the first ten years to see the mother-in-law, the next ten years to see the daughter-in-law. The mother-in-law feels empathy for the daughter-in-law and is willing to tolerate and considerate the daughter-in-law, so when the mother-in-law is old and weak and needs to be taken care of, the daughter-in-law is naturally obliged.
And those mothers-in-law who did not give grace in the first ten years, but wanted to enjoy the next ten years, are completely whimsical and do not measure up to their own strength.
01, the mother-in-law helped the little daughter-in-law to take the baby for 6 years, so that the eldest daughter-in-law died on her own
Before he got married, his parents had been advising Lin Jun not to marry a family with two sons. But at that time, Lin Jun was immersed in love with his whole body and mind, where could he listen to his parents' advice?
On the contrary, she also felt that her parents were too narrow-minded, what happened to the family of two sons, as long as she did not worry about it, the in-laws would not make it difficult for her.
However, reality gave Lin Jun a slap in the face. When Lin Jun got married, her mother-in-law cried that her family was poor, had no money to buy a house, and did not have money to give a bride price. Therefore, in order not to embarrass her husband, Lin Jun persuaded her parents, not only did not ask for a penny of dowry from her in-laws, but even the marriage room was rented.
If it were not for the third year after marriage, the parents really couldn't look at it and bought a house for Lin Jun for 200,000 yuan, perhaps the couple would have been renting a rental house of less than 20 square meters. With the help of her parents, and then the help of her parents to take care of her children, Lin Jun freed up her hands to work and earn money.
In fact, when Lin Jun gave birth to his daughter, he also repeatedly asked his mother-in-law to help. But the mother-in-law always refused on the grounds that she wanted to help the little uncle with the child. Later, Lin Jun gave birth to a second child, and the mother-in-law simply refused, and even did not bother to find the reason.
Compared with the two children of the mother-in-law who carefully cared for the little uncle, and the two children of his own, but were completely abandoned by the mother-in-law, Lin Jun could not be described as cold in his heart. It's just that she can't help it no matter how cold she is, because her mother-in-law just won't come.
02, 6 years later, the mother-in-law was sick and looked for the eldest daughter-in-law to resign
The mother-in-law's various prevarications allowed Lin Jun to see her mother-in-law's eccentric selfishness. But she did not have a position to accuse her mother-in-law, because not only did the mother-in-law say that she was not obliged to bring children to her daughter-in-law, but even Lin Jun's husband also defended her mother, saying that her mother-in-law was not obliged to bring children to her daughter-in-law, so that Lin Jun should not be preoccupied.
The combination of her mother-in-law and her husband made Lin Jun no longer have any hope for her mother-in-law. It's just that she and her two children don't go back to her in-laws' house. During the New Year's Festival, Lin Jun, who can settle at her own home or her parents' home, basically does not take the initiative to return to her in-laws' house, because she feels that she and her children are outsiders and incompatible with her in-laws.
I thought that I and my mother-in-law would die without contact for the rest of my life. But Lin Jun finally misestimated the mother-in-law's cheeky face, and after taking her daughter-in-law with a child for 6 years, her mother-in-law, who was full of illness, came to the door and asked for the elder son's pension, and also asked Lin Jun to resign by name.
Looking at the mother-in-law who made unreasonable trouble and spilled as soon as she came, Lin Jun thought that he had heard wrongly. It wasn't until her husband kidnapped her in this way that Lin Jun reacted, and it turned out that poor people really had something to hate.
The mother-in-law who was driven out of the house by the daughter-in-law had the courage to find the eldest son and the eldest daughter-in-law for the elderly, without mentioning the matter of wronging Lin Jun at the beginning. Lin Jun looked at his mother-in-law with a sneer and did not immediately refute himself.
03. Daughter-in-law: My monthly salary is 20,000 yuan, and the nursing fee is 20,000
Her husband advised her that his mother was older, and had helped his brother with the children over the years, and she had fallen into a lot of pain and needed to be hospitalized for a general physical examination. And the daughter-in-law is strong, taking care of people is not careful, unlike Lin Jun, who is careful in doing things, taking care of people is also intimate, and is the best person to take care of his mother.
Lin Jun looked at his mother-in-law sitting on the ground and sprinkled, and his heart was full of mixed feelings. If in the past few years, her mother-in-law had been kind to her, perhaps she would not have turned her mother-in-law away.
But the mother-in-law did not, not only did not, but also fell into the well, provoking a rift between their husband and wife. For the sake of her mother-in-law, her relationship with her husband was once tense enough to cause divorce. Later, instead of seeking perfection for the sake of the child, perhaps Lin Jun had already divorced.
In the most difficult years of her own, she was accompanied by her mother-in-law's parents, not the mother-in-law who cried with a handful of snot and tears.
Lin Jun did not refuse nor agree to come down, she just told her husband and mother-in-law: I have a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, a nurse fee of 20,000, if you can pay this nurse fee, I can naturally resign to take care of my mother-in-law.
Lin Jun's words infuriated her mother-in-law and husband. The mother-in-law believes that it is a natural thing for a daughter-in-law to take care of her mother-in-law, so how can she ask for money? And the husband also thinks that his wife and his mother want nursing expenses, which is a joke. Whose daughter-in-law serves her mother-in-law and charges? The husband started a divorce.
Lin Junke did not care about the expressions of their mother and son, and simply told her husband a fact, this house my parents spent 200,000 yuan, this money you have not paid back. Raising children to pay off mortgages is basically me paying for it. You are out of the house, you want to divorce, you are out of the house.
A sentence of "clean out of the house" instantly made the husband close his mouth, and did not dare to mention the resignation to serve his mother.
But Lin Jun would not let her husband go so lightly, and she asked her husband to bear half of the monthly expenses. Anyway, his money, sooner or later, will be left by his mother-in-law for various reasons, and it is better to use it to support the family.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Lin Jun's resignation to serve her mother-in-law who is full of illness?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!