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Some people say that age is a woman's hard wound.
Some people say that years are not a pig-killing knife, but mentality.
A 40-year-old woman, if she has a good attitude, is still a flower; if she has a bad mentality, she may become the "tofu scum" in the eyes of the world.
40 years old for a woman, can be a new life, but also another starting point of life. What kind of life will look like depends on your own choice and management.
Women who stand at this starting point still have the right to choose to love or be loved. But women after the age of 40 will no longer be easily moved.
The love of a woman when she is young can be hot as electricity, can be moths to put out fires, dare to love and dare to hate, and pluck out her heart and lungs.
But once a woman has gone through the hardships of the years, especially after being hurt by feelings, the heart that has been ravaged will give birth to a thick protective shell and no longer easily love people.
But if the woman at this time really identifies a man, she will also regain her powerful ability to love others.
Generally speaking, women after the age of 40, if they identify a man, will have two manifestations.
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Women after the age of 40, if they identify a man, will fade the hard shell.
If life is a battlefield, we must be armed.
Only true relatives and lovers can make us shed the heavy armor in front of them without defense, sincerely embrace each other, and warm each other.
In other words, the people who can make us sincerely reveal ourselves are people we can trust and rely on.
Only in their presence do we dare to laugh and cry without reservation.
For example, in life, we will always see such a phenomenon:
If a small child accidentally falls, if no one around him finds him at this time, he will obediently get up on his own; if his mother happens to see him at this time, he will cry bitterly and lie in the same place waiting to be rescued.
When a person is alone, he can always grit his teeth and pretend to be strong; when there is a person who loves himself, he will remove his disguise and quickly break the defense.
Women after the age of 40 are more independent, both financially and in terms of life. Even if you live alone, you can live well.
Just like the immortal goddess Yu Feihong once said, the reason why she is single is because marriage is only a choice for her, and she chooses that state of being single or married, which makes her feel comfortable.
She can live strong without a man's company; but if she meets another man who can be trusted, then she will become a different person.
Dong Qing once said: Life always has to grit your teeth and go through a long way.
For many women after the age of 40, the reason why they have gone a long way through gritting their teeth is because they have not met a man who is really identified by her.
After all, if you are not strong, who can you show you weakness?
Many times, our weakness needs the audience.
If a woman after the age of 40 meets a loyal "audience", then she will fade her strong shell, remove her full armor, and sincerely expose her vulnerability and powerlessness.
She no longer pretends to be strong, in front of him, she dares to be weak, dares to cry, dares to be helpless... She may be a warrior in armor in front of the world, but in front of him, she is just a weak woman.
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Women after the age of 40, if they identify a man, are more specific about feelings.
After the age of 40, the emotional situation of women is generally divided into two types: one is that after going around, they have never encountered true love and have not entered marriage; the second is that they have experienced love and being loved, and after going in and out of the siege of marriage, they no longer believe in true love.
No matter what kind of emotional experience of a woman, if after the age of 40, really identified a man, then she will cherish the feelings incomparably, more dedicated.
For a woman who has never met true love, after the age of 40, a man is identified, then this man is undoubtedly the best gift from heaven.
For him, she had waited for nearly half a lifetime, so precious, so rare, how could she not cherish it!
The love story of Liu Jialing and Liang Chaowei has always been talked about. The two have been married for many years, and their relationship has been stable and beautiful.
At that time, when Liu Jialing married Liang Chaowei, she was already 43 years old!
A woman of this age is a bride for the first time, and she probably has more determination and single-mindedness in her heart than a young woman.
And for those women who have experienced the trauma of marriage, they may have already been poked by feelings or marriage, so that they dare not believe in love anymore.
But if after the age of 40, they still encounter true love, then they may be regarded as a life-saving straw and cling to it.
Lu You once wrote such a poem: Mountains and rivers are doubtful and there is no way, and the willows are dark and the flowers are bright and another village.
After repeated hopelessness, but suddenly there is hope, then this hope is destined to be gratifying and cherished.
At the same time, 40+ women are incomparably clear in their hearts, and the opportunity for affection is often inversely proportional to the age of women. When you are young, you can meet a lot of love, and you have a lot of opportunities in your hands; but as you get older, for most women, this opportunity is slowly being lost.
Women of 40+ meet true love again, and seize what may be a lifetime; missed, may also be a lifetime.
Therefore, if they can catch it, then they will cherish it even more.
This kind of cherishing is often manifested in the sense that women will take the initiative to draw a clear line with the other opposite sex.
Because they understand that the sense of boundary with the opposite sex is a sense of security for the other half.
My friend's aunt, after two marriages and two divorces, has always declared that she will be single until she is old and will no longer believe in marriage. Therefore, from then on, he always regarded himself as a "person who came over", and he was relatively open to the relationship between the sexes, and he was always "informal".
Coincidentally, at the age of 46, she met true love again, and after the two entered the marriage, her friend's aunt deleted many friends of the opposite sex like a person, and studied cooking soup for her husband at home every day.
In short, love has a magical power that will make men and women trapped in it reshape and change themselves.
Women after the age of 40, it is not easy to meet true love again, so their change performance will often be more obvious.
No matter which kind of performance, it is the understanding after a hundred twists and turns; it is the calmness of life precipitation.
I have seen such a sentence:
At an age when love is already an adventure, piety or affection may be more practical and direct than the self-shaping of candlelight dinner.
Perhaps this is the truest state of mind of 40+ women when they meet love!