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People live, sometimes can not care too much about other people's opinions, as long as they do not violate morality and the law, do not do bad things, then "go their own way, let others say go!" ”
There are some things that no matter how well you do, you can't make everyone satisfied, so don't be too aggrieved for the opinions of others. If the marriage is not happy and you want to divorce yourself, then leave! Just deal with the divorce and arrange your life after the divorce.
If you meet someone you like, two people are in love, and each other is single, then be brave to be together. It is a very fortunate thing to be able to meet people who truly love each other in this life and should be cherished.
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After the death of the father-in-law, the daughter-in-law matched the single father and mother-in-law together, and the two old people were obviously interesting, but they were worried about it, afraid that outsiders would gossip. When the son learned of this, he was very much in favor of his mother and father-in-law being together, and he fully supported them.
This is what happened to Ji Miaoling's family, and Ji Miaoling is the daughter-in-law. Now their mother-in-law has become a stepmother, their father-in-law has become a stepfather, and the family of five is living happily. Let's hear the story of their family.
Self-narrator: Ji Miaoling
Age: 39 years old
Occupation: factory worker
City: Botou
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When I first stepped out of school, my mother fell ill and died of acute pancreatitis. Later, my father never remarried. I'm a very reasonable person, and several times I've made it clear to my dad that if he wants to remarry, I won't object, as long as the woman is nice to him.
But my father never looked for it, first, he didn't meet the right person; second, he didn't have the heart, he said that it was enough to have my daughter around.
So when I was in a relationship with my husband, I said that after I got married, I wanted to live with my dad, or go to our house every three or five nights to stay one night or two nights, and I wanted to spend more time with my dad. My husband said that there was no opinion, and it was up to me to decide, and I could do whatever I wanted.
When my husband and I got married, my in-laws wanted to give us a loan to buy a wedding house, and my mother-in-law said that young people like to live alone now, so they decided to buy us a new house. After my father heard that he wanted a loan, he discussed with his in-laws that he did not need a loan, and he also paid some money, and the two families bought a house together, and the in-laws naturally agreed.
After getting married, I wanted to take my dad into our matrimonial room to live with us, but my dad wouldn't agree. He said that as long as my husband and I went to see him often, he couldn't live in his daughter's house all the time, which was not good.
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In the second year after marriage, I gave birth to a son, and my mother-in-law came to take care of me. We originally planned to let my mother-in-law take the child, and my mother-in-law was also very willing, but on the eve of the end of my maternity leave, my father-in-law suddenly fell ill, and my mother-in-law had to take care of my father-in-law.
My husband and I are very worried about what to do with the children, I like the job and don't want to quit because of the children. My dad offered to take the baby with him, and repeatedly assured us that he would take care of the child.
So my dad came to live in our house. At first, I was worried that he would not be able to bring the child well, but later I found that he was very careful and took good care of the child, and my husband and I were relieved. The husband spent a lot of energy on his father, his father was hospitalized at both ends for three days, and the mother-in-law has been accompanying the father-in-law.
We helped my father-in-law to treat the disease for 5 years, and finally my father-in-law died, and my mother-in-law was not particularly sad. Because in the past 5 years, the mother-in-law has suffered a lot to take care of her father-in-law, and her energy has almost been exhausted. Because the father-in-law is uncomfortable because of illness, he will always take out his mother-in-law, and sometimes he will take things to smash his mother-in-law.
My husband went to take care of my father-in-law, and every time I scolded my father-in-law for not taking out my mother-in-law, my father-in-law scolded my husband for not filial piety. The husband has no choice but for his father-in-law, on the one hand, he is very sad to see him sick like that; on the other hand, he sees him throwing a tantrum at his mother-in-law, and the husband is very angry.
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After the death of her father-in-law, my mother-in-law fell ill because of the labor of the past 5 years. My husband and I couldn't go to her house every day to take care of her, so my husband took her to our house. My dad is still helping us with our children, picking up the children every day at school, and helping us with housework.
Our house is three-bedroom, my husband and I sleep in the master bedroom, and my son and my dad sleep in the second bedroom. The other room was originally a study, and after my husband picked up my mother-in-law, I went to buy a new bed and spread it in the study, and the study was even my mother-in-law's room.
At first, my mother-in-law was reluctant to come, she was afraid of causing us trouble, and she felt that after we went to work, it was not good for her to live with her father-in-law. My husband and I advised her not to think too much, they are all their own people, and my husband also said that my father is a decent gentleman.
After my mother-in-law moved in, my father was actually a little worried, and he said to me privately, or he would go back to his own house to live! But his home is quite far from our house, and it is impossible to pick up and drop off the children, and my husband and I are reluctant to live separately from the children. So, in the end, my dad stayed and continued to take care of us.
After more than half a year of conditioning, her mother-in-law's body slowly improved, and she wanted to move back to live. My husband and I both felt that we should not move, and she went back to be alone and cold, and there was no one to take care of her. She lived with us, we took care of each other, anyway, for my husband and I, both old people are parents.
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Then my dad and mother-in-law worked together to take care of our lives. For example: in the morning, one person makes breakfast, one person sends the child to school; in the evening, one person makes dinner, and another person goes to pick up the child; after dinner, one person washes the dishes, and one person mops the floor, like two mouths.
After a long time of love, the two of them slowly became affectionate, and neither of them mentioned that they wanted to move back to live. When I saw that something was wrong with them, I simply matched them. I told my dad privately and my mother-in-law, but both of them were worried, afraid of being laughed at.
I told my husband about this, thinking that my husband might not agree, but I didn't expect my husband to be surprised at first, and then he laughed "haha". I asked him what he meant, and he said does this still have to be asked? Of course, I am in favor, this is a great thing to kiss and kiss!
After the husband showed his attitude to the two old people, the two old people relaxed a lot, but they still cared about being laughed at. My husband and I encouraged them, we live our lives, what is the matter with outsiders? Let them go, the mouth grows on them, and we can't block them.
Later, my father and mother-in-law really went to get a license to get married. Our husband and wife helped them set up a few tables in the hotel, invited some relatives and friends, and helped them organize the wedding.
Now that our family of five is living happily, my father and mother-in-law have rented out their own houses, one rent for both of them to spend, and the other rent for family expenses. I work with peace of mind with the old police, I don't have to worry about family affairs at all, my life is really happy!
epilogue:
Ji Miaoling and her husband are both reasonable people, and they are also truly filial to the elderly and think about the elderly. If you change it to someone else's children, it may not be such an ending, and you may feel that your mother-in-law remarries with your father-in-law, which is like what words!
In fact, the two old people are single, and they are quite fond of each other, so it is a very good thing to walk together, and they can take care of each other. Love is not the patent of young people, and old people also have the right to talk about love, as long as it is sincere, as long as it does not hurt others, it should be blessed.
No matter how filial the children are, they cannot stay by their parents' side 24 hours a day, so only the wife is the one who accompanies them. Ji Miaoling and her husband have fulfilled two old people, as for the deceased relatives, they have gone, this is no way to do; for the living people, they must live well and cherish every day.
If you care too much about other people's opinions and have to live in the eyes of others, you will lose yourself and will live a very painful life. So don't care too much about other people's opinions, within the scope of law and morality, live according to your own intentions, and strive to live a good life.
Author: A creator in the field of emotions, focusing on various issues in the field of emotions, welcome to pay attention. Life has warmth because of love and love, let us grow in love, and spend every day in true feelings.