Big Bull Busy Marriage Emotional Case Series
Keywords: divorce, love, conjugal relationship
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How much does the happiness of a marriage have to do with the couple's respective emotional experiences?
This is a native emotional problem in a marriage case, from a man.com.
In many happy marriages, such emotional problems seem redundant. The past is endless, and to say more is a philistine self-disturbance.
In unhappy marriages, some emotional problems are encountered before they become entangled. Even if a punctuation mark in love is not placed in the right place, it can overwhelm people's hearts and minds!
If one day, you suddenly learn that your lover has talked about many people and is pregnant with others, can you really accept it? Are you still willing to stick with that marriage?
There's a saying that goes like this: Why isn't your marriage happy? That's because you've encountered unacceptable emotional truths, seen the harsh reality of marriage, and seen the ugliness and selfishness of people's hearts.
This statement is not necessarily all correct, but in most cases it is not all wrong.
Emotional problems are inextricably linked, if there is deception hidden in the marriage, those so-called loves will gradually become an excuse for torturing people, until people are embarrassed...
The same emotional questions have different answers in different marriages.
In the end, the best answer is not the marriage logic deduced by love reasoning, but the life that has to be accepted in reality.
First, start with a small marriage story
At noon, I heard a small story about marriage and love, whose emotional logic deserves some people's deep consideration:
After receiving their marriage licenses, a couple happily went to a roadside restaurant to eat. The woman was in a good mood, asked for a few bottles of wine, and let her husband drink with her.
Since she had never drunk alcohol in normal times, the woman did not know the depth, and it did not take long to get drunk. Not only did she forget about the public place, but even her speech gradually lost its measure and became more and more irrational.
With the strength of the wine, the woman said: In a few days, we will have a wedding, and you have done your wish. The whole family was happy for me, but unfortunately no one understood my heartache. Husband, you know, I have a secret that has always been hidden in my heart. In fact, the person I love is not you, but the man who has no reason, and I still can't forget him, so I miss him...
The man was very surprised after listening to it, and interrupted the woman's words: Wife, your words are a little too much, you may drink too much.
The woman is trapped in the memory and cannot extricate herself, her face is full of bitterness, and she is already in tears before she knows it.
She looked up and said: I married you not because I loved you, but because my parents told me that your family conditions are very good. I feel that you are humorous, warm-hearted, kind, and you are more suitable for me than your ex-boyfriend...
The woman gushed endlessly, not caring about the strange eyes of the diners at the table, and did not care about the face of the husband opposite.
She took care of herself and complained to her husband.
Of course, the man was very embarrassed, and he spoke out again to stop it: Wife, you really drank too much today, let's go home and talk about it, you joke like this will disturb others to eat.
While persuading his wife, the man apologized to the people around him who were eating and explained: I'm sorry, my wife likes to joke when she drinks too much, disturbing you, let's go...
The woman got excited and shouted: Don't pull me, I'm not joking with you. I spent 3 and a half years with my ex-boyfriend, ate together, slept together, and was pregnant with his children, but he quietly married someone else. Husband, do you know how much my heart aches? He wasn't sad that I married you, he actually wished me a happy marriage. He didn't want me anymore, he forgot about me...
The woman cried while talking, and it didn't take long for her to fall asleep, which was probably vomiting the truth after drinking.
The man looked around, his expression more embarrassed. He frowned and got up and took her home...
Second, those heavy past events in marriage
When the woman woke up drunk, it was already dark, and the husband stood in front of her bed.
The woman said with a worried face: I didn't expect that I was drunk today, I don't remember anything, I didn't say anything, right? If I say the wrong thing today, and it wasn't intentional, you don't take it to heart.
The man said: You spoke, but you did not say wrong, you said in front of many people that you loved me for a lifetime. I am really touched and I love you too, thank you for your love...
The woman was no longer nervous after listening, and with tears in the corners of her eyes, she threw herself into the man's arms.
She cried loudly, and soon she cried into tears. The man hugged her tightly, closed his eyes and didn't know what he was thinking, and after a while he smiled.
A few days later, the couple's wedding took place as scheduled, and on that day the woman smiled happily and the man cried.
A year later, the two divorced because of emotional problems. Women cried on divorce day, men cried too...
This marriage story ends here.
I don't know if it's true or not, so I can't write it as a case in previous articles on marital feelings. However, the emotional logic is common in many marriages and families.
In life, many people have experienced this kind of sadistic emotional problem.
They originally thought that love was perfect, and that husband and wife were irreplaceable sweethearts. Later, I found out that the person the other half was thinking about was not himself...
Of course, this kind of thing is very sadistic, it doesn't matter when you don't know, once you know it all, your mentality changes. Since then, love has become torture, and every time I think of those few words, I feel sad.
For many people who come over, what can they do but pretend not to know? Since the past can no longer be changed, we have to hide our tears and cherish the future.
This is a very common reality in marriage feelings, many people have had another past before marriage, and loved another person. In order to live a stable life and have personal companionship, they are all under pressure that others cannot understand.
They obviously can't accept each other's past, but they have to turn a blind eye to that matter and avoid talking about it...
This is not only a kind of love, but also a kind of helplessness. They are confused, and after a long time of confusion, the tacit understanding between husband and wife may disappear...
In terms of the principle of marriage, love is about accepting a person, forgetting the past, and then facing the future together. Whether the marriage is happy or not in the future is not necessarily related to each other's past emotional experiences.
But reality does not necessarily emphasize principles, there are many heavy hearts, and recalling them afterwards will be able to summarize a lot of different logic.
There are too many grudges and entanglements in marriage, which are actually related to the past. Sadistic things can't really be forgotten, but many people don't remember them for a while...
3. Married for 7 years and without children
Everyone can say, "I don't care about the other half's past," but later on, it's probably just talking. In the face of sadistic emotional problems, they don't think so in their hearts. In the face of realistic choices, they don't end up doing that.
Below, I will tell you an intriguing divorce case from a man's marital experience. In his tone, I will only tell the truth, and I will sort it out a little to improve readability.
My wife and I are about to divorce, we have been separated for more than half a month, we have not talked a word, and we have not seen each other once. She lived hers, I passed mine, and together they waited for the day of the divorce.
When the family property is divided and the proof is finished, we are finished.
Maybe none of us are at fault, it's the fate that is wrong. I still love her now, and maybe she loves me as much as she did, but there is no room for relaxation between the two of us.
This is called fate and no division, and it can only end here.
There are many things that are held in my heart, and saying them is both a harm to her and a harm to me. If you don't say it, it is a harm to the future, and it is also a harm to your life.
The cause of the matter is a bit complicated...
We were married for seven or eight years and never had any children. The whole family asked us to have a child, but there was nothing we could do, and we tried many times and failed.
It's not that we don't want it, it's that wives can't have children. Her physique is very weak, unlike others, and it is difficult to conceive. Even if she was barely pregnant, she couldn't keep it, and the child fell off on her own in less than 3 months.
We've tried seven or eight times, and it's been like this every time. With a lot of methods, she just couldn't keep the child.
To be honest, I was depressed and sad. But seeing my wife is sadder than me, I can't say anything more, I swore to love her all my life and didn't want to make her sad.
My sister once advised me: You can't drag it out, if she still can't do it, you can get a divorce, this is nothing to say, it is not your fault. No matter what the future holds, you always have to leave a descendant for our family, you have no choice, this is your responsibility...
My parents were also worried all day, and sometimes they would bend over backwards to persuade me to divorce.
I know my family's concerns, but I'm not the kind of person who doesn't have a conscience. I love my wife, I love her very much. No matter how disappointed my family was in me, I couldn't do anything to abandon my wife.
Fourth, marriage reveals the truth of love
At the beginning of last year, we got pregnant again, and the whole family was very happy.
My mother came to my house, brought her tea and water, washed and cooked, and took care of her as much as she could. But the result was the same as before, the child fell again, without warning, inexplicably.
My wife was sad, and she was more stressed than I was. She had cried and apologized to me, saying that she was useless and sorry for our family.
I didn't blame her, but encouraged her: You must not pay attention to it, this child has nothing to do with us. You remember, no matter whether there are children in the future or not, we can both live a lifetime, don't care what other people think, I still love you...
In those days, our hearts were very heavy, but when we thought of love, we were full of confidence in the future. As long as there is love, we are happy and have nothing to do with children.
Unfortunately, families value children more than our feelings.
My sister said to me: It's time for you to face reality, I don't believe you are her first man. At this time, you don't care about face, tell me the truth, what kind of work she used to do, is it really your classmate?
I was surprised that my sister would ask such a question that made my heart weak.
I replied to my sister: Actually, I am not her first man. I said we were first love for the sake of face. Before we met, she had lost love 1 time, just 1 time, I took the initiative to pursue her, she was not wrong.
My sister said: Don't say that I provoked dissension, I will tell you so, you are still living in a dream. She must have a ghost in her heart, you are not the second, you may not even be in the top ten! You have asked clearly, how many people she has talked about, and has she been pregnant and beaten before? If I guessed correctly, we don't want her. Mom and Dad are about to be angry with you, don't be the wronged boss anymore, our family can't afford to drag...
This was the first time my sister had said such a serious word to me, and her tone was very heavy, so I was asked to find out.
In fact, I also suspected it a few years ago, I asked my wife, she swore that she had only talked about one boyfriend before she knew me, had never conceived a child before marriage, and had not lied to me...
Because of her commitment, I love her like that. I don't want to upset her, and I don't care if she can have children...
Only when I came over did I really understand that there are many lies hidden in love. At first I trusted her too much to see that she was lying to me.
Later, the marriage revealed the truth of love, and when she took the initiative to confess, I knew that we could not be...
Marriage is never just a matter of love
Although my sister asked me to ask her again and again, I didn't have the courage to ask. It's not that I don't dare to ask, but I don't want to make her sad, afraid that she will cry.
But this kind of problem is unavoidable after all, and one day we will have to face it.
2 months ago, my wife said: I know your family has long been annoying me, maybe you are also suspecting that I have wasted myself. It's been this time, I don't hide it, I did talk about love several times, when I was young and ignorant, I was pregnant with children several times, I took a lot of medicine, and I had several surgeries. Maybe fate punishes me for not letting me have children...
After listening, my heart seemed to be cold. Not because of the last sentence, nor because of her rich emotional experience, but because she lied to me, she has been lying to me...
When I was in love, I had a plan in mind, even if she talked about more boyfriends and conceived more children, as long as she told the truth, don't hide, I can not care. Loving her has nothing to do with her past and depends on her own attitude.
Since she lied in the first place and deliberately deceived me for so many years, how could I force myself to live with her?
She continued: I confessed all to you, can you forgive me? At that time, I didn't deliberately lie to you, but I loved you too much, afraid that you would dislike me, so I had to hide my emotional experience. You tell the truth, if I really can't give birth, will you really love me for the rest of my life?
I said: I love you, how about we get a divorce?
She was stunned, probably not expecting me to file for divorce.
She thought that telling that little secret would get forgiveness, and she thought that love could really overcome reality. But reality does not allow me to forgive her, after all, she lied to me, and this one reason alone is enough...
Now we have been separated for more than half a month and miss her occasionally, but we cannot continue. If she had told the truth, if she had confessed to me, we would not have come this far.
I decided to divorce, not because she couldn't have children, but because she cheated on my love...
This marriage case ends here, last month by a man preparing for divorce. There is a follow-up to the case, he and his wife divorced a few days ago, and no amount of love will help.
Regarding this case, I will not express too many views, just truthfully describe, the article itself is the point of view. Everyone who comes over has their own opinion, which level can you think of?
This marriage case can no longer change anything, but it can tell many young people that only a perfect body is more qualified to pursue perfect love. The mutilated and broken emotional past may bring involuntary sadness.
Many times, love is a process from longing to reality. Full of dreams and romance, it represents forgiveness and tolerance. But marriage has always been realistic, life is more realistic.
Some emotional experiences are like stubborn diseases, destroying the last bit of attachment of many people. When the last veil of marriage is lifted, all love is false.
Some things are unavoidable, and marriage is never just a matter of love.
But at critical moments, love issues can be used as an excuse for divorce, leaving people with stories dumbfounded...
This is a very careful marriage logic, some people are dumb and eat huanglian, only to blame themselves for being too casual.
Please remember that there are many emotional problems in marriage, if even you can't face it, the other half naturally can't face it, which is inevitable.
If you want to have a happy marriage, don't use feelings as a game. Try to talk about feelings a few times and give a little more sincerity, that may be better. Deep love is indeed a matter for two people, but also consider the reality of life.
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