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"Have you bought a house?"
"No, I don't have any money, I still have to support my family."
Zhang Ruonan, who was born in 1996, has already had several representative works, film contracts, advertising appointments, all said that stars make money, she is so busy, she should have made a lot of money, right?
But in fact, she had not even bought her own house, which was hard to believe.
Zhang Ruonan mentioned his original family in "Send a Hundred Girls Home".
Looking like a rich woman, she was actually born into a rural family that preferred sons over daughters
Zhang Ruonan, white skin, exquisite facial features, thin figure, how to look like a delicate miss.
In fact, she is not a rich woman, she is not only not a rich woman, but also born in a relatively poor rural family.
Her original name was "Zhang Ruonan", and she had two younger sisters and a younger brother.
One look at this family composition, you can guess the family situation, in order to have boys, several girls were born in succession.
Zhang Ruonan confessed that her grandmother had always wanted a boy, so she gave her such a name, hoping that the boss of the family could be as responsible as a man.
But in this way, we can't stop having children until we give birth to boys.
Zhang Ruonan's two younger sisters and a younger brother came here.
Zhang Ruonan was born to eat this bowl of rice, when she was in college, she has begun to work as a part-time model to make money, accidentally entered the entertainment circle, and she has been very busy after signing a brokerage company.
The money was not less earned, but she did not save it, because she had to adopt her parents, raise two sisters and brothers.
Independent personality, with expectations for his younger brother
Zhang Ruonan, who grew up in such a native family background, is destined to become an independent and self-reliant girl, because she has no one to rely on, and there are several people who rely on her standing behind her.
She said that she was still relatively satisfied with herself, and she also gave her family a better return and brought a relatively good life to her family.
Zhang Ruonan said that he was very assertive and independent, and had always been so.
It is not surprising that a girl who has been pinned on infinite hope since she was a child, a girl who has been named "Ruo Boy" by her parents since she was a child, has no time to cry and be weak, and she has carried the expectations of too many people.
It is easy for the actor to make money, but it is also relatively hard, and in the face of all kinds of hardship, she has never complained, because this hard work is worth it, directly in exchange for the money she needs, which is the basis for supporting the whole family.
Referring to her brother, she said that she hoped that her brother would have a career, and she did not want her brother to become a person who had always relied on her because she could make money, or hoped that her brother could have his own life.
Two patriarchal families of origin
There are generally two kinds of original families that favor sons over daughters: one is essentially son preference, and does not care to do superficial kung fu, parents remind girls everywhere, to let the brother or brother, you are born inferior to the brother and brother; there is also a more clever, obviously the parents in the heart of the son preference, but in the name of love to kidnap the girl, so that the girl should also take care of the younger brother like the parents.
The first kind of girl born in the original family, or become the same person as her parents, if she is fortunate enough to work hard enough to get out of the original family, then she will go farther and farther away from the original family, because the unfair treatment for a long time has made the girls resentful in their hearts, and being able to completely break away from the original family is what they have been pursuing.
And the second kind of original family born of the girl, is likely to become a "brother support demon", although there is their own family, but still everywhere thinking of parents and brothers, everywhere to help the brother, not hesitate to tear their faces with in-laws and husbands.
What is particularly disgusting is the second kind of parent, who is clearly oriented towards his son in his bones, but he has to find a reason for his son preference, what must be raised, because the son is the heir, must raise the son, because there is a son to stand on one side.
As a result, under the guidance and education of their parents, the daughters have become people who are determined to help their brothers and help their mother's family, which has caused a series of family conflicts.
A woman who breaks her heart for her native family and makes a mess of her life
When it comes to the daughters raised by the second type of original family, I just happen to have them around.
Jingjing, my former colleague when I was at work, when I went to work, it was her mother-in-law who would listen to her the most, but when it sounded, I didn't think that her mother-in-law was at fault, but I felt more and more that she was the one who made the family conflict continue to intensify.
Her family has three daughters and a son, also born in a large family that favors sons over daughters, she is the third oldest in the family, she said that after she was born, she was almost sent by her grandmother, and she exchanged sons with others, and it was her mother who forcibly kept her.
Later, her mother gave birth to her younger brother, and three older sisters helped a younger brother's family.
The three sisters and their brother have a very good relationship, and she has been praising their sister-brother affection.
When she got married, her parents did not give a penny dowry, her in-laws prepared a dowry of 100,000 yuan, and a rough house, originally wanted her to use the 100,000 bride price to help decorate, the result of the 100,000 bride price, all into her parents' pockets.
She defended her parents and said, "My mother said no, I must give it to her, my brother still wants to buy a house, they don't have money." ”
The money went into the pockets of the parents, and it was the daughter who was blinded.
Because of this incident, the house was not given to them, because there had been no decoration, and the old man refused to transfer the house.
Later, her brother bought a house, the money was still not enough, the three sisters made up 300,000, she took 100,000.
This is the second line that stimulates family conflicts, she has a limited income, the money is taken from her husband, and her husband follows her father-in-law in business, so her father-in-law knows it well.
From that time on, her father-in-law did not give her an old face, and even said directly to her face that she was dressed inappropriately.
She has a lot of sullenness for this, but there is no way, the daughter let people raise, the child's milk powder money is from the parents, and the money she earns is still constantly subsidizing the parents.
I carefully asked her, "Is this really happy?" You give all the money to your parents, but you have to live on your in-laws, and your children have to let them raise them, and they will certainly not give you a good face. ”
She said that sometimes she did not hate her in-laws so much, it is true that she did not do it right first, always can not let go of her parents, but there is no way for her brother to buy a house, her parents have no money, but also decoration, she does not give, parents have no money to spend.
But then she began to complain about her in-laws, and her language was full of injustice and resentment.
Family conflicts have intensified, and now she is holding her husband out of her in-laws' house and renting a house outside.
She is a typical girl born in the second kind of original family, if the parents really love her and care about her, they should consider her situation, since the daughter is married and has her own children, she can't always let the daughter pay money everywhere to supplement herself and her son, if the parents always say it, but never put it into action, the girl should really stop and seriously think about how her future life should go.
If this continues, it can only be a dead knot, and the last thing to destroy is his own home.