The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth remains in the heart
As for the vast majority of girls, the marriage and family they hope for should be stable and harmonious between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, once these two characteristics are possessed, girls living in this environment and atmosphere must be happy.
As the saying goes, the family has a difficult scripture, when the girl left the home where she has lived for more than twenty years and came to a strange family life, due to the difference in lifestyle and various ideas, there will always be various contradictions with the husband's family members.
Of all these family conflicts, the most unacceptable is probably the eccentricity and inaction of the mother-in-law.
Of course, in addition, as a husband, the attitude in dealing with the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law also plays a vital role in the harmony of husband and wife.
01 Eccentric mother-in-law
Since He Li married her husband, she learned that she had met a very eccentric mother-in-law, and the object of her favoritism was her sister-in-law.
The conditions of He Li's original family are not bad, her parents have a stable job, the most important thing is that He Li is the only daughter in the family, so when He Li got married, her parents used half a life's savings, and He Li prepared a dowry room.
And it is precisely because of the existence of this dowry room that it has become the only confidence and dependence of He Li in her in-laws' family after she got married.
Of course, He Li also knew in her heart that it was precisely because the conditions of her mother's family were better than those of her in-laws, so after He Li married her husband, her husband's family, including her mother-in-law, was more polite to herself.
The husband has a younger sister, she is still relatively young, and after He Li married her husband for several years, the sister-in-law has only reached the age of talking about marriage.
However, it is precisely because of the existence of the sister-in-law that He Li deeply realized how much it would affect her original life when she met an eccentric mother-in-law.
At the beginning, He Li expressed understanding for her mother-in-law's love for her sister-in-law, after all, the sister-in-law is younger, and it is also very common for her mother-in-law to give her more love, but what happened before the sister-in-law got married completely subverted He Li's cognition.
02 The mother-in-law asked for her dowry room
Soon, the sister-in-law reached the age of talking about marriage, and when the sister-in-law said that she had a good mother-in-law's family, the mother-in-law began to get busy and began to prepare the relevant things that the sister-in-law needed to get married.
As a brother-in-law, He Li and her husband, in the face of their sister's imminent marriage, they are also ready to belong to their own wishes, planning to let her take her back to her in-laws' family when she is married, as a person who has come over, He Li knows that the importance that the mother's family attaches to her daughter when she gets married is directly related to how she is treated in the in-laws' family.
One day after dinner, He Li was cleaning up her room at home, when her mother-in-law suddenly called, and He Li hurriedly put down her work and answered the phone.
On the phone, the mother-in-law seemed to have some desire to talk and stopped, and after chatting with He Li for a long time, she began to say her purpose.
The mother-in-law said: Li Li, when you first married, did your mother prepare a house for you?
He Li said: Yes, that house is a little far from where I work, so I haven't lived in much.
The mother-in-law then said: Li Li, my mother and you discussed something, you see when you and my son got married, there was a house, and now your sister is married, I calculated that I don't want her to let the in-laws look down on her after getting married, I plan to give her a suite of dowries, but you also know that our family's economic conditions are not allowed, my mother thinks so, you can see if you can give your dowry room to your sister, anyway, you don't live, empty is also empty.
As soon as He Li heard this, she immediately understood her mother-in-law's meaning.
03 You don't give, let my son divorce you
In the face of such unreasonable demands from her mother-in-law, He Li did not directly clash with them, or said calmly: Mom, that house is the savings of my parents for half a lifetime, and it is the deepest love of their two elders for my daughter, how can I transfer this love to someone?
When the mother-in-law saw He Li refuse, she was a little unhappy in her heart, and even blurted out a sentence: If you don't give, I will let my son divorce you.
Hearing her mother-in-law's words, He Li's heart was suddenly full of mixed feelings, although she clearly understood that her mother-in-law had been very partial to the sister-in-law over the years, but she did not expect to be biased to such a point, willing to make the daughter-in-law unhappy, but also to complete the sister-in-law.
From the mother-in-law's words, He Li also clearly understood the mother-in-law's personality, she was not moved, but said lightly: Okay. Then he hung up the phone.
Not long after hanging up the phone, the husband called, the husband on the phone was a little puzzled, asked He Li how her parents were angry, because she had just called her husband, and the mother-in-law on the phone was very angry and asked her husband to divorce He Li.
Then He Li told her husband the beginning and end of the matter, and after her husband listened, he fell silent, and after a while, the husband comforted He Li a few words, but told He Li not to think too much, and to talk about his mother-in-law.
After hanging up the phone, He Li was very glad that he had found a reasonable husband, and when facing the contradiction between himself and his mother-in-law, he could always calmly ask about the beginning and end of the matter, and in the face of the unreasonable request of his mother-in-law, he would also say a few words to his mother-in-law.
However, through this incident, He Li also knew in her heart that in the future, there would definitely be a lot of water and fire between her and her mother-in-law, but everything didn't matter, as long as the feelings with her husband were harmonious, everything else was not so important.
Conclusion: A woman's dowry room is her own thing, no one has the right to dominate, even if it is a husband and a mother-in-law, of course, after a woman gets married, if she encounters an eccentric mother-in-law, she must be brave enough to say no to her unreasonable requirements.
Women should know one thing well: a temporary compromise will only be exchanged for endless troubles, in exchange for a harmonious family atmosphere.