Daughter-in-law's annual salary is 200,000 yuan, the mother-in-law wants half of the living expenses, son: Mom, leave me some face

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Some people think that a man's inaction is the main cause of family conflicts. Stupid men will not balance the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but will only make family relations worse and worse, while smart men will circumvent between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, balance their relationship, and become the lubricant of the family.

Friends work for a very famous foreign company, after several years of hard work, she has become a regional manager with an annual salary of 200,000 yuan. Friends and husbands are busy every day, so the husband takes the mother-in-law from the countryside to help take care of the housework, and also prepares them for the baby in the future.

But not long after the mother-in-law lived, she learned that the daughter-in-law is a high-income person, the annual salary of 200,000 yuan, which is nothing less than an astronomical number for the mother-in-law, but she is very dissatisfied with the daughter-in-law, because of the 200,000 annual salary, there is no money for her, thinking that if she does not take care of the rear for them, how can the daughter-in-law and son work outside with peace of mind, so she and her son put forward a request to take out the daughter-in-law's half-year salary as living expenses.

In fact, friends know that the mother-in-law is hiding cat greasy in her heart, the little uncle is still studying, although the money for school is from the husband, but in a few years he will face the two major events of employment and marriage, the mother-in-law at this moment the lion opened her mouth, in fact, she wants to secretly save some money for the little uncle.

The real idea of the friend is that she must refuse the unreasonable request of her mother-in-law, she has tried her best, and if she can't do it, she can't force herself to pay, and the mother-in-law's concept of "robbing the rich and helping the poor" is actually hurting her. Just when she was hesitating how to reject her mother-in-law, her husband's words made her suddenly feel at ease, and she heard her husband say to her mother-in-law: "Mom, save me some face." ”

It turned out that her husband had paid over the years was visible, and he did not take this for granted, but felt indebted to her. Hearing such words, the anger that had already risen in his heart was extinguished in an instant, and a family conflict that was about to break out was also stopped by her husband.

It has to be said that the friend met a good man who could consider her feelings, and he resolved a family conflict in time in his own way.

In a family, a man plays the role of both a husband and a son, and how to play these two roles at the same time without embarrassing the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law is testing the wisdom of a man.

Smart men will skillfully resolve the problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, while men who are not smart enough will only make family relations worse and worse. In life, men who do not act often have the following kinds:

01 Mommy Boy

There is a kind of man, in the name of filial piety to do unprincipled things, for the mother is obedient, can never be the master of the daughter-in-law, when the contradiction occurs, he can not help but say, directly to the side of the mother, the mother-in-law contradiction will not only not be resolved, but will also be instantly intensified by his behavior, this kind of person, is what we often call the mother treasure man.

The TV series "Mother-in-law is Coming" is such a family contradiction drama full of chicken feathers, and the demise of a marriage is precisely because the son is unprincipledly partial to his mother and in-laws, so that the daughter-in-law completely despairs of him.

Wang Chuanzhi, who was born in poverty, was admitted to a prestigious university through his own ability, and unlike other students around him, he suffered more than others, so he also knew how to cherish this opportunity to study more than others.

He Lin, a girl who grew up in a big city since childhood, faced many suitors and was touched by Wang Chuanzhi's hard-working spirit.

He Lin likes Wang Chuanzhi from the bottom of her heart, so she has nothing to ask for for materials, and the marriage room between the two is bought by He Lin's family, and she does not have too many expectations for Wang Chuanzhi.

Originally, the two people could have lived happily like this, but the arrival of the mother-in-law broke the previous tranquility.

The mother-in-law's feudal and backward thinking is deeply rooted, and He Lin, a girl who has accepted the idea of a big city since she was a child, is simply incompatible, but she believes that as long as she marries her son, her daughter-in-law must listen to her son, and her son must listen to her as a mother.

After the mother-in-law lived in her son's house, she began to dictate their lives, she did not care about He Lin's feelings, killed her pet goose, and also took Wang Chuanzhi's eldest brother and sister-in-law to live with.

The mother-in-law's behavior seriously interfered with and disrupted He Lin's life, but Wang Chuanzhi, who was sandwiched in the middle, always regarded his mother's words as a holy will, but he turned a blind eye to He Lin's pain, and just when the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law broke out fiercely, Wang Chuanzhi slapped He Lin hard in order to favor his mother.

In the end, He Lin completely lost faith in Wang Chuanzhi and her family, and she ended the marriage that made her miserable.

As a man, you can't be filial piety without boundaries and principles, and sometimes a man's favoritism towards his parents and his own family will not only hurt a woman's heart, but also very likely to break his marriage.

02 The wife is strict

Contrary to Ma Baonan, there is a kind of man who obeys his wife's orders but ignores his parents. This kind of man is a typical "married daughter-in-law and forgot her mother".

Many family conflicts are precisely because men are too partial to their daughters-in-law, so that parents are more and more dissatisfied with their daughters-in-law.

Friends often complain to me that her brother has not had peace in the family since he got married. First, the younger brother and the mother turned their faces, and he and his mother wanted to return the salary they gave their mother before marriage, and then the younger brother had to separate from his mother. And the encouragement behind this is naturally the younger sister and the mother's family behind it.

At first, the younger brother still had some pain for his mother, but at the repeated instigation of his daughter-in-law, he also lost his principles, and everything was based on his daughter-in-law, and he obeyed her. Friends said that the mother often secretly shed tears herself and said that she had raised a filial son.

This kind of "strict wife management" type of man is also difficult to make a difference in family conflicts, because he only listens to his daughter-in-law's words and ignores the feelings of his parents, and in contradictions, the wronged people are often the elderly.

03 Bystanders

There is also a kind of man who seems to be powerless against family contradictions, so he simply escapes from contradictions, regardless of the feelings of his parents or his daughter-in-law, he regards himself as a bystander, allowing the contradictions to develop, or fending for himself, in short, he thinks that he is powerless, it is better to simply ignore it completely.

In fact, the mentality of the bystander is to evade responsibility, which not only fails to resolve the contradiction, but also makes both sides of the contradiction dissatisfied with him.

Obviously, this kind of person is not a person who loves his family and loves life, on the contrary, he has more indifference and ruthlessness.

There is a saying that home and everything is happy, only the family is quiet and harmonious, people have more energy and good mood to do more meaningful things, otherwise they are trapped in the trivial family chores every day, which is the biggest consumption of their own lives. Therefore, this requires men to stand up at the right time, use wise methods to resolve contradictions, and men who can maneuver around the contradictions of their families with ease can be regarded as a qualified good man.

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