When I first read the original work of "Mother-in-law Is Coming", I didn't like He Lin's aunt Yu Huaqing, I always felt that she had a lot of things, a broken mouth, and had to be unreasonable, and liked to interfere with He Lin's married life.
However, after reading the whole novel, I found that He Lin's aunt Yu Huaqing is the most transparent person in life, and her knife mouth tofu heart, although she speaks very rudely, but it is very reasonable.
For example, XiaoYi is the only person in the family who opposes He Lin's marriage to Wang Chuanzhi, on the grounds that she buys pigs to see the circle, and when she gets married, she must be the right person, and she must look at the other party's original family.
Xiao Aunt believes that Wang Chuanzhi is a phoenix man, the original family is Wang Chuanzhi's heavy burden, is the shackles he can't shake off in his lifetime, if He Lin marries Wang Chuanzhi, he will have to bear Wang Chuanzhi's original family together, overwhelmed.
Xiao Yi's worries were really prescient, and He Lin's marriage was eventually crushed by Wang Chuanzhi's original family and Wang Chuanzhi's unclear practices.
When I watched "Mother-in-law Is Coming", I paid more attention to the details related to Aunt He Lin, and also saw Yu Huaqing's failed marriage. It turned out that the little aunt with the knife mouth tofu heart was also a good wife and mother, and she once wanted to live a good life with men, but she met people who were not ladylike, and she was wronged and abandoned miserably, and finally, under the torture of that bad marriage, the little aunt was reborn in the fire and lived into the envy of women.
Aunt He Lin changed from a virtuous wife and mother to a shrew, giving women 4 enlightenments, which is worthy of women's caution.
First, in marriage, the more you swallow your anger, the more the other party has to advance;
After Yu Huaqing married her ex-husband, she also wanted to live a good life, and gave birth to two sons to her ex-husband, filial piety to her in-laws, and a typical virtuous wife and mother.
Ex-husband in the state-owned enterprise construction team to work, often field work, more than half a year do not go home, can not take care of the family, the aunt not only has to work to earn money, but also with two children, waiting for the in-laws, the winter less than five o'clock to get up to clean up, hard work and complaints.
But how did her ex-husband and mother-in-law treat her?
No matter how Yu Huaqing behaves, no matter how virtuous and filial piety, the mother-in-law just looks at her unpleasantly, picking bones in the eggs, while enjoying the service of her daughter-in-law, she loses her temper at every turn, smashes the basin and smashes the bowl, and makes the family jump.
The mother-in-law is proud of the reputation of the stinky daughter-in-law, distorts the facts, and tells the people around her bad things about the daughter-in-law.
"Her mother-in-law is not satisfied, as long as the gas is not all out, she will run to the roof of the construction team's family home and shout, scold her daughter-in-law for being bad for her, and often threaten to jump down and let her son come back to collect the body!"
Yu Huaqing's ex-husband cheated on her, and the mother-in-law did not think of the love of her daughter-in-law who gave birth to two grandchildren for her, and asked the daughter-in-law to get out of the egg, and what is even more infuriating is that it is obviously the mistake made by Yu Huaqing's ex-husband, but she hopes that Yu Huaqing will leave the house.
"The mother-in-law is reluctant to let the daughter-in-law live in the house that her son's original unit was divided into, quarrel with the daughter-in-law every day, let the daughter-in-law roll, do not shy away from anything, what is difficult to hear, what son has someone outside, do not want her, want to die where to die." 」
Yu Huaqing's husband worked outside the home for a long time and did not return home, not only did not miss his wife's kindness of taking care of the housework, having children, and honoring his parents, but instead empathized with others, betrayed the marriage, made a big mistake himself, and tried to force his wife to get out of the house, which was simply a fighter among scumbags.
In fact, the ex-husband and mother-in-law's repeated bullying of Yu Huaqing's strength is also directly related to Yu Huaqing's patience and patience. When the ex-husband disregarded the family, when the mother-in-law framed herself without reason, she really should resist in time, endure, and cannot solve the problem.
Second, since the other party does not think of the love of husband and wife, you cannot be soft-hearted, divorce can be, and the interests that belong to you must try their best to win;
Fortunately, the little aunt did not put up with it again, otherwise there would be no strong woman Yu Huaqing in the back.
The aunt later couldn't stand it anymore, agreed to divorce, and asked for all the housing, plus two million. At that time, my uncle's real estate in Beijing was given to my sister-in-law, and two million did not agree, saying that there was only one million. The aunt said that there was no one and a half million not to consider. The last one and a half million were also taken out. ”
When her ex-husband divorced, he also ruined Yu Huaqing's reputation everywhere, saying that she was powerful and letting him get out of the house. In fact, the ex-husband definitely has more than that money in his hands.
Besides, even if he really came out of the house, so what? He betrayed his marriage, betrayed his wife, made a big mistake, shouldn't he be punished? When Yu Huaqing divorced, the two sons had not yet established a family, why did Yu Huaqing leave these properties behind, and cheapened her ex-husband's family and the woman who destroyed her own family? These properties are the joint property of their husband and wife, which should belong to Yu Huaqing and his two sons, and it is a perfectly normal thing for Yu Huaqing to want.
Woman, since she tore her face with him and came to the step of divorce, don't say anything about love, the interests that belong to you should be won as much as possible, otherwise, it will only cheapen the scumbag and other women.
Third, a good horse does not eat grass, and the person who hurt you is miserable, and he is to blame for himself, so why should you forgive him?
The ex-husband betrayed the marriage and was also punished, and went to the step of bankruptcy.
After going bankrupt, her ex-husband started Yu Huaqing's idea, and wanted to return a property on the grounds that there was too much property allocated to Yu Huaqing.
It was really ridiculous, he had given Yu Huaqing these properties in order to get rid of Yu Huaqing, marry his own red rose, and let Yu Huaqing agree to divorce, that was what he was willing to do, why did he want to come back?
The ex-husband was brazen to the extreme, seeing that the two sons did not pay attention to him, he went to He Lin, hoping that He Lin would help, and then went to Yu Huaqing, and what was even more speechless was that he actually let the woman who destroyed Yu Huaqing's family go to Yu Huaqing and try to make Yu Huaqing sympathize with them.
Yu Huaqing was very crisp, whether it was her ex-husband or the third party, he did not hesitate to scold back, and it was useless for anyone to intercede.
"Roll! Disappear from my eyes, hurry! I have never seen you faceless and skinless, and you have no time during the day and at night to find a piece of tofu to crash to death! ”
As the saying goes, the prodigal son does not change his gold, but why should a woman use the rest of her life to make a bet and give the prodigal son a chance to turn back? Jump twice in the same fire pit, and only a stupid woman would do that.
Fourth, do not do to others what you do not want, and do not inflict on your daughter-in-law the suffering you have suffered.
Do not do to others what you do not want, this is simple to say, but it is very difficult to do. Some women suffer when they are daughters-in-law, are bullied by their mother-in-law, and when they become mother-in-law themselves, they take the girls of others out of anger, and they have to let the daughter-in-law taste all the pains they have tasted before they can feel psychological balance. As a result, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been endless from generation to generation, and it has harmed countless families.
Yu Huaqing has two sons, she is a good mother-in-law, treats her daughter-in-law very well, and knows the truth of far fragrance and near smell.
"Both daughters-in-law live in my house, I don't need them to honor a penny, each person takes care of each other, each family takes care of each family, I didn't go to raid them, we still wait for the confinement, we don't wait to pay for the sister-in-law, the New Year's Festival grandchildren and red envelopes, my carefree mother-in-law is difficult to find under the sky with a lantern!" 」
"Your two cousins don't dare to put on my face at all, and neither of them dares to!" I occasionally go to their house and have to eat and drink well. Under normal circumstances, I also do not go, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, far away from the smell, the annoyance is that the face is large and there is no self-awareness, and then people are at work, very tired, can understand each other, the relationship can be good! ”
The mother-in-law who is so worry-free, does not look for trouble, and is considerate of the daughter-in-law, as long as the daughter-in-law's character is not bad, will be grateful to her, filial piety, and when she is old, she is willing to contribute.
Women, remember, don't go from victim to perpetrator, don't wait for you to become a factor in your son's unstable marriage when you are old. Home and wanshixing, you get along with your daughter-in-law in harmony, is the best care for your son.
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