Note that this article is about the plot of the original book of "Mother-in-law Is Coming", which is very different from the TV series version, and please do not confuse it.
Liu Xiaoya, is the girlfriend of the heroine He Lin, is a local, read the vocational high school of the foreign-related hotel, has been working in a five-star hotel, from the waiter to the current lobby manager, the monthly salary is more than 6,000, the salary was already relatively high at that time. Liu Xiaoya's parents are ordinary workers, with a meager income, have been laid off, live by eating low insurance, after the daughter has an interest, often subsidizes the family, life is much better.
Liu Xiaoya wants to look good, to have ability and ability, and not to worry about finding a suitable object at all, but like He Lin, she made a big mistake, that is, to eat love as a meal, and when choosing a mate, she only looks at love, not the actual situation.
When He Lin married Wang Chuanzhi, her mind was full of love, but she ignored Wang Chuanzhi's bad and complicated original family and the idea that his relatives were always greater than his wife, and in the end, not long after He Lin got married, she was deeply troubled by the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the relationship between relatives, and the marriage collapsed.
Fortunately, He Lin had a mother's family to support her, and she also became desperate in constant disappointment, and finally for her mother, Ze gang, in order to let her daughter have a happy life, chose to leave Wang Chuanzhi. However, Liu Xiaoya was not so lucky, and she was eventually forced to die by the evil mother-in-law and her mother-in-law's husband.
He Lin's aunt Yu Huaqing once commented that Liu Xiaoya was in a hurry to marry, which was indeed the case.
01. The other parent's parents show that they will not accept you, and you rush to get married, is not it humiliating yourself?
Liu Xiaoya's marriage would fail, and it was expected before she got married, and from the very beginning, Fang Hongjun's mother refused to accept her as a daughter-in-law.
Fang Hongjun's mother is a single mother, widowed for many years, a person pulled her son to grow up, saving money for her son to go to Japan to study, for her, the son is all the hope in her life, is the existence she is least likely to let go.
His son went abroad to study for a few years, it was hard to come back, he had not had time to enjoy a few more years of mother-son time with his son, there was a woman who wanted to snatch his son, which made Fang Hongjun's mother how to accept?
In fact, the mother of the square turtle is not easy, the husband died early, her widow mother brought up her son with a handful of and a handful of urine, it took a lot of old age, after high school, she also sent a high consumption to Japan to study, I thought that my son would come back to enjoy a few years of happiness, but I didn't want my son to marry his daughter-in-law so soon.
John Gottman wrote in the book "Happy Marriage" that the core of the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the turf war between two women in order to get the love of a man.
Although Liu Xiaoya was sincere, Fang Hongjun's mother decided in her heart that Liu Xiaoya had come to rob her son, so from the very beginning she did not accept Liu Xiaoya, regarded Liu Xiaoya as an enemy, and tried her best to sabotage.
First of all, she first beat mandarin ducks, disagreed with Liu Xiaoya and Fang Hongjun, and wanted to break them up, but Liu Xiaoya and Fang Hongjun "loved more than Jinjian", refused to separate, and secretly got a certificate.
In order to make her mother-in-law accept herself, Liu Xiaoya expressed her sincerity, took the money to buy a house, and took her mother-in-law to enjoy the blessings, in desperation, Fang Hongjun's mother had to agree to them together and asked them to hold a wedding.
She did not want her daughter-in-law to have a sense of ceremony, but to embarrass her daughter-in-law and humiliate her daughter-in-law in public. Therefore, she was not happy at all, she did not drink tea, and what was even more excessive was that she stole the ring in order to make her daughter-in-law not come to the stage.
Doing everything possible to prevent Liu Xiaoya from entering the door, how much Fang Hongjun's mother dislikes Liu Xiaoya, Yu Huaqing can see clearly, Liu Xiaoya's parents can also see it, and they do not approve of this marriage, but they can't stop the daughter who is blinded by love.
The other parent's parents show that they will not accept you, and you rush to marry, is not it humiliating yourself? This is equivalent to telling the man's parents that you can't live without their son, and no matter what they do to you, even if it is too much, you will not leave their son. Once they have such an idea, can they take you seriously?
02. Your parents raised you with hard work, not to make you die and live because of a man;
With a lot of effort, Liu Xiaoya broke through many obstacles and married Fang Hongjun, but this was the beginning of her disaster, Fang Hongjun's mother still did not accept Liu Xiaoya, still regarded Liu Xiaoya as an enemy, and tried her best to bully Liu Xiaoya.
First, Fang Hongjun's mother controlled the salary of her daughter-in-law Liu Xiaoya, giving Liu Xiaoya 300 yuan for living expenses every month, and even needed her special approval to buy personal supplies. What is even more excessive is that she took all the money Liu Xiaoya earned to repay the mortgage, and deposited her son's salary in her private account, which was clearly preparing for the divorce of her son and daughter-in-law.
Second, Fang Hongjun's mother tried her best to prevent her son and daughter-in-law from being intimate and living a conjugal life, in case their husband and wife relationship became better and better.
Third, Fang Hongjun's mother used Liu Xiaoya as a free nanny and did not treat her as a person at all.
In the morning, you have to get up first to make breakfast for three people before you can go to work, eat in the hotel at noon, go back in the evening to make dinner for three people, often have to wait until ten o'clock to eat, my husband works overtime, comes back late, I am hungry every night.
Fourth, Fang Hongjun's mother intensified, framed Liu Xiaoya for having mental problems, trapped her in the hospital, and forced Liu Xiaoya to collapse step by step.
How badly did Liu Xiaoya die? Not only did she sacrifice her life for an evil mother-in-law and an unworthy scumbag, but she also miserably killed her parents.
After Liu Xiaoya died, the evil mother-in-law not only did not reflect on or feel guilty, but also wanted to swallow all the property of her daughter-in-law, obviously the house was provided by Liu Xiaoya's salary, but she refused to share a penny to Liu Xiaoya's parents. Liu Xiaoya's parents have been laid off, and there is no daughter, how to survive?
Xiao Ya's parents belong to the laid-off workers who are honest and honest at the bottom of the city, usually eat low insurance, Xiao Ya can still help in the open and in the dark when she is alive; now that her daughter is gone, the main financial road is broken, the house cannot be supplied, and can only wait for the bank to take it back. Now all that's left is crying.
Liu Xiaoya rushed to get married, not only ruined his life, but also pit his parents, if it were not for He Lin and another girlfriend to help each other, they would not have been able to get a little money, even if they got the money, the only daughter was gone, what was the use?
Parents with hard work to raise you to grow up, not to let you die because of a man to live, Liu Xiaoya is ashamed of the parenting grace of her parents, is not filial piety.
03. Marriage is not a matter for two people, we must look at each other's original family.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong said in "Why Home Hurts": Love is constantly transmitted in this cycle, from our original family to our newborn family; the mode of getting along with our lovers is also repeating our mode of getting along with our parents.
Blood relations are the relationships that are most difficult to carry out, and they are also the relationships that are most likely to influence our thoughts. Whether it is a man or a woman, when the spouse has a conflict with his parents, he may be biased towards his parents, only because filial piety and nurturing grace make it impossible for us to be wrong.
Marriage is not a matter of two people, we must look at each other's original family. If the other person's parents do not accept you and try their best to embarrass you, you better not humiliate yourself, don't expect a man to support you for a lifetime, that is his parents, he is not so easy to distinguish.
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