Gu Qingyu (Tong Yao) and Shi Yuan (Feng Shaofeng) finally divorced, suppressing their arrogance and accepting the relationship with Zhan Xiang (Zhang Songwen).
Feng Xiaoqin (Haiqing) rejects Xiaoding, who lives in a large villa, and once used marriage as a meal ticket, she no longer hopes for others, wants to prove herself by engaging in careers, and also faces up to her admiration for Zhan Xiang.
Feng Xixi (Sun Anke) is not afraid of the exposure of her relationship with Gu Xin (Lu Siyu), firmly believing that the other party is the only straw for her to bid farewell to the small staff, and is sure that she can take the position. However, unexpectedly, the two of them working together to make ghosts are about to be revealed, and they are destined to be just a dream.
When all kinds of quarrels and contradictions are piled up and gradually lightened, "Heart Residence" is also about to reach the finale.
In the fog of various contradictions, a book on the marriage circle of urban people is also worth savoring.
Marriage and circle are equal to everyone
The three couples in "Heart Residence" can be worth savoring, and Feng Xiaoqin, in order to become a Shanghainese, concealed her fertility and married Gu Lei, who has no quarrel with the world.
The positive and enterprising personality cannot stand the husband who does nothing, and the quarrel inadvertently leads to Gu Lei hurriedly going offline.
Gu Qingyu is already standing at the top of the food chain in the workplace, but he is only obsessed with his first love Shi Yuan.
Middle-aged and re-encountered, the once intelligent teenager became accomplished nothing, mixed in the bottom under the superposition of the pressure of supporting the family and the frustration of studying, but unexpectedly married to a white rich and beautiful return, but behind the aura is the prejudice of strong women and weak men.
Gu Xin married Ge Yue, who was born into a famous family according to his parents' wishes, but his mother-in-law's snubbed words could always be like a needle in his heart. After his father-in-law fell lonely, he quickly changed his face, first turning back to pursue his former girlfriend and running into a wall, and then turning around and falling in love with Feng Xiaoqin's sister Feng Xixi.
From the perspective of the three marriages, the gap is obvious, Gu Lei is Feng Xiaoqin's meal ticket, Shi Yuan is eager to be equal with Gu Qingyu, Gu Xin is taking advantage of the Ge family and is afraid of being looked down upon, and the three psychologies are entangled in the marriage with a huge gap in the circle.
Being confused in marriage is not the exclusive domain of ignorant and ignorant people, in addition to Feng Xiaoqin and Feng Xiqian, who do not have high academic qualifications, Gu Xin has a high degree, Gu Qingyu is not only a strong woman who graduated from a famous school but also a strong woman in the workplace, Shi Yuan, even though he did not go to college, he also has good language skills and erudite.
They, without exception, are confused by the huge gap in marriage, like a caged trapped beast that ends up dripping with blood.
Feng Xiaoqin diligently takes care of the whole family, but she cannot get the approval of the Gu family, named daughter-in-law, but eventually a nanny, which is the pain she will breathe.
Gu Qingyu unreservedly cherished Shi Yuan, but was always misunderstood by her husband as charity. When he got married, he said that he wanted to give Gu Qingyu happiness, but there was a huge gap in income, status, and ability, which made him feel powerless and even behave absurdly.
Even though Ge Yue was gentle and sensible, Gu Xin was not at ease with marriage. Whether it is pursuing his ex-girlfriend again or falling in love with Feng Xixi, he is always looking for his sense of dominance and presence.
The circle gap has become the source of various contradictions in the three marriages, and Teng Huatao's lens says that the parents are short, but they are discussing the circle theory in the marriage.
Circles are not just matter
Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy" loves to pinch the tip and is defined as a fishing girl.
Being mistreated by her parents since she was a child and having to continue to pay for her brother made Fan Shengmei eager to improve her life through marriage, raise her circle, and never return to her former life.
The original Feng Xiaoqin and Feng Xiqian in "Heart Residence" are the same, and Gu Lei, who does not look good, is actively pursued by Feng Xiaoqin, because he can let her take root in Shanghai, there is no high education and no skills, marriage or love is the best opportunity.
At this point, Feng Xixi also learned her sister's thinking, so she grasped the straw of Gu Xin and used her feelings as a staircase.
The former Feng Xiaoqin and later Feng Xiqian represent only a kind of marriage concept, Gu Qingyu, Shi Yuan, Gu Xin and Ge Yue did not have such troubles, and still could not escape the dilemma of marriage and circle.
In the concept of marriage in "Heart Dwelling", the circle layer is not necessarily only a standard of material, but also many fine details.
1. Sense of identity
Feng Xiaoqin became Gu Lei's daughter-in-law, but she was never recognized by the Gu family as a real family, Gu Qingyu and his father and brother hid in the room for a small meeting, Feng Xiaoqin was not allowed to enter, which was Ming Huang's lack of recognition.
Gu Qingyu admired Shi Yuan, but he felt empathy for what happened to Feng Xiaoqin. He warned Feng Xiaoqin that only by making herself strong can she no longer be just the daughter-in-law of the Gu family and be recognized.
Shi Yuan's words reflected an unbalanced heart, and was considered by his sick mother to be the proud son of heaven, although he suffered a lot for life and thought that he was a loser, but his heart was still proud.
Before marriage, he vowed to give Gu Qingyu happiness, but after marriage, he found himself becoming a handout.
This also led to the loss of shi yuan's identity, so he preferred to accept the boss's bad idea and steal his wife's plan in exchange for his mother's treatment fees. Although he finally chose to give up when he opened Gu Qingyu's computer, the voice and other information he had promised were considered to be real hammers, which eventually led to Gu Qingyu falling directly from a high position in the workplace, and the strong woman was forced to leave the workplace.
What Shi Yuan did not expect was that Gu Qingyu took out the surveillance footage in his home and sat down to confirm that he had planned to misbehave, which also made him even dispel the idea of justification, and the mixture of not being recognized and shame soared to the peak, and finally chose divorce in the misunderstanding, which was more like mutual relief.
2. A sense of trust
The mistrust between Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan is a closed loop. If Shi Yuan opens his mouth to defend, is there a change in this marriage?
I'm afraid that there will be a longer torture.
In order to become Gu Qingyu's husband, Shi Yuan hid the fireworks he had mixed in the alleys, and he tried to play a character who matched his wife.
Gu Qingyu always said that she believed in Shi Yuan, but what she believed in was the love in her memory, and she loved the boy who liked to watch musicals.
The continued misalignment of performance and understanding has already completely shattered the trust of marriage.
Like Shi Yuan, Gu Xin also experienced, looking at Ge Yue's eyebrows without frowning, he sent a expensive silk scarf to his mother.
This attracted the displeasure of Gu Xin's mother, and in Ge Yue's mother's eyes, this was a reminder that Gu Xin should know that being the son-in-law of the Ge family was his high climb, and he must always know how to learn to be good.
In Ge Father's brilliant moments, Gu Xin was indeed very well-behaved, but everything was just a tough performance.
Enjoying the convenience brought by the Ge family is the reward brought by Gu Xin's obedience, when Ge Father encounters a low, is his face turned unexpected?
When Feng Xixi said that she could do whatever she could for him, she inexplicably ignited the swelling feeling in the heart of this weak man, and he longed for the respect of being looked up to and trusted.
In the same way, Gu Qingyu never trusted Feng Xiaoqin, not only because she was a foreign sister, but also because she concealed that she had given birth.
What leverage do you have to ask for trust by continuing to pile up lies in your marriage?
3. Secular prejudices
Because of the objective existence of the circle, whether it is Feng Xiaoqin, Shi Yuan, Gu Xin or even Gu Qingyu, they cannot escape the worldly prejudice.
As Gu Qingyu's husband, Shi Yuan's income mismatch will arouse the doubts of the three sisters and six wives, and finding a job in an investment bank is also considered to be through his wife's nepotism.
He tried to prove himself, but was still identified as an appendage of Gu Qingyu.
Gu Xin's head of the names of the sons-in-law enjoy convenience at work, and behind the scenery is the criticism brought about by tired marriage, whether it is the ridicule of the mother-in-law or the subtle sarcasm of colleagues, which has become a thorn in Gu Xin's heart.
As for why Gu Xin would be unable to extricate himself from Feng Xixi, it was because this woman let him escape the prejudices of the world. What is visible to the naked eye is that he dominates the relationship, he is the straw in Feng Xixi's eyes, and he has become a strong man.
Twisted mentalities and broken lives are intertwined, but they are all accumulating problems that eventually erupt.
The heart can only cross the circle
It is not uncommon to change the circle through marriage, how can we avoid it?
Qu Xiaoxiu once warned Fan Shengmei that she was already strong enough that as long as she looked up to herself and refused to be overly bound by her original family, she could live a strong life.
The same is true of Feng Xiaoqin in "Heart Residence", who once firmly believed that only through Gu Lei could he take root in Shanghai, but after the widow, he began to reflect, no longer living like a resentful woman, but facing up to his own inadequacies and desired life.
Just as she said, she used to force her husband or younger siblings to do many things, and opening a nursing home with Zhan Xiang was the first time she worked hard for herself.
Therefore, for the sake of the exhibition she likes in her heart, she is willing to give up xiaoding, who has a good family lineage, and no longer binds material and feelings.
Feng Xiaoqin's love for Zhan Xiang is not only his wealth, but also because they are all Shanghai drifters, they have experienced all kinds of cold eyes, she feels equality, which is the resonance of the soul.
Gu Qingyu's love for Shi Yuan in the first half is similar to the obsession of idol drama, which is greater than love itself.
The two respect each other but have their own hearts, and have never really fallen in love with the real other.
Unable to be themselves, and never being themselves, their embraces always have diaphragm.
Therefore, Shi Yuan chose to let go of his heart at Grandma Gu's funeral, and Gu Qingyu faced her squarely and did not love Zhan Xiang, but he was sure that Shi Yuan was still the boy in his heart.
They are not reconciled, but they have all reconciled with themselves, left good memories, and lost the bad, which is already the greatest decency for adults.
Are Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan lamentable?
It can only be said that they are never ready to face the marriage with a gap, do not understand that they must be prepared to face gossip, and do not understand that only by being honest with each other can they form a reasonable difficulty in facing life.
Unfortunately, Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan obviously did not recognize this level, and Gu Xin did not understand it.
While relying on his wife to ascend to the throne, he has to prove that he does not rely on relationships, and in the end he cannot turn back in distortion and indulgence.
This is actually teng Huatao's hidden three directions and discussions, the circle layer is not the most terrible shackles of marriage, but whether at the beginning of whether to choose their own perspective to face, whether to be prepared to deal with.
Only then can we cross the fog and find a place for the heart.