What does the best relationship look like? The answer is not unique.
Different families have different definitions of happiness, and the relationship between husband and wife is also determined according to individual needs.
However, when the relationship between husband and wife becomes better and better, you can feel it.
From each other's words and deeds, from the tacit understanding of getting along, you can feel each other's love and dedication, and feel the beautiful existence.
When these situations occur more and more frequently between a couple, it shows that the feelings are on the rise, and the life has become a happy appearance.
01 Both sides began to reduce internal friction
It is not easy for two people to enter a marriage, and there is inevitably a lot of friction in life together. Some couples live in trivial quarrels all day long because of various trivialities and contradictions.
Although in the quarrel to further understand each other's needs, thus promoting the further development of feelings between husband and wife. But there are many quarrels, which will inevitably cause some wear and tear to the feelings.
Between husband and wife, the most feared thing is that the feelings are exhausted, and there is no hope for each other, so it is difficult to go on the basis of the best.
So when a couple no longer always stares at each other's shortcomings, holding a magnifying glass to nitpick, but constantly correcting themselves and adapting to each other with a better posture, they will let the feelings of both parties develop in a better direction.
Human feelings are the most unbearable. Some people say that a good relationship between husband and wife is like saving.
When the artist Zhang Jin talked about handling feelings with Cai Shaofen, he said that the relationship between husband and wife is like saving money in the bank, and doing things that enhance their feelings such as making each other happy and romantic is equivalent to saving money. Unhappy things such as husband and wife quarreling and getting angry are spending money.
And those couples who seem to be loving are because there is more and more love in the bank, more and more abundant.
If the husband and wife are always complaining about trivial things, and the two parties are caught up in endless accusations, insults and cold wars, the relationship will not be much better.
Entering marriage is to make each other better. And internal friction will not only hurt the love of the two people, but also push each other farther and farther away, into negative energy people.
02 Working together to make families better off
Marriage is a marriage of two people, and responsibility is the responsibility of two people.
In the hearts of some women, they are often filled with some old ideas, thinking that it is natural for men to raise women.
Once in feudal society, women had no status, marrying chickens with chickens, marrying dogs with dogs. But now that equality between men and women has long been achieved, living in a modern society, everyone is carrying heavy pressures.
If the responsibility of the family is all pushed onto the man's body, on the one hand, it will cause an increase in pressure, on the other hand, it will make women unable to keep up with the pace of men's progress, which is not conducive to the harmony of the family and the love of the husband and wife.
In "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun married Chen Junsheng, and he emotionally said to his beautiful wife, "I raise you", and she took this sentence as a promise, and enjoyed everything he brought her with peace of mind.
However, no matter how strong a man is, he also has a vulnerability in his heart.
Chen Junsheng is middle-aged, carrying huge pressure, and how many young people in his position stare at it, once they are not motivated, they may be eliminated.
Oppressed by heavy work every day, he returned home to be interrogated by Luo Zijun from all sides - afraid that he would have other women outside. No one can say anything about the problems encountered at work, and the pressure of life and the midlife crisis forced him to breathe.
Although, the woman who can afford to raise herself is the pride of men, but two people into marriage, the best model is that you are good, I am not bad, two people have common goals and plans, work together to create a good life.
If you only hold the attitude of letting men support themselves and treat marriage as looking for a long-term meal ticket, you will eventually subtract from your feelings.
03 Don't put all your energy into your child
Many people regard children as emotional bonds, believing that marriage has reached a certain stage, and the meaning of both husband and wife lies in the children.
But in fact, this is a wrong idea. In this life, the one who accompanies you for the longest time in your life will always be your partner.
Put your mind on the child, but the child will grow up one day, has his own life and thoughts, and at that time, he may not want you to point fingers in his life.
And when your child is independent, how do you arrange your life?
Smart couples will always understand that children are only a part of married life and that your partner is the most important person in your life.
Don't ignore the emotional needs between husband and wife because of taking care of the children, once one party does not get the induction, it will actually have a great impact on the relationship between the two.
Entering marriage, we all hope to grow old with the person we love.
However, marriage is not so easy to manage, after all, two different people, have their own personalities and temperaments, and the growth environment is also different. You want to live as you please, but you don't have ready-made experiences and patterns to move.
Only in getting along, learn to constantly understand and tolerate, think more about each other when things happen, and think more from each other's point of view. In this way, husband and wife can work together and move in the direction of happiness.
Writer Zhang Xianliang said that couples who can grow old with white heads are probably couples who can grasp moderate feelings.
Understand the focus of the relationship between husband and wife, know the focus of marriage, the relationship between husband and wife may be better and better.
May everyone be happy as they wish.