Ye Jia saw her husband's marriage advice, and the name on it was not herself. One night of insomnia, to yourself, forget it! Some people break into your life just to teach themselves a lesson.
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Ye Jia was my colleague a few years ago, beautiful and exquisite, people are also warm, and now we are in regular contact.
She is 70 years old and 51 years old. Single for more than ten years. Speaking of that year, she now thinks it's a joke.
Ye Jia and her husband can meet, it was introduced by a colleague of her father. It was also love at first sight.
The parents of both sides were also satisfied, and at the urging of their families, they fell in love and talked about it for less than a year and then got married.
After marriage, the two people also respected each other as guests, and there was no quarrel and tripping.
When her daughter Yaoyao was 8 years old, her husband Lin Hang suddenly said to her: "Yaoyao is getting older, our house is too small, the child must have a private space!" I heard that this piece had to be demolished, it was sooner or later. ＂
So good, Ye Jia felt very happy. Lin Hang continued: "I studied the policy, if we do an LH procedure, we are eligible for an extra set. ＂
Ye Jia was reluctant at first, unable to hold lin hang for three days.
In addition, Ye Jia found that her colleagues Li Jie and Fang did this.
In the end, she agreed to go through the formalities with Lin Hang. It is not safe until the certificate is held in the palm of the hand. Lin Hang comforted Ye Jia. Don't worry, we can't get married again after the fact. It's just a piece of paper.
With this piece of paper, Lin Hang moved to the unit dormitory. Ye Jia lived with her daughter Yaoyao.
On weekends, a family of three will have a meal and take the children to the downstream paradise.
Ye Jia didn't feel anything either.
But what made him feel bottomless was that after the house was obtained, two years later, Lin Hang did not mention the matter of marriage.
By chance, Ye Jia went to visit a friend she and Lin Hang shared. Ye Jia inadvertently saw a piece of advice on the table, on which Lin Hang was written in a dignified manner. The other was called Qu Li, not her.
Ye Jia couldn't believe it, and repeatedly confirmed with her friends that it was Lin Hang. She also didn't know the second Lin Hang.
Somehow leaving a friend's house, Ye Jia went home and thought about it for one night. Forget it, the days will pass.
I don't know which philosopher said that some people break into your life just to teach you a lesson.
Ye Jia quit her nine-to-five job and started her own clothing business to take care of her daughter. With the help of her parents, her daughter has also grown up healthily and is now married and has children.
I often see the travel photos shared by Ye Jia, and the style is not reduced. At the age of 51, he also lived a life of pampering his grandchildren.
It seems that I have not met the right person, and being single has the joy of being single.
The same is single, and the heroine who appears below is another situation.
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My current colleague Sister Li, 68 years old. Two years ago, she and her husband peacefully broke up. She said that it took her two years to find herself, and she felt that decades of married life were too tired to be like a top.
For so many years, she ran the housework alone and carried the baby alone. Every day, her husband comes back and sits directly on the couch watching TV and brushing his mobile phone.
The housework did not reach out, and did not even dump the garbage once.
Also when I came back from work, I had to wait until Sister Li cooked for dinner.
On weekends, I buy vegetables, cook rice, do housework like assembly line workers. She said every time that she was more tired on her days off than at work.
Li Jie is an accountant and will work overtime for a few days at the end of the month. At this time, she would always get a call from her husband asking what to eat at night, and why she hadn't come back.
Once the company took stock very late. Sister Li returned home and found that her husband had only ordered a takeaway, and he had eaten it himself, and the table was a mess. Waiting for Sister Li to pack up.
Sister Li was packing up while she was in tears. Tearfully cooked himself a bowl of noodles. From that moment on, she was determined that when her son was admitted to college, she would be ready to leave the house alone.
Now Sister Li drinks tea and flowers after work. Enrolled in the University of the Elderly.
Colleagues said that Sister Li has been much younger in the past two years.
Compared with the above two protagonists, the protagonists I said below are different.
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Yao Yao is a neighbor in my community, 69 years old. Every day, I dress up and go to the community mahjong hall to play mahjong. She was originally very pretty, with long hair and shawls, and was very good at dressing. I always thought she was only in her 30s.
She said that her husband was very kind to her and would spoil her no matter what she did. Including her playing night mahjong once until 12 p.m.
Yao Yao's old public tour bus will make a good meal in the off-season and wait for Yao Yao to come back to eat.
Neighbors also think what a happy person she is.
But people change. Five years ago, Yao Yao's husband suddenly proposed to break up with her. What a proud person Yao Yao was. Agree now.
A few days later, I heard that her husband was married to a tour guide.
Yao Yao sometimes regretted that he did not cherish it at that time.
Yao Yao now works at a toll booth in a hospital. When I met her the other day, she was still radiant.
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The subject asks: Why are there so many old ladies in their 50s who are single now?
I want to correct that 50 years old is not an old lady! [Teeth]
Being single isn't a 50-year-old curse either.
There are many reasons to be single at 50, and the three examples I mentioned earlier are very representative. Based on this I summarize as follows.
1, meet people are not ladylike, it is inevitable that the marriage will not meet the right person at the right time, finally
Walking and walking, I was single
。
2, want to find themselves, suffering and pressure grind away the beautiful yearning for marriage,
Single out of disappointment
3, did not care to operate, ignoring the essence of marriage is mutual payment rather than unilateral demand. cause
Mistakes and singleness
4, this is also the focus, women's lives
Self-care is stronger than men
。 So the proportion of women who are single is larger.
5. Scientific data show that
Women also live longer than men
, so that the proportion of women who will be single is larger.
6, with the development of the times, women are becoming more and more economically independent, and do not need to rely on marriage to survive. also
There is no need to bend the question to maintain the existence of marriage
, so will choose to be single.
7, people are more and more open-minded, single
Will not be criticized by public opinion
finish. Women who pursue freedom are also single.
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Write at the end
Why do women choose to be single?
Traditional values are not fair to women
There are many women, after marriage, will fall around the pot table, around the husband and children.
In the traditional view of some men, housework should be done by women.
Especially full-time mothers, will be more demanding, feel that with children, no income should be more contracted for housework.
Returning to the workplace is even more unfair to women. Companies will deliberately avoid recruiting female employees who will marry and have children immediately.
Even more reluctant to appoint a mother who has just given birth.
Are there any sisters who were asked during the interview how old the child was? Rejected because the child was too young.
Thankfully, the state has repeatedly introduced policies in favor of female compatriots.
No one chooses to be single for no reason.
May all female friends in the world be treated with tenderness.