Gu Qingyu was very unhappy because Shi Yuan went to his rival company, and at the family gathering, he was angry with his big aunt. Shi Yuan saw that she was not happy and asked her on the way home if she was in a bad mood lately.
Gu Qingyu said with an unhappy face, No. Shi Yuan asked if it was because he went to work in Ai Meng that made her unhappy.
Gu Qingyu denied it, but Shi Yuan knew that it was because of this incident. Gu Qingyu said:
"It is impossible for a couple to live a life that suits everything, so I have to learn to coexist with problems!"
Shi Yuan immediately asked, "You mean there is something wrong with us?" ”
The two people almost quarreled, and because of this quarrel, both of them began to think about this marriage.
Gu Qingyu is right, husband and wife live a life, it is impossible to be satisfied with everything, she and Shi Yuan do have many problems.
What she needs most at the moment is not to learn to live with problems, but to see her own problems.
01. Love too carefully
When Gu Qingyu met Shi Yuan, she felt that it was a gift from heaven, and she was like holding a crystal ball, afraid that if she was not careful, she would fall to the ground and shatter.
Although Shi Yuan was already married three times, the first two times were fake marriages with people, she still decided to marry him.
She seems to be strong, but she loves humblely, and she takes care of Shi Yuan's emotions and dignity all the time.
Her pain is that she knows everything, but pretends not to know anything, and every day is like acting, just to maintain this marriage.
In order to pay off the family loan, Shi Yuan waited for Gu Qingyu to fall asleep, then got up to help others do translation, tired and took a nap on the table for a while, and continued to stay up late to translate. When it was almost dawn, he quietly went to bed and slept next to Gu Qingyu.
Gu Qingyue knew it, but in order to take care of his face, he did not pierce him, but was worried that his body would not be able to eat.
Shi Yuan's mother is not in good health and must change her kidney to save her life, but the cost is very high, and the cost of the later period is also very high. Shi Yuan, who was originally a bunch of foreign debts, could only sell his antique piano on the Internet.
Gu Qingyu felt that it was a pity to sell the piano, so she advised Shi Yuan not to sell it, and she paid for her mother-in-law's treatment.
Shi Yuan refused, he did not want to use his wife's money, did not want to be poked in the spine by others to say that he ate soft rice. In order to take care of Shi Yuan's self-esteem, Gu Qingyu pretended to be a buyer and bought Shi Yuan's piano and temporarily placed it at his friend Zhan Xiang's house.
Gu Qingyu, doing so, is also for Shi Yuan's self-esteem.
Later, she asked a friend to help her mother-in-law find a kidney source, and after finding it, she found a doctor to act together, saying that all the expenses were sponsored by a foundation for free, which was actually her money.
Husband and wife are too careful to get along, she wants to help her husband, but also to consider his face. He was tired and did not say anything, and he was also accused by Shi Yuan, who knew the truth.
Saying that Gu Qingyu was high up in the air, with a small wave of his hand, all the problems were solved, making him feel that he was not good at anything, and that none of them were worthy of her.
In fact, there is nothing wrong with two people, one loves too carefully, the other is too inferior. Two people who were not on the same channel, yin and yang mistakenly became husband and wife, and everyone was very tired.
Gu Qingyu, a fierce female executive of the investment bank, is cautious in love, considering each other in everything, and she is very tired and self-defeating.
A good marriage never requires you to be too careful and lower yourself, but to be able to speak up and be happy to be yourself.
02. Don't say if there is a problem
Gu Qingyu is very smart, of course she knows why Cindy wants to recruit Shi Yuan into Aimeng, and she does not want Shi Yuan to work for her rival company. Because, it will be bad for yourself.
However, she was particularly happy to see Shi Yuan and said that she respected his choice.
Obviously he didn't want to let him go, so why pretend?
I think there is an element of grievances and perfection in it, she feels that Shi Yuan is happy, she will also be happy, and their marriage will be happier.
But, will this really be the case?
Sure not, she said yes, but the words unhappy were written on her face. Obviously, there was a problem, but she didn't say it, and when Shi Yuan asked her, she also denied it.
Ming Ming was unhappy and said that he did not. Obviously there is a problem, but it says there is no problem.
Is there a problem, not acknowledging it, even if there is no problem? Of course not.
If she could open her heart and tell Shi Yuan about her thoughts and analyze the pros and cons of this matter, maybe Shi Yuan would not go.
Even if she still chooses to go, her heart may not be so depressed.
Why does their husband and wife feel a lot like a couple, not a couple. Because, they both have problems, not to say, each guessing each other's heart, doing things that they think are good for each other, and the other party is not appreciative.
Especially Gu Qingyu, obviously there was a big problem between the husband and wife, but he also said that he should learn to coexist with the problem.
Not communicating is a big problem, not saying what you really think in your heart, but blindly avoiding the problem. This is not to coexist with problems, but to turn small problems into big problems, and finally into problems that cannot be solved.
Some people say: The best interpretation of the way husband and wife get along is to say the true thoughts, not to argue about right and wrong, not to say right or wrong.
Therefore, when encountering problems, it is really important to say what you really think in your heart and let the other party know you!
03. Get too close to your admirer after marriage
Such an excellent beauty as Gu Qingyu is always surrounded by many suitors, and Zhan Xiang is an upstart who has chased her for more than ten years.
After marrying Shi Yuan, Zhan Xiang blessed her while still waiting for her behind her. Just like Shi Yuan is Gu Qingyu's obsession, Gu Qingyu is also Zhan Xiang's obsession.
When Gu Qingyu asked him for help, Zhan Xiang immediately agreed. Gu Qingyu bought Shi Yuan's piano and temporarily put it in Zhan Xiang's home, which also buried hidden dangers for the future.
His wife secretly bought the piano he hung on the Internet, and put it in the home of the love enemy, and this love enemy is still an upstart. This incident made Shi Yuan suffer a triple blow.
Gu Qingyu did not think much about this matter, knowing that Zhan Xiang's relationship with himself was very sensitive, and he put it in his home. What man wouldn't be jealous?
Especially when this man is better than himself, he will be hit even more.
Shi Yuan taught English to children in the training class, and was reported for falsifying his academic qualifications and losing his job. Gu Qingyu didn't want him to be so tired, and he didn't earn much anyway.
Shi Yuan suddenly felt that he was despised, and he was furious, saying that he was not worthy of Gu Qingyu. The house and the car were all hers, and he himself was blindly confident, and he couldn't give her happiness at all. Even the money for her mother's kidney replacement was paid by her.
Gu Qingyu also expressed his grievances, first saying that Shi Yuan's mother was too aggressive when she met her family, and then saying that she was also kind in order to treat Shi Yuan's mother.
Both felt that they had been wronged, so they quarreled.
After the quarrel, Gu Qingyu went to find the spare tire Zhan Xiang, and it was eating hot pot and climbing the mountain, telling Zhan Xiang his heart.
It is very normal for husband and wife to quarrel, but after a fight, it is not good to go out to find the opposite sex, especially the opposite sex who is interested in themselves, chat and talk, eat and drink.
Gu Qingyu not only did this, but also felt that there was no problem in this way. She obviously knew that Zhan Xiang liked her, but she was still so unavoidable, and she really didn't do well, which was a harm to two men.
She not only gave Zhan Xiang hope, but also made Shi Yuan very painful.
Gu Qingyu can talk to Zhan Xiang without talking, but she has nothing to say to Shi Yuan, and this is her problem. Having a sense of distance from your husband and getting too close to other members of the opposite sex is also a problem.
04.
Gu Qingyu loves Shi Yuan, which belongs to that kind of simple love, not mixed with any other interest relationship. Just because, he is Shi Yuan.
It was very simple and beautiful. However, there are many problems. Gu Qingyu loves too carefully, there is a problem rather than ask for perfection rather than say it, the most fatal thing is that the two people quarreled, and also looked for a spare tire Zhan Xiang dating to complain.
Love can suffer from gain and loss, but marriage cannot, marriage must be down-to-earth, let people relax. If you have to think twice about everything you say and do, you're too careful. Marriages that are too careful, tiresome, are destined to go far.
There are no couples in this world who do not quarrel, and there is no marriage that is satisfactory to everything. Therefore, if there is a problem, you will find that many of the problems that bother you are actually not real problems.
Husband and wife quarrels are not terrible, what is terrible is that you talk harshly to each other, but with other members of the opposite sex, giggling. The most hurtful thing about the feelings of husband and wife is not the quarrel, but after the quarrel, instead of thinking about how to reconcile, but going to find other people of the opposite sex to complain.
Therefore, the first thing in marriage is not to learn to coexist with problems, but to see the problems in yourself first, and then, to judge, whether you can coexist!
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