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If a man is both a phoenix man and a mama man, such a man is not worthy of marriage.
Men should ask themselves a question before they get married,
"If my mother and wife had an argument one day, who would I turn to?"
If the man's answer is, "Whatever it is, I have to turn to my mom." "Such a man, see clearly,
You don't deserve to get married, you don't deserve a wife, and you don't deserve children.
If the man's answer is, "The relationship between husband and wife is the first thing in the family relationship." I had to think about my wife's feelings first, and my mother second. It hurts my wife's heart, and it is difficult to repair the feelings. If the mother is not happy, there will be a chance to turn around in the future. ”
Such a man is not married to a daughter-in-law and forgets his mother, he just knows better what a husband's responsibilities and responsibilities are.
Since he marries a wife and starts a family, the wife is the one who accompanies him for a lifetime, and the status and weight are naturally heavier than the mother. Under this big premise, men need to consider how to balance the relationship between two women.
I've seen a passage like this,
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Mother-in-law should treat your daughter-in-law as if she were her own, and do not think that your son is a son, and other people's daughters are also born when they are pregnant
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Your son said that he worked hard to pull up, and the daughter of others also pulled hard, so you have to love two people like the same.
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In fact, it is difficult for the mother-in-law to do this, and the best mother-in-law is nothing more than a superficial effort. If the daughter-in-law does not have such high requirements for her mother-in-law, she will be satisfied.
Some mothers-in-law never bother to do any superficial work, her opinions about her daughter-in-law are written on her face, and seeing her son and daughter-in-law's kindness and love will also make her extremely dissatisfied.
The mother-in-law's calculation of the daughter-in-law is sometimes to steal the chicken and not to eat the rice.
Fan Zheng Shuang met such a mother-in-law.
Married to the Phoenix Man without hesitation.
When Zheng Shuang chose to be with her husband, her friends around her were stunned. They don't understand, why did Zheng Shuang choose a phoenix man?
She can obviously have a better choice, rich, powerful, good looking, and background, Zheng Shuang chose a man who seems to be the most useless.
He is a veritable phoenix man, his family is poor, with his own efforts to enter the university, and then admitted to the civil service, his life can be seen almost now.
Zheng Shuang's explanation to everyone is,
"If marriage is a gamble, I'm willing to bet on him. My family is well-off, my job is good, my looks are good, my income is high, even if my marriage fails, it is only to enrich my life experience. ”
Zheng Shuang, who seems to be very free, she really thinks like that. No one knows which tomorrow or accident will come first, so why not make a choice in marriage that you want to make the most? Whether you succeed or fail, you have no regrets.
Women should really think about some issues before getting married, and at the same time, women should also be prepared for the worst.
Men who seem to be single-minded about themselves may cheat one day; men who have always defended themselves before may only turn to their mothers in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
These possibilities, women are better to take into account. Only in this way, when things really happen, women will not be too lost and too desperate.
Zheng Shuang and her husband's wedding was a bit shabby, and she didn't mind. She doesn't need those things that are empty-headed, as long as she is happy, how others look at her and how they evaluate her, Zheng Shuang doesn't matter.
The mother-in-law said to Zheng Shuang at the wedding,
"Daughter-in-law, you must take good care of my son in the future." My son is so good, it is your blessing that you can marry him. ”
Zheng Shuang said, "Mom, husband and wife should take care of each other." Your son is excellent, I am not bad, my salary is higher than his. I didn't ask you for a bride price, and you didn't give me the change fee, so you don't have to ask me a lot. Since you are not financially capable, you are naturally not qualified to point fingers at me. ”
Zheng Shuang's words made her mother-in-law a little unable to get off the stage, but Zheng Shuang thought,
It is the mother-in-law who offends herself first, so she will retaliate with tit-for-tat.
Zheng Shuang, as if nothing had happened, still greeted people with a smile and greeted every guest who came to the wedding. The mother-in-law was naturally extremely dissatisfied with Zheng Shuang, and she thought to herself,
"Daughter-in-law, the days of the contest in the future are behind us, and we will compete for the next time."
Since Zheng Shuang can say and do that, she is mentally prepared, but her principle is "no one offends me, I do not offend." If the mother-in-law has nothing to do, she will naturally not go against the grain.
The daughter-in-law "draws salary from the bottom of the pot", and the husband and wife part ways.
Not long after the two got married, the mother-in-law came uninvited and lived in the marriage room of the little two. The marriage room is Zheng Shuang's premarital property, in the eyes of her mother-in-law
The daughter-in-law married her son, and everything the daughter-in-law was the son's, and everything about the son was his own.
The mother-in-law moved over to live with her, just like going back to her own home, as natural and comfortable.
Zheng Shuang and his mother-in-law live under the same roof, and the contradictions between the two are naturally indispensable. The mother-in-law always wants Zheng Shuang to bow down to the subject, and Zheng Shuang has always been untamed in front of her mother-in-law. The two men were fiercely sword-fighting, and the water and fire were intolerable.
Zheng Shuang's husband, when he was in love, he was obedient to Zheng Shuangbai.
On the days when the mother-in-law did not come, he was also good to Zheng Shuang; after the mother-in-law moved in, he was like a changed person, and what the mother-in-law said was what it was.
The husband also said to Zheng Shuang, "She is my mother, and I must be filial to her." You are her daughter-in-law, and filial piety to her is also deserved. ”
Zheng Shuangcai does not accept such an idea, she has her own principles and bottom line, no one can cross.
After Zheng Shuang became pregnant, her husband and Zheng Shuang discussed, "My mother said, after you give birth to a child, you will resign and take the baby, her health is not good, a person can not take the child." Zheng Shuang said,
"I can resign and take the baby, but your pay card must be handed over to me for safekeeping, and I don't need your consent when I want to spend money, and I don't need to look at your mother's face."
My husband said, "My mom said that she was in charge of my pay card and could help us save some money." My mom is a person who can get by, unlike you, who always spends a lot of money. Zheng Shuang disagreed.
Two days later, the mother-in-law talked to Zheng Shuang
"I believe that I mean my son has made it very clear to you. If you can't accept it, please get out of my house. ”
Zheng Shuang said, "Okay, I'll divorce your son in a week." ”
The husband thought that Zheng Shuang was just talking, and in the next few days, she disappeared. When Zheng Shuang appeared in front of her husband and mother-in-law again, she gave them a surgical document.
"Husband, men like you don't deserve children. Mother-in-law, a grandmother like you, is not worthy of me to give you a grandchild. The child is gone, and this time I can get a divorce with peace of mind. ”
Zheng Shuang then added, "Let's go through the divorce formalities quickly."
This house is mine, and after the formalities, you two quickly moved out. When I'm done, I'll have to go on a blind date and remarry. ”
The husband, the phoenix man, realized at this time that his dream was broken, and he lost his wife without a baby.
Zheng Shuang thought about marriage very clearly before marriage, even if the marriage failed, it did not mean that her life failed.
Even if marriage is a gamble, she can accept that she has failed.
On the wedding day, the words spoken by the mother-in-law have shown that she is a strong mother-in-law. Even if her family is not well-off, she still feels that her daughter-in-law has climbed her son.
Zheng Shuang intimidated her mother-in-law on the spot, not because she did not know how to respect the elderly, but because some elderly people did not deserve to be respected.
After Zheng Shuang became pregnant, her husband's ideas were even more bizarre, and he would indeed calculate. He asked Zheng Shuang to resign with the baby, and then handed over the salary card to his mother-in-law, which does not mean that in the future, Zheng Shuang wants to spend every penny to ask his mother-in-law? In the face of money, sometimes it is people under the eaves who have to bow their heads.
Zheng Shuangcai would not live that kind of life, she would rather be crushed for jade than for Waquan.
The child is gone, her last relationship with her husband and mother-in-law is gone, and Zheng Shuang can divorce without worries.
She is a person who has faith in herself and the future, and a failure will not affect her trust in marriage and her determination of love.
Today's topic
If you are Zheng Shuang, do you have the courage to marry a phoenix man?
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