Whenever we talk about marriage, we can always hear the word from some elders, and most young people now scoff at this statement. But in fact, the similarity of family conditions often brings about similarities in vision and experience, as well as the matching of living habits.
Because no matter what the personality of the two people is, what the family situation is, the two people have the opportunity to love each other, but if you want to really live together for a lifetime, then the two people's respective living habits and personalities, character is very important. Because in the growth from childhood to adulthood, many things are doomed, and few will change because of one person and one thing, such as two people who are not suitable in the first place, then how can marriage be happy?
So when getting married, you can not consider the family conditions, you can also not consider the appearance, but the consideration must be whether the other party and yourself can be compatible. And the most important point is to have a little respect for each other in feelings and marriage, which is incomparable to many things, and it is also the most important point in marriage.
01. Don't let your husband go to work
Wang Qiang and her husband Li Xiang met when they were in college, and when the two people went to college to fall in love, Li Xiang was particularly tolerant of Wang Qiang, never minding Wang Qiang's willfulness and flying, and it was precisely because of Li Xiang's gentleness and thoughtfulness that Wang Qiang was with him for five years.
The reason why Wang Qiang will develop such a character is inseparable from Wang Qiang's excellent family conditions.
Wang Qiang's father is a businessman, and because he has a brain and ability, so the business has also done a lot in recent years, Wang Qiang's mother is also the daughter of a rich family, so when educating her daughter, it is natural to copy and paste her parents' method, and she is extremely fond of her daughter and what to give.
It is precisely because of this doting that Wang Qiang has developed a lawless personality, from childhood to adulthood, many people around him do not like such a wayward Wang Qiang, so Li wants to spoil Wang Qiang like this and tolerate Wang Qiang, so that Wang Qiang feels that he has found the true destiny.
And Wang Qiang's parents also quickly understood their daughter's idea, when the two people began to talk about marriage, they did not discuss with Li Xiang's family at all, and immediately arranged all the things to be prepared for marriage, and the only requirement for Li Xiang was to live with Wang Qiang in their home after marriage.
Although this has saved Li Xiangjia a lot of money, Li Xiangjia is a more traditional family, like this is almost equal to the way of getting into excess, but also makes Li Xiang's parents very unhappy. In the end, Li wants to choose to compromise for the feelings of the two people and persuade his parents, otherwise the marriage will definitely be opposed by Li Xiang's parents in the end.
In this way, the two people got married, and Li Xiang also became a soft rice man in someone else's mouth because of Wang Qiang.
However, Xiao Ming is naturally not a soft rice man, and to tell the truth, Li Xiang is not willing to rely on Wang Qiang's family at all, because when he was in college, Li Xiang was quite good, and after graduating from college, he also got offers from several companies.
So after getting married, in addition to living in Wang Qiang's house, everything else li wanted to win by himself, even if he gave his parents his own money every month, Li xiang did not ask Wang Qiang for a penny.
But as the work becomes busier and busier, the Wang Qiang family has an opinion, because Wang Qiang is inseparable from people around, and Wang Qiang's parents also feel that their family can provide everything for Li Want, and the only requirement is that Li wants to accompany li well and love his daughter.
Therefore, for this matter, the family quarreled for a long time, and finally under Wang Qiang's one cry, two troubles and three hangings, Li Xiang was forced to reluctantly agree to quit his job and work as a family cook at home.
02. The sense of superiority of the wife's family
Li Xiang naturally has his own ambitions and ideas, but for Li Xiang, the family is actually more important, which is why Li Xiang is willing to compromise for Wang Qiang. But in addition to this reason, in fact, there is another aspect, that is, Li Xiang and Wang Qiang's relationship at this time is still OK, even if Wang Qiang is still willful, but in the end he has not done anything excessive.
However, the husband and wife could not all lie at home waiting for Wang Qiang's parents to raise, not to mention that Wang Qiang, as an only daughter, Wang Qiang's father wanted to give all his property to his daughter.
Therefore, after Li wanted to return to the family, Wang Qiang also began to work at her father's company and slowly took over the company's affairs.
But Wang Qiang was a person who enjoyed happiness and was accustomed to enjoying it, and at first she was a little bitter and a little tired, so she couldn't help but go home and complain. Li wanted to know that Wang Qiang's days would take a long time, so he couldn't blindly follow Wang Qiang's wishes, but every time he told Wang Qiang something, Wang Qiang couldn't listen to it at all, and sometimes when he was angry, he would say that Li wanted to say a few words.
Wang Qiang's simple complaints and accusations, Li Xiang also endured, but with the passage of time a little bit, the words in Wang Qiang's mouth, from you don't understand anything, gradually became can you compare with me? What are the conditions of your family? What are the conditions of our home?
This tone was full of superiority, and this sense of superiority hit Li Xiang's self-esteem, making Li Xiang gradually unable to accept such an imbalance. But Li wanted to know Wang Qiang's personality, so after thinking about it, Li wanted to talk to his father-in-law and mother-in-law, either to let Wang Qiang be educated, or to go out to work again.
However, the answer given to Li Xiang by his father-in-law and mother-in-law made Li Xiang completely understand what kind of person he really was in their eyes.
"We don't lack anything in our family, so the only thing you have to do is to coax my daughter well, so you must also make it clear that you are only my daughter's husband in our eyes, and nothing else, and you want us to help you teach my daughter a lesson?" It's really whimsical. ”
03. Decide to divorce after thinking clearly
Li wants to tolerate Wang Qiang all the time and is willing to pay for Wang Qiang's marriage, not to covet Wang Qiang's money, because Li wants to know that Wang Qiang's parents do not look at themselves so much, and they also have the ability to support their own family, so they do not expect to get anything from this marriage.
But Li Xiang definitely did not expect that he would lose even the most basic respect and equality.
After realizing this, Li Xiang also thought of a lot of things, since she got married, she seemed to have become Wang Qiang's exclusive bodyguard, other things were not allowed to do at all, and her parents Wang Qiang never cared, as if what he did for her, even if it was to abandon her parents.
This is not Li's goal of tolerance and compromise, but Wang Qiang is obviously unwilling to change, and it is impossible to be changed. Therefore, Li Xiang was also completely disappointed, and after thinking about it for a few days, he was also determined to divorce Wang Qiang.
So on this day, after Wang Qiang returned from the company, he was preparing to complain to Li Xiang, and Li Wanted to take the lead and said to Wang Qiang, "Take advantage of your rest today and take time to divorce." ”
Wang Qiang, who was blaming Li for not preparing food for himself, panicked when he heard this sentence, but the sense of superiority that had always made Wang Qiang fail to ask why, but instead began to threaten Li Xiang, "You can't get anything from divorce, you want to understand." ”
Li wanted nothing, just wanted to get rid of this suffocating life. After understanding that Li Xiang was serious, Wang Qiang was really completely panicked, but his disrespect, the sense of superiority of their family finally forced Li Xiang away completely, even if there was more money, it was impossible to come back.
Marriage is respectful and equal, because in a marriage, the main body is husband and wife, if you want to make two people happy all the time, happy life, respect for each other is very necessary. Everyone has their own self-esteem, and if this self-esteem is always degraded, then this marriage is nothing more than a bondage for him, and no one can live on.
Wang Qiang did not understand this truth, did not understand that Li wanted to always tolerate her, indulge her, and forgive her all her misdeeds, not because of his family conditions, but because of his love for her. In the end, Wang Qiang failed to live up to this love, not only did not control her words and deeds at all, but also connived with her parents to belittle Li Xiang, and finally completely forced Li Xiang away.
The superiority of family conditions can indeed bring people some confidence and confidence, but this does not mean that he can be superior in getting along with others, especially in a marriage, the poor family conditions of the other half does not mean that he is coveting his own family property. And your own family wealth can never buy a happy marriage, so if you can't respect it and learn to understand it, then no amount of money is useless.